THE TERM RHETORIC COMES from ancient Greek and translates as “the art of speaking.” The task of rhetoric is to convince the listener of a statement or to persuade him to take a certain action. It aims to provide the means necessary to establish a common ground and find out differences between speaker and listener.
Rhetoric is essentially about the “how!” How do I affect others, and how can I influence others through language? The extent to which influencing can be manipulation will not be discussed further, especially since it is an ethical question. With a knife you can kill a person or cut something. The same is figuratively true of rhetoric. How someone uses rhetoric is their ethical responsibility: Do they want to manipulate or influence people? Manipulating people, as I understand it, is covertly influencing people to their detriment. I distinguish rhetoric with the goal of positively influencing a person to their advantage through open communication from manipulation.
In rhetoric, the words do not always play the decisive role. A person's voice and body language frequently determine whether or not someone comes across as convincing. This is true both professionally and privately. Professionals want to convince their clients and employees. And in their private lives they also want to convince their partners, children, and friends. In this sense, rhetoric is a valuable tool for marketing, especially for how the professional sells themselves to clients and how they sell their company.
This requires a personality that inspires trust. Only those who win the trust of others will be convincing. They will be able to influence others and motivate them to follow their recommendations. Employees will also only follow a professional if they trust them and if they are convincing. Therefore, the tool of rhetoric is an important instrument for the successful mastering of the professional's tasks.
Researcher Albert Mehrabian, from the University of California at Los Angeles, conducted a study in the early 1970s to examine the impact factors of people. He was often quoted as saying that the impact of people would depend 93% on a person's voice and body language, and only 7% on the content of their words. Many have called this Mehrabian's 55‐38‐7 rule because supposedly the greater influence would come from 55% body language, and 38% voice, totaling 93%. Therefore, content would be comparatively insignificant. Mehrabian subsequently clarified in several interviews that his study was often misinterpreted. He did not mean to say that only 7% of a message is conveyed via the content, for example, the spoken words. For a professional it would also be fatal, since they “sell” their expertise to their customers after all, and the content of their statements is often also of great importance.
Regardless of the “correct” influence ratio of content, voice, and body language in rhetoric, every professional who has been part of an audience as a listener will confirm that a speaker with a boring voice and body language tends to have a soporific effect and it is difficult to listen to such a speaker in a concentrated manner.
In addition, unfortunately, few speakers have been trained in how people process information. Many teachers still do not know that pupils and students perceive information essentially through three sensory channels:
The sensory channels olfactory (smell) and gustatory (taste) usually play no role in speech or conversation. For most people, one sensory channel is dominant, which is predominantly visual. Intuitively, many teachers seem to realize that things written on the blackboard or thrown on the wall by flipchart or beamer are better remembered than just the spoken word. However, the speaker's choice of words also plays a crucial role.
A person who mostly processes information visually also uses images and visual expressions in their language and should receive information from speakers and interlocutors with the following expressions: “see, look, gaze, observe, eyeball, peek, shine, seem, visible, manageable, apparent, bright, dark, be far‐sighted, overview, have a view, gain clarity, demand clarification, see in the light, illuminate/illuminate an issue, sham argument, transparent argument, clear layout of space, dark figures, opaque personality, unmistakable, be lenient, be cautious, be foresighted, have an overview, have charisma, provide insight, be insightful, shadow someone, have good powers of observation.”
People who take in information primarily auditorily often use the following expressions and should have messages conveyed equally auditorily: “Loud, soft, that sounds good, being deaf to the ears, racket, trampy, rumbling, rattling, musical, unmistakable, dribbling, pounding, shrill, bleeping, dark, harsh, whimpering, screeching, snapping, hoarse, rasping, not being at a loss for words, not listening to others, deafening, hearing a pin drop, being in tune, having one's peace, being left alone, hearing the angels sing, sweet‐talking, clucking like a chicken, it clicked, hearing the grass grow, mute as a fish, enduring silence.”
For kinesthetic people, language addresses feelings. Terms used by people who process information predominantly kinesthetically: “floating in seventh heaven, falling on the ground, falling into a hole, floating above the ground, letting oneself fall, standing with both feet on the ground, feeling secure, the cold comes up in me, goose bumps run down my back, I feel elated, my heart beats with joy in my body, my heart beats up to my neck, my heart aches, my blood rushes through my veins, my stomach tightens, is doing summersaults, I feel dizzy, my ears buzz, my hands tingle, I break out in a sweat, my limbs shake, my heart laughs.”
Knowing how people process information is equally important in speeches and in speaking with clients and employees. With clients and employees, a professional can specifically address the dominant sensory channel of their interlocutor by deliberately addressing the respective dominant sensory channel in the conversation. This is not possible in speeches to larger audiences, where it is important to address all sensory channels alternately in one presentation. The visual sensory channel is the most important because it is the dominant one for most people.
When a professional gives a speech or conducts a client or employee interview, they want the full attention of their counterpart. However, knowledge of how people process information is only the starting point for a good rhetorician. It is necessary to strengthen the persuasive power of a professional through effective rhetoric. This is done through training on three levels, as Figure 15.1 shows.
A professional learns to speak only by speaking. Many believe that they can speak just because many people listen to them. Bad examples of this are often politicians. Politicians often have the opportunity to speak in public. And just because they have the opportunity to speak in public, quite a few of them believe that they are particularly good speakers.
Professionals who have grown up in a rhetorically strong environment usually have an easier time with rhetoric. They were fortunate to have positive role models in childhood and adolescence and are usually more rhetorically adept than professionals who had less rhetorically strong parents or a rhetorically strong environment. The starting point of any rhetoric training should be voice training.
The first level is voice training. Nikolaus B. Enkelmann said, “Whoever works on the voice works on the core of his personality.” Voice and speech are very closely related to your overall personality. The voice gives information and conclusions about your personality. We reveal ourselves through our voice. It relentlessly reveals our actual state of mind, our actual condition, our fears, our joy, and in the broadest sense, our mental state. We can smile at someone when we feel like crying. We can look petrified and not make a face when someone offends us. However, when we open our mouths, our actual attitude and condition can be heard in the tone of our voice.
When a professional suffers from anxiety, stress, or feelings of inferiority, this will often manifest in corresponding blockages of the voice. If you are internally agitated, then your voice will habitually react to this. Especially in critical client or employee meetings, when you do not want your counterpart to have insight into your emotional state, your voice will reveal this. Conversely, your conversation partners recognize your strength and self‐esteem when your voice unfolds freely and according to its nature in your body and to the outside world. For this reason, voice training is always personality training. No “voice can be formed” and no rhetoric can be trained without you as a person also maturing inwardly. The work on your voice, the development and unfolding of your own voice potential always goes hand in hand with mental, physical, and spiritual development and unfolding. For this reason, speech exercises go hand in hand with the expansion of your own expressiveness.
Your voice is as unique as your fingerprint. Your presentation slides can be copied, and even your documents can be used by others. Your voice, on the other hand, is yours alone. It cannot be copied. Your voice and your way of speaking are always individual. With your voice you always give your presentation your very own style. It expresses your personality. The word “personality” comes from the Latin root “personare,” which translates as to resound, to resound loudly, to let one's voice resound. Accordingly, your counterpart usually infers your personality from the sound of your voice. In addition, many people associate some character traits with certain vocal qualities. If your outward appearance does not match your acoustics, then you have a competence problem in other people's perception. And competence problems are not something a professional can afford.
The important thing, therefore, is how your voice is perceived. Have you ever recorded your voice with your smartphone and listened to it? Many people are surprised when they first hear their recorded voice. As stated before, people associate certain character traits with certain voices. For example, if someone speaks quite slowly and deliberately and makes long pauses, many people feel that such a person has no life temperament and fire. Often such a person is called “lame.” In a conversation, the voice decides within a few seconds whether and how we reach the other person … what mood, what tone, what echo we achieve.
Research results often show that people prefer hearing speakers with a warm and deep voice rather than those with a high, gushing voice. Low voices often enjoy an advantage of trust and are classified as competent, self‐confident, and credible. In movies, for example, Santa Claus or other authoritarian figures usually have dark and sonorous voices. These voices are considered a mark of wisdom and power. Shrill squeaky voices, on the other hand, trigger unpleasant feelings in the other person. A lifeless and weak voice acts as a soporific. A professional will not radiate strong conviction and high competence if their voice is weak and thin. In this case, their listeners think that the professional must be quite indifferent to the subject and lacks qualifications.
The good news at this point is that your voice is changeable. Anyone familiar with “My Fair Lady” knows what Professor Higgins said, “When you give a person a new voice, you give them a new character.” Voice training with simple and regular exercises can have a significant positive impact on voice development in a short period of time. The focus here is on improving breathing technique with the aim of obtaining a pleasant, confident, and convincing voice. The starting point is abdominal breathing. Psychogenic breathing and voice training was discussed in Chapter 14, Mental Training. The following voice exercise to improve your voice quality comes from Enkelmann and his audio file “A positive day begins.”
After three months of practice, note what has changed in your voice and to what degree:
If you want to combine voice training with mental training, I recommend the following autosuggestion by Nikolaus B. Enkelmann:
“I am determined to seize the opportunities in my life.
If you want to be successful, you have to be articulate in speaking and absolutely confident in the tone of your voice.
I know that inner confidence is crucial to the power of speech.
It is a question of confidence in one's own power. I can be secure in speaking only when I am secure inwardly. I am secure, completely confident, and free of all inhibitions!”
Breathing and voice training is the basis for successful conversations.
For professionals, conversations with the following groups of people are to be distinguished:
In both cases, the successful conduct of conversations is important for professional success. For a successful private life, conversations with your life partner, family, and friends are crucial. Words can motivate or demotivate. Words can help achieve goals or miss them. Words can convince clients and employees, inspire them, or lead to the loss of the client relationship or the employee. Words can unite or divide people. Words can inspire employees to extraordinary performance or be the seed of failure. However, communication does not only consist of words. Silence, body language, action, or inaction also have a communicative character. Effective communication is particularly important when people want to achieve goals. Be it professionally or privately. But how does one communicate effectively? The focus of a successful conversation is on effective communication between people.
Effective communication is understood as communication that leads to a specific goal. This includes not only the acquisition or employee interview, but also small talk, which usually aims to establish a relationship between the interlocutors. In communication psychology, a distinction is made between the content or subject level and the relationship level (see Figure 15.2).
On the content level or subject level, “objectively” verifiable facts of rational content such as dates, length of employment, etc., are communicated. On the content level, the emotional interplay of the communication partners – in contrast to the relationship level – is left out. In psychology, the relationship level is the quality of interpersonal cooperation in the sense of intuitive, emotional, and social inner connectedness that helps people feel connected outside of the content level. First of all, it is important to recognize that communication takes place on both a content and a relationship level. By far the greater proportion in communication occurs unconsciously at the relationship level. Those who believe that they are communicating exclusively verbally fail to realize that the person they are talking to also perceives body language, including the voice, both consciously and unconsciously. The saying goes, “It's not what you say, but how you say it.”
Someone who has an image of humanity that is characterized by respect, tolerance, and acceptance will approach their interlocutor differently than someone who feels superior to them. Arrogance kills any communication. Those who believe that the listener does not perceive whether respect is being shown to them are mistaken. People who want to gain trust should be authentic. Authentic people are truthful and honest. They are who they are. It doesn't matter whether they are in a meeting with a client, giving a presentation, in an appraisal or job interview, or in their private lives.
An important principle of effective communication in conversation is goal or result orientation rather than problem orientation. The right questions help to prepare focused conversations. Anyone who answers the following questions in writing before an interview with (potential) clients or (potential) employees will have made a significant contribution to effective and efficient conversation.
At the end of a conversation, the main results should be summarized, in business in writing, if possible.
Even Henry Ford said, “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.” Communication psychologists today would refer to this as a person's ability to be empathic. Empathy is the term used to describe a person's ability to grasp another person from the outside as holistically as possible, to understand their feelings but without necessarily sharing them, and thus to be clear about their understanding and actions (cf. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy). One could also formulate it colloquially: Understanding the world of the other! Empathy is the key to success. If you can establish a relationship with your interlocutor, you will win the other person's sympathy. This also means taking an honest interest in the other person. Empathy is a central characteristic of people who can create a so‐called win‐win situation during a conversation.
The core element of a win‐win conversation strategy is addressing the interests of the other person. The result of this is that the partners conduct a discussion on the factual level and do not get caught up in their fears and anxieties or mutual slights and recriminations. Points must be found, which are to the advantage of both discussion partners. Those who are only concerned with asserting their own interests, who only see their own advantages, should not be surprised if no agreement is found at the end of a conversation. A central element of a successful win‐win strategy is being able to create a “we” feeling. In the end, both parties must find themselves in the points that have been agreed upon.
Who doesn't know people who see everything negatively? The corners of the mouths of these contemporaries are usually turned down. Smiling and laughing are often foreign to these people. The most prominent characteristic of these people is criticism. Not positive or constructive criticism, but negative criticism. This negative mindset shows itself in negative language. Negative language does not lead to effective communication. Positive language is an important principle for effective communication. Criticism should be constructive and forward‐looking. Many people can spend hours discussing mistakes or negative events in the past. However, it is crucial to remember that mistakes or negative events in the past are clues for improvement in the future. A person who has made a mistake does not want to have this mistake pointed out to them constantly by their interlocutor. They know that they have done something wrong. Constructive criticism is therefore expressed by the interlocutors talking about how mistakes can be avoided in the future and what exactly needs to be done to achieve the desired result in the future. But what distinguishes exceptionally good communicators who have successes in conversations?
You are particularly good at listening! Listening is the central task and characteristic of a professional who can communicate exceptionally well with others. Those who do not listen will hardly be able to find out the interests of the other person. Those who listen carefully will find the “win points” of the interlocutor, which are so important for the success of the conversation. But how can you learn to become a better listener? By practicing what is known as “active listening” during a conversation. A person who listens actively is able to reproduce what the conversation partner has said in their own words. If you then ask your conversation partner whether they have understood you correctly and wait for a positive confirmation, you can be sure that the other person feels understood.
Some important characteristics and tasks of effective communicators have already been presented. The five steps shown in Figure 15.3 serve as a guideline for professionals who want to communicate particularly effectively and efficiently.
If you now listen carefully and really know all the points that lead to the agreement of your discussion partner, then it is only a matter of checking whether you can or want to fulfill these points. If so, you have achieved the goal of the conversation.
Those who communicate effectively and efficiently use figurative language and get to the point. This includes simple, clear, understandable, and concise language. Anyone who thinks in a complicated way usually also expresses himself in a complicated way. If you use a lot of foreign words and technical terms in conversations that your interlocutor doesn't know, you shouldn't be surprised if you are not understood. So, if you want to be understood, you should speak the language of your conversation partner. And this does not only apply to conversations abroad.
Most of us have had situations in our professional or private lives where a quick‐witted answer was not immediately obvious and then, in retrospect, we suddenly think of the sentences and questions we should have said. Training to improve conversational skills also includes training to increase repartee. Quick‐wittedness helps to bring critical conversation situations or negotiations to a successful conclusion. Matthias Pöhm focused on the topic of repartee as a rhetoric trainer in the 1990s. In his book, “Das NonPlusUltra der Schlagfertigkeit: Die besten Techniken aller Zeiten” (The NonPlusUltra of repartee: The best techniques of all time), he distinguishes between three areas of repartee:
In the reply skill, a verbal attack is followed by a hidden counterattack. We make witty remarks about statements or in situations. When a person succeeds in selling themselves confidently in a negotiation, meeting, or discussion, we also perceive that person as quick‐witted and Pöhm calls this discussion skill. This is the most important type of repartee for professionals. In his book, Pöhm shows a variety of techniques that help a professional become more quick‐witted and successful in conversation with others, both in their professional and personal lives. First, he sets up four simple rules of repartee, equating repartee with aplomb:
In order for your answer to appear confident, you should speak loudly, hold yourself upright, look intensively at your counterpart, and immediately pull your gaze away after your answer. However, this only applies to conversational situations in which you are replying to attacks and several other participants in the conversation are present.
Much more frequently, however, there are individual conversational situations for professionals vis‐à‐vis clients and employees in which you want to convince the other person for a certain cause. This can be acquisition talks with clients and employees or talks where you want to inspire and convince a client or employee for something else. In the following, I have transferred selected techniques from Matthias Pöhm to typical conversation situations of professionals, which you can use for a successful and quick‐witted conversation. Figure 15.4 shows an overview of possible techniques:
These techniques are intended to contribute to effective communication, where effective is synonymous with successful in the sense of results‐oriented conversation. Training to improve conversational skills is not only important in everyday professional life. Think of the many conversational situations with your life partner, children, friends, and generally in everyday life. The right words and questions are critical to the outcome of a conversation. A good technique to motivate children is the so‐called alternative question. You give certain alternatives that always lead to the same result. For example, if you want your child to go to bed at night, but the child still wants to play, ask the following question: “Do you still want to play with X or with Y before you go to bed?” In both cases, it's off to bed for the child afterwards. The same works if you want to go out to eat at a restaurant with your life partner. “Would you like to have dinner with me tonight in an Italian or a Korean restaurant?” In both cases, you will go to a restaurant and the goal of going out with your partner is achieved.
You can, of course, use the alternative question in professional situations. You want the client to place an order in any case. For example, it could be about a business valuation. Depending on the scope of services, the fees vary. For example, a full expert opinion is more expensive than a short opinion on so‐called indicative values. In this case, the alternative question would be as follows: “Do you want to commission a full expert opinion or is a rough estimate of the enterprise value on an indicative basis also sufficient?” The answer to this question is an engagement in either case. Only the scope of services varies.
I got to know the technique of the alternative question during my studies. My girlfriend at the time worked as a manager in a hotel bar. Since she received more tips with larger turnovers, I suggested that she ask her guests “Would you like another glass of beer or might it be a whisky this time?” when their glasses were empty. She varied the technique with any type of drinks. In each case, the outcome was already decided beforehand. The guests ordered one more time. Her tip and income increased substantially thanks to the technique of the alternative question. You might want to pay attention to this when you next visit a restaurant or bar. Most waiters simply ask if they can bring something else. You can answer with yes or no. A clumsy question if you want to sell something.
The third level concerns speech training in the true sense. Experienced speakers know that you only learn to speak by speaking. The well‐known sports motto “practice makes perfect” also applies here. A good rhetoric training course therefore gives participants sufficient opportunity to improve their speaking technique through practical exercises in the seminar, in addition to voice training and training in conversational skills.
Successful managers and entrepreneurs have above‐average rhetorical skills. In a few rare cases, these skills have been unconsciously adopted by excellent rhetoricians through positive imitation; in most cases, continuous and regular rhetoric training is behind them. A positive side effect of rhetoric training on these three levels is that you learn to structure your thoughts more clearly and better. For unclear thinking produces unclear speaking and is usually a defining cause for poor results.
Nowadays, PowerPoint slides are habitually used by presenters in business meetings, trainings, and speeches. Many companies have established precise rules on how the slides must be formatted. Meticulous care is taken to ensure that the logo is in the right place and that the font size corresponds exactly to the company's internal specifications. The focus of the presentation is the optimized slide and not the speaker. The occasions for presentations based on PowerPoint slides are manifold for professionals. These include, among others:
The crucial question in connection with whether a speaker should use PowerPoint for these presentation occasions is: What function should the PowerPoint slides have? For example, anyone who wants to provide information about their business valuation results during a valuation project will find: Shortly after the PowerPoint slide set is distributed as a so‐called “hand‐out,” participants will flip through the printout and immediately focus on the assessment results. By then, most professionals will not succeed in having the participants listen attentively slide by slide to what the presenter has to say.
On the other hand, anyone who specifically uses PowerPoint as part of an order acquisition process to explain in detail their company, its services, and the reasons why the company's services are better than those of its competitors should not be surprised if they do not win the mandate. After all, in this case, the presenter has deflected attention from themselves to the company and thus, failed to recognize that they are the decisive person for winning the assignment and that the company presented on the slides is often only secondary.
It is the same with presentations, speeches, and staff meetings. In these cases, the aim is to motivate, inform, and ultimately initiate behavioral changes or activities on a regular basis. Effective presentations that achieve the desired goals often succeed better without PowerPoint in these cases.
It is not intended at this point to create the false impression that I am against PowerPoint on principle. I only want to sensitize that PowerPoint often does not lead to the desired result of a presentation. Since you probably haven't experienced a presentation that wasn't supported by PowerPoint for a long time, for years this has led to a certain herd instinct among all professionals. Everybody uses PowerPoint; therefore, PowerPoint is state‐of‐the‐art, and I also use it for presentations. But not always! I am more interested in using PowerPoint correctly.
But how can you recognize an effective presentation? First of all, it is useful to examine the essential characteristics and features of an effective presentation and of the speaker. These include:
Overall, effective presentations depend on a multitude of individual characters and characteristics. I repeat: In the end, you only learn to speak by speaking. Practice makes perfect. Video recordings and feedback from trainers with proven speaking experience can help. However, if you consider the following points in your speeches and presentations, you will quickly achieve much more impact in your presentations than in the past.
Figure 15.5 shows the seven steps that lead to effective presentations.
Follow these seven steps for effective presentations. PowerPoint is not the focus here. Should you now ban PowerPoint from presentations as a matter of principle? No! Of course, PowerPoint has its right to exist. Especially when it comes to creating “hand‐outs” for example, to document project results, final presentations, or training documents. But if you want to present effectively, you should pay attention to completely different things than optimized PowerPoint slides. Anyone who makes PowerPoint slides the focus of their presentation is consciously or unconsciously distracting themselves. You often achieve a higher degree of effectiveness without PowerPoint. The targeted use of a flipchart or a drawing on a tablet generates much more attention than a perfectly formatted PowerPoint slide.
TABLE 15.1 Orientation guide for the use of PowerPoint
Occasion | yes | maybe | no |
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Order acquisitions | X | ||
Results presentations for consulting projects or final presentations | X | ||
Trainings | X | ||
Motivational speeches | X | ||
Speeches | X | ||
Staff meetings | X | ||
Advisory board and supervisory board meetings | X |
Table 15.1 can serve as a guide for the use of PowerPoint.This table is certainly not to be understood dogmatically but should serve as a guide. In the future, check carefully on when and how you use PowerPoint slides. In this context, I would also like to point out how participants of presentations usually perceive information.
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