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Book Description

The authors of the New York Times bestseller Crucial Conversations show you how to achieve personal, team, and organizational success by healing broken promises, resolving violated expectations, and influencing bad behavior

Discover skills to resolve touchy, controversial, and complex issues at work and at home--now available in this follow-up to the internationally popular Crucial Conversations.

Behind the problems that routinely plague organizations and families, you'll find individuals who are either unwilling or unable to deal with failed promises. Others have broken rules, missed deadlines, failed to live up to commitments, or just plain behaved badly--and nobody steps up to the issue. Or they do, but do a lousy job and create a whole new set of problems. Accountability suffers and new problems spring up. New research demonstrates that these disappointments aren't just irritating, they're costly--sapping organizational performance by twenty to fifty percent and accounting for up to ninety percent of divorces.

Crucial Confrontations teaches skills drawn from 10,000 hours of real-life observations to increase confidence in facing issues like:

  • An employee speaks to you in an insulting tone that steps crosses the line between sarcasm and insubordination. Now what?

  • Your boss just committed you to a deadline you know you can't meet--and not-so-subtly hinted he doesn't want to hear complaints about it.

  • Your son walks through the door sporting colorful new body art that raises your blood pressure by forty points. Speak now, pay later.

  • An accountant wonders how to step up to a client who is violating the law. Can you spell unemployment?

  • Family members fret over how to tell granddad that he should no longer drive his car. This is going to get ugly.

  • A nurse worries about what to say to an abusive physician. She quickly remembers "how things work around here" and decides not to say anything.

  • Everyone knows how to run for cover, or if adequately provoked, step up to these confrontations in a way that causes a real ruckus. That we have down pat. Crucial Confrontations teaches you how to deal with violated expectations in a way that solves the problem at hand, and doesn't harm the relationship--and in fact, even strengthens it.

    Crucial Confrontations borrows from twenty years of research involving two groups. More than 25,000 people helped the authors identify those who were most influential during crucial confrontations. They spent 10,000 hours watching these people, documented what they saw, and then trained and tested with more than 300,000 people. Second, they measured the impact of crucial confrontations improvements on organizational and team performance--the results were immediate and sustainable: twenty to fifty percent improvements in measurable performance.

    Table of Contents

    1. Cover Page
    2. Crucial Confrontations
    3. Copyright Page
    4. Contents
    5. Foreword
    6. Preface
    7. Acknowledgments
    8. Introduction: What’s a Crucial Confrontation? And Who Cares?
    9. Part One: Work on Me First What to Do before a Crucial Confrontation
      1. Ch. 1: Choose What and If How to Know What Crucial Confrontation to Hold and If You Should Hold It
      2. Ch. 2: Master My Stories How to Get Your Head Right before Opening Your Mouth
    10. Part Two: Confront with Safety What to Do during a Crucial Confrontation
      1. Ch. 3: Describe the Gap How to Start a Crucial Confrontation
      2. Ch. 4: Make It Motivating How to Help Others Want to Take Action
      3. Ch. 5: Make It Easy How to Make Keeping Commitments (Almost) Painless
      4. Ch. 6: Stay Focused and Flexible What to Do When Others Get Sidetracked, Scream, or Sulk
    11. Part Three: Move to Action What to Do after a Crucial Confrontation
      1. Ch. 7: Agree on a Plan and Follow Up How to Gain Commitment and Move to Action
      2. Ch. 8: Put It All Together How to Solve Big, Sticky, Complicated Problems
      3. Ch. 9: The Twelve “Yeah-Buts” How to Deal with the Truly Tough
    12. Appendix A: Where Do You Stand? A Self-Assessment for Measuring Your Crucial Confrontation Skills
    13. Appendix B: Six-Source Diagnostic Questions The Six-Source Model
    14. Appendix C: When Things Go Right
    15. Appendix D: Discussion Questions for Reading Groups
    16. Notes
    17. Index
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