NOTES

PREFACE

1. American Religious Identification Survey 2008, http://commons.trincoll.edu/aris/files/2011/08/ARIS_Report_2008.pdf; Pew Center Religious Landscape Survey 2015, www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/11/03/5-key-findings-about-religiosity-in-the-u-s-and-how-its-changing/.

Chapter 1: Personal Reflections

INTRODUCTION

1. Richard Dawkins, “Religion’s Misguided Missiles,” Guardian, September 15, 2001.

Excerpt from the Autobiography of Bertrand Russell

1. Russell, Bertrand. The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell. Abington (UK): Routledge Edition (2009).

Raised Without Religion

1. All quotes from personal correspondence of the author.

Authentic Secular Parenting: Letting Children Choose

1. Summary at “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” Pew Research Center, May 12, 2015, www.pewforum.org/2015/05/12/americas-changing-religious-landscape/.

Chapter 2: Living with Religion

INTRODUCING KIDS TO THINGS WE DON’T BELIEVE

1. Hirsch, E.D. The New Dictionary of Cultural Literacy: What Every American Needs to Know. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt (2002).

2. “Religion in the Public School Curriculum: Questions and Answers.” In Journal of Law and Religion, Vol. 8, No. 1/2 (1990), pp. 309–312.

3. Esther Boyd, “Religious Literacy: Knowledge vs. Understanding,” State of Formation, June 4, 2014, www.stateofformation.org/2014/06/religious-literacy-knowledge-vs-understanding/.

Parenting Across the Belief Gap

1. Quoted in Fishblatt, E.N. (1880), “Maladies Involving the Genital Functions,” in New York Medical and Surgical Journal (later Northwestern Medical Journal), v. 6, 525.

2. American Academy of Pediatrics Task Force on Circumcision, “Circumcision Policy Statement,” Pediatrics 103, no. 3 (March 1999): 686–693, pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/103/3/686. full; American Academy of Family Physicians, “Neonatal Circumcision,” www.aafp.org/patient-care/clinical-recommendations/all/circumcision.html; Douglas Gairdner, “The Fate of the Foreskin: A Study of Circumcision,” British Medical Journal 2 (1949): 1433–1437, http://www.cirp.org/library/general/gairdner/.

3. Book of Common Prayer, 298.

4. Book of Occasional Services (2003), 159.

5. Website of the Episcopal Diocese of New York, “Concerning Baptism,” http://www.dioceseny.org/administration/for-clergy/liturgical-and-sacramental/concerning-baptism/.

6. Rabbi Joshua M. Davidson, letter to the editor, New York Times, Nov. 6, 2013, A28.

7. Summary available online at http://www.pewforum.org/files/2008/06/report2religious-landscape-study-key-findings.pdf.

8. Sutrakritinga; Wisdom of the Living Religions #69, 1:2:33.

9. Udanavarga 5,18.

10. Plato, Crito (49c).

11. Mahabharata 5,1517.

12. Confucius, Analects 15, 23.

13. Matthew 7:12.

14. Talmud, Shabbat 3id.

15. Azizullah, Hadith 150.

16. T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien.

17. Baha’u’llah, Gleanings, 66:8.

18. The Wiccan Rede.

19. Quoted in Beth Pearson, “The Art of Creating Ethics Man,” Herald (Scotland), January 23, 2006.

Choosing Your Battles

1. Staver, Matthew. “Bringing Good News to Public Schools,” National Liberty Journal Online. Sept 2005. Cited at http://www.jewsonfirst.org/06d/goodnewsclubs01.html.

Secular Schooling

1. Madison, James. Memorial and Remonstrance Against Religious Assessments, June 1785. Available online at http://founders.archives.gov/documents/Madison/01-08-02-0163.

Chapter 3: Holidays and Celebrations

Put the Claus Away

1. Bettelheim, B. “Dialogue with mothers.” Ladies Home Journal. 1971; 88:14.

2. Quoted in Turner, Francis, Encyclopedia of Canadian Social Work. Waterloo ON: Wilfrid Laurier Univ. Press (2009) 66.

3. Richardson, J.G., and Simpson, C.H. “Children, Gender, and Social Structure: An Analysis of the Contents of Letters to Santa Claus.” Child Development Vol. 53, 429–436 (1982).

Chapter 4: On Being and Doing Good

INTRODUCTION

1. Quoted in Cohen, Richard, “The Purported Power of Prayer,” Washington Post, June 3, 1999. Available online at https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/opinions/1999/06/03/the-purported-power-of-prayer/d46d4888-f91e4911-b2bf-9f0a875d8487/.

2. Pearson, “Art of Creating Ethics Man.”

3. Grusec, JE and Goodnow, Jacqueline J. “Impact of parental discipline methods on the child’s internalization of values: A reconceptualization of current points of view.” Developmental Psychology, Vol 30(1), Jan 1994, 4–19.

4. Oliner, Samuel and Pearl. The Altruistic Personality. New York: Touchstone Books (1992).

5. Pearson, “Art of Creating Ethics Man.”

6. Fehr, Ernst, et al. “Egalitarianism in young children.” Nature 454, 1079–1083 (28 August 2008).

Spare the Rod—and Spare Me the Rest

1. James Dobson, The New Dare to Discipline (Carol Stream IL, Tyndale Momentum, 2014), 21, 35, 36, 64, 65, 66, 70.

2. Gershoff, ET. “Corporal Punishment by Parents and Associated Child Behaviors and Experiences: A Meta-Analytic and Theoretical Review.” Psychological Bulletin (2002), Vol. 128, No. 4, 539–579.

3. Gershoff, Elizabeth T., and Grogan-Kaylor, Andrew. “Spanking and child outcomes: Old controversies and new meta-analyses.” Journal of Family Psychology, Vol 30(4), Jun 2016, 453–469.

Behaving Yourself: Moral Development in the Secular Family

1. Austin Dacey, “Believing in Doubt,” New York Times, Feb. 3, 2006, A23.

2. L. Kohlberg, C. Levine, and A. Hewer, Moral Stages: A Current Formulation and a Response to Critics (Basel, Switzerland: Karger, 1983).

3. R. Dobert and G. Nunner-Winkler, “Interplay of Formal and Material Role-Taking in the Understanding of Suicide Among Adolescents and Young Adults. 1. Formal and Material Role-Taking,” Human Development 28, no. 5 (1985): 225–239.

4. S. Baron-Cohen, “From Attention-Goal Psychology to Belief-Desire Psychology: The Development of a Theory of Mind, and Its Dysfunction,” in S. Baron-Cohen, H. Tager-Flusberg, and D. Cohen, eds., Understanding Other Minds (New York: Oxford University Press, 1993), 59–82.

5. Ibid.

6. M. Lewis, Shame: The Exposed Self (New York: Free Press, 1992).

7. J. Grusec and J. Goodnow, “Impact of Parent Discipline Methods on the Child’s Internalization of Values: A Reconceptualization of Current Points of View,” Developmental Psychology 30 (1994): 4–19; G. Kochanska, “Beyond Cognition: Expanding the Search for the Early Roots of Internalization and Conscience,” Developmental Psychology 30 (1994): 20–22.

8. K. Aunola and J.-E. Nurmi, “The Role of Parenting Styles in Children’s Problem Behavior,” Child Development 76, no. 6 (2005): 1144–1159.

9. G. Ezzo and R. Bucknam, On Becoming Babywise (Sisters, OR: Multnomah Books, 1995).

Take Two Tablets and Call Me in the Morning

1. Harburg, Yipsel. Rhymes for the Irreverent. Madison WI: Freedom From Religion Foundation (2006).

Chapter 5: Death and Consolation

INTRODUCTION

1. From the collected letters and diary of Thomas Henry Huxley, entry for 23 Sept 1860. Available online at http://aleph0.clarku.edu/huxley/letters/60.html.

Helping Your Child Live with Grief Without Religion

1. Donna M. Burns, When Kids Are Grieving: Addressing Grief and Loss in School (Thousand Oaks, CA: Corwin, 2010).

2. J. W. Worden, Ph.D., “Talking to Your Child About the Loss of a Loved One, Part 1,” PsychCentral.com, accessed February 25, 2016, psychcentral.com/library/child_death.htm.

3. Barbara Coloroso, Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief, and Change (New York: HarperCollins, 2000).

4. Alan Wolfelt, Healing the Bereaved Child: Grief Gardening, Growth Through Grief, and Other Touchstones for Caregivers (Ft. Collins, CO: Companion Press, 1996).

5. George A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss (New York: Basic Books, 2009).

Chapter 6: Wondering and Questioning

INTRODUCTION

1. William O’Grady, How Children Learn Language (London: Cambridge University Press, 2005).

2. Dawkins, Richard. Unweaving the Rainbow: Science, Delusion, and the Appetite for Wonder (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2000), 142–3.

Parenting and the Arts

1. Miller, Arthur. Collected Plays (Viking Press, 1957), Introduction.

2. Carter, Angela. The Bloody Chamber (New York: Penguin, 1990), Introduction.

3. Hutton, Will. “Boys Today? We’re Doing Their Heads In.” The Guardian, 3 June 2006.

4. Auden, W.H. “Leap Before You Look.” In Collected Poems: Auden (New York: Vintage, 1991).

5. Thoreau, Henry David. Excerpt from Walden, in Walden and Civil Disobedience (New York: Penguin Classics, 1983), 85.

Chapter 7: Community and Identity

INTRODUCTION

1. Available online at http://www.noves.org/article/17/about-noves/what-we-are/statement-of-purpose.

2. Lim, Chaeyoon, quoted in Pappas, Stephanie, “Why Religion Makes People Happier (Hint: Not God).” LiveScience, Dec 6, 2010. Available online at http://www.livescience.com/9090-religion-people-happier-hint-god.html.

Summer Camp Beyond Belief

1. Camp Quest, www.camp-quest.org.

2. Douglas Belkin, “Cutting Ties That Digitally Bind,” Boston Globe, August 18, 2006.

3. American Camp Association, “Directions: Youth Development Outcomes of the Camp Experience,” 2005, www.acacamps.org/resource-library/research/directions-youth-development-outcomes-camp-experience

4. Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., “What’s So Great About Summer Camp?”, PsychCentral.com, www.psychcentral.com/library/id211.html.

5. Ruth Marcus, “Camping Alone; Ready for S’More Networking Billy?” Washington Post, July 19, 2006.

6. Douglas Belkin, “Cutting Ties That Digitally Bind,” Boston Globe, August 18, 2006.