INDEX
Page numbers followed by f refer to figures.
A Course in Miracles (ACIM), xvii, xxii, 17, 25–27, 29–30, 52, 72, 73, 77, 97, 104, 108, 110, 113, 121, 128, 155, 163, 175
Adelaja, Sunday, 83
Adler, Alfred, 19
Affirmations, 176
Affluence, illusion of, 47
Affluent, 10
Al-Anon, xix
Albright, Madeleine, 170
Algoe, Kathleen, 167
Allen, Robert G., 50
Allen, Woody, 87
Altar of Truth, 113
Altered Traits (Goleman), 182
Aman, Jodi, 86
American Lung Association, 172
“Amrita,” 161–163
Amygdala, 182
Anderson, Adam, 47
Anger:
accepting, 142–143
repressed, 142
using, to tame anxiety, 124–125
Angry Letter (Rewire in Action exercise), 143–144
Annie Hall (movie), 87
Anxiety:
and Respond Differently, 118
from submerging emotions, 32
tips for taming, 123–126
Aristotle, 169
Arnott, Robert, 55
Arthur Bryant’s, xii
Asking yourself questions, 110–111
Asset classes:
creating wealth through, 11
subclasses of, 64
types of, 51
Astor, Jacob, 5
Atkinson, Adele, 36
Attention:
paying, to the positive, 94–96
and perception of world, 100–101
Attraction, Law of, 134
Augustine, Saint, 5
Aurelius, Marcus, 29
Automatic savings, 48
Avoidance:
and anxiety, 123–124
through Serial Seminar Addiction, 164
Bad habits:
breaking, 8–16
development of, 5–7
and recognizing foolish financial choices, 3–5
and wealth, 7–8
Badenoch, Bonnie, 166
Bandura, Albert, 36
Beck, Martha, 161
Beckwith, Michael, 8
Begley, Sharon, 20
Bennett, Arnold, 139
Bensley, Jessica, 88
Benson, Tracy, 121–126
Bernock, Danielle, 75
Bhajan, Yogi, 185
Biller, Marga, 72
Blame your brain (Phase 4 of Recognize), 92
Bloch, Richard, xiii
The Body Keeps the Score (van der Kolk), 31–32
Bogle, Jack, 66
Bohm, David, 25
Bowlby, John, 20
Brain:
and brain lock, 106
evolution of the, 21–23
financial information processed by, xxiv
impact of language on, 174–176
and inner child, 154–155
logical, 76
and meditation, 182
mind vs., 17–19
and positive reinforcement, 183–184
rational, 102
reptilian, 22
and resistance, 132
and Rewire Response premises, 73–76
and risks, 56
and saving, 47
stress impacting the, 181
tendecy of, to notice negativity, 84
visualizations impact on, 179
The Brain (Eagleman), 89
Brain lock, 106
The Brain That Changes Itself (Doidge), 14
Brainstem, 22
Breaking bad habits, 3–16
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself (Dispenza), 128
Breathing, deep, 123
Brown, Ali, 118
Brown, Dean, 102
Brownn, Eleanor, 116
Bryan, William Jennings, 189
Buddha, 131
Buddha’s Brain (Hanson), 19, 101
Burke, Athena, 93
Bush, Sopia, 183
Campbell, Kim Ha, 159
The Career Finder (Rewire in Action exercise), 147
The Career Management Center, xiv
“Carmela,” 185–187
Cash or cash equivalents, 51
Cause and effect, law of, 25–28
Celebrating:
“Carmela’s” story of, 186
to respond Differently, 183–184
Center for Healing Shame, 32, 33
Chan, Yong Kang, 156
Cheng, Ken, 45
Cher, 1
Child, inner, 159–161
Child Trauma Academy, 154
Child within, 153–156
Childhood:
avoiding parental disapproval, 22
and child within, 153–156
and individuation, 145
Chopra, Deepak, 181
Chronic stress, 181
Clason, George Samuel, 46
Codependency, xix
Codependents Anonymous, xix
Cognitive dissonance, 133–134
Comfort zone, 132
Commitment, strengthening, 76–77
Commodities, 51
Compassionate curiosity, 88
Congruence, Law of, 134
Conscious Competence (in Learning Curve), 59
Conscious Incompetence (in Learning Curve), 58
Cornell University, 47
Costa, Rui, 183
Covert reframing, 104–106
Creating wealth, 41–54
by giving generously (rule 4), 52–54
by investing wisely (rule 3), 50–52
and resistance, 132
by saving more (rule 2), 46–50
by spending less (rule 1), 43–46
Curiosity, compassionate, 88
DA (Debtors Anonymous), xix, 157
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers (Ford), 114
Deactivating a triggered limbic system (see Self-protection strategies)
Debtors Anonymous (DA), xix, 157
Deep breathing, 123
Depression, xiii–xiv
Deprivation, 48
Digging Deeper (Rewire in Action exercise), 136–137
Dillard, James, 32
Dissecting a Challenge (Rewire in Action exercise), 28
Diversification, 63–65
Divorce, xvi
Dobda, Russell Eric, 111
Doidge, Norman, 14
Dopamine, 123
Doubt, 85
Duhigg, Charles, 45–46
Dyer, Wayne, xxvii
Eagleman, David, 89
Earliest Money Memory (Rewire in Action exercise), 21
Early life stress (ELS), 154–155
Earnings, and importance of saving, 47
Economic status, money shame regardless of, 33
Education, as self-protection strategy, 57–60
EFT (emotional freedom technique or tapping), 35
Ego:
author struggle with, 34–35, 115
fear of building wealth from, 55
and resistance, 132–134
Respond Differently to, 119
and rewiring, 75
Soul vs., 29–30
and trauma/shame, 32
and warped perception of self, 91
Einstein, Albert, 26
Eliot, T. S., xvi
ELS (early life stress), 154–155
EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), 34
Emory University, 151
Emotional freedom technique or tapping (EFT), 35
Emotions:
decision-making based on, 67
importance of dealing with, 89
and risk, 56
suppressed (see Suppressed emotions)
ETF (exchange traded funds), 63
Exchange traded funds (ETF), 63
Executive functions, 22
Eyal, Nir, 172
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), 34
Fagan, Patti, 108–110, 176–177
Fear:
acting in spite of, to tame anxiety, 123–124
of building wealth, 55–56
decision-making based on, 67
embracing, 120
function of, 99
of Respond Differently, 119
Federal Reserve, 46
Fidelity, 4
Fidelity Money FIT Women survey, 11–12
Financial avoidance:
contributing factors to, 20–21
from shame/fear/trauma, 32–33
Financial self-efficacy, 36, 50–51
Financial well-being, defined, 41
Finding My Motivation (Rewire in Action exercise), 54
Fonda, Jane, 98–99
Foolish financial choices, 3–5
Forbes, 7
Ford, Debbie, 114
Ford, Henry, 90
France, Anatole, 138
Franklin, Benjamin, 40
Freud, Sigmund, 33
Frost, Robert, 89
Fuhrman, Candice, xxi
Fuller, Thomas, 75
Furler, Betsy, 44
Gandhi, Mahatma, 35
“Gap,” 132, 148
Gender, xiii, xv
General Electric (GE), 122
Gibson, William, 12
Give generously (rule 4 of creating wealth), 52–54
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 133
Goleman, Daniel, 182
Gordon, Jon, 140
Gossett, Holly, 110
Gratitude, 107–108
Great Recession (2008), 10
Green, John, 92
“Gretchen,” 163–166
Groups, joining, 151
Guided visualizations, 159–160
Haggard, Merle, xii
Hanh, Thich Nhat, 158
Harmon, Willis, 13
Harrell, S. Kelley, 148
Harvard Learning Innovations Laboratory, 72
Hay, Louise, 135
Healthy shame, 33
Hebb’s law, 5
Hellmuth, Phil, 174
“High Earners Slogan,” 120
Higher Power, 115
Hill, Napoleon, 1
Hinkins, Roger Delano, 114
Hirsch, Samson Raphael, 191
Honor your resistance by exploring it (Stage 1 of resistance work), 140–144
hooks, bell, 152
How God Changes Your Brain (Newberg), 14
H&R Block, xiii
Illusion of affluence, 47
Index funds, 63
Indistractable (Eyal), 172
Individual psychology, 19
Individuation, 145
Inner child, 159–161
An Inquiry with Resistance (Rewire in Action exercise), 141–142
The Intelligent Investor (Graham), 56, 61
Intentions, 114–115
Internal conflict, and resistance, 133
Investing:
to create wealth, 50–52
personalized plan for, 60–63
power of, 11
James, William, 27
Jaworski, Joseph, 121, 174, 189
Jefferson, Thomas, 41
Journal of Economic Psychology, 36
JPMorgan Chase, 9
Judgment, suspending, 99–100
Jung, Carl, 154
Keaton, Diane, 87
Keen, Sam, 144
Kierkegaard, Søren, 115
King, Stephen, 164
Kristofferson, Kris, 126
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, 153
Language, impact of, 174
Lao Tzu, xx
Law of Attraction, 134
Law of Congruence, 134
Lazar, Sarah, 181–182
Leonard, George, 169
Limbic system:
about, 22
deactivating a triggered, 57–68
unhealed trauma affecting, 76
Lincoln, Abraham, 7
Lipton, Bruce H., 99
Literacy, financial, 36, 50–51
Logical brain, 76
Lou, Cindy, 172–173
Lynch, Peter, 51
Machado, Antonio, 117
Mackintosh, James, 65
Mantras, 103, 126, 182–183, 198
Market risk, 55
Marketwatch, 66
McGonigal, Kelly, 184
McKay, David O., 189
The Meadows, xix
Meditation, 181–183
Meditation Practice (Rewire in Action exercise), 183
Men, financial information processed by, xxiv
Mental rehearsal (see Visualizations)
Mentors, 151–152 (See also Rewire Mentorship Programs)
Merzenich, Michael M., 96, 115, 178, 179, 184
Messy, Flore Anne, 36
Michaels, Eileen, 61–62
The Millionaire Next Door (Stanley), 10
Mind:
brain vs., 17–19
thought systems of the, 29–31
training of, 24–28
The Mind and the Brain (Schwartz), 18, 25
Mindful meditation, 181–183
Mindfulness training, 35
“Moral stigma of wealth,” 7
Motivation, increasing, 76–77
Munch, Edward, 119
“My Child Within” (Algoe), 167
My Reframe (Rewire in Action exercise), 107
National Science Foundation, 86
Neocortex, 181
Neural circuits, 179
Neurofeedback, to treat trauma and shame, 35
Neurofinance, 13
Neurons, 5
Neuropathways:
attention creating, 74
development of, 5
and perception of world, 120
and repetition, 171
for self-efficacy, 36
Neuroplasticity:
and focused attention, 101
and mind vs. brain, 17
Neuroscience:
author exposure to, xxiv–xxv
and fear of building wealth, 55
and interpretation of the world, 98
New York Times, 7, 124
Nin, Anaïs, 106
Oaten, Megan, 45
Observe without judgment (Phase 1 of Recognize), 86–87
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), 18, 86, 92
Optical illusions, 101
Ortega y Gasset, Jose, 74
Orwell, George, 175
The Osmosis School of Learning, 59–60
Overcoming Underearning (Huson), xxii
Overt reframing, 102–104
Pain, 31–35
Parenthood, xiii–xiv
Partners, finding, 151
Past experiences:
brain functioning based on, 74
and perception of present experiences, 98
pinpoint the conflict by reflecting on, 144–145
Paulus, Trina, xxvi
Pearson, Joel, 24
Penn State, 32
Perfect Day Visualization (Rewire in Action exercise), 180–181
Perry, Bruce D., 154–155
Personal finance, xxv
Personalized financial planning, 60–63
Pew Research Institute, 9
Phillips, Michele, 101, 111–112, 134–135
Pinpoint the conflict by reflecting on the past (Stage 2 of resistance work), 144–145
Planning, as self-protection strategies, 60–63
Positive reinforcement, 183
Positive self-talk, 124
Positive words, 174–176
The Power of Habit (Duhigg), 45
Power Question, xxvii
Power Tools:
about, 128
reparenting (see Reparenting)
repetition (see Repetition)
resistance work (see Resistance work)
Power Up Your Brain (Perlmutter), 181
Powerful women, defining, 106
Pressfield, Steven, 131
Prince Charming Isn’t Coming (Huson), xx
Professionals, reaching out to, 151
Projections, stopping your, 113–114
Psychological Review, 170
Psychology, xxv
Psychology, individual, 19
Psychology Today, xix, 154
Questions, asking yourself, 110–111
Ramsey, Dave, 9
Rating Your Relationship to Wealth (Rewire in Action exercise), 42
Rational brain, 102
React with curiosity (Phase 2 of Recognize), 88
Recalling a Risk (Rewire in Action exercise), 126
Recognize (Step 1 of Rewire Response), 83–96
by blaming your brain (phase 4), 92
to heal your inner child, 159
by observing without judgment (phase 1), 86–87
and paying attention to the positive, 94–96
by reacting with curiosity (phase 2), 88
by separating your thoughts from yourself (phase 3), 90–92
Patricia Vitera’s story of, 83–85, 89–90, 93–94
Reconciliation (Hanh), 158
Reentry women, xiv
Reflecting on the past, pinpoint the conflict by (Stage 2 of resistance work), 144–145
Reframing (Step 2 of Rewire Response), 97–116, 198
about, 97–102
covert, 104–106
to heal your inner child, 159
overt, 102–104
techniques for, 106–116
types of, 102–106
Rehearsal, mental (see Visualizations)
“Re-Parent Your Inner Child” (Smith), 157
Reparenting, 153–167
“Amrita’s” story of, 161–163
and child within, 153–156
“Gretchen’s” story of, 163–166
healing your inner child with, 159–161
“Sandra” story of, 156–158
Reparenting Guided Visualization (Rewire in Action exercise), 160
Repetition, 169–187
“Carmela’s” story of, 185–187
exercise for, 170–171
of Respond Differently, 173–184
rewiring through, 169–170
umcomfortability of, 172–173
Repressed anger, 142
Reptilian brain, 22
Resistance:
about, 135–137
defining, 133–135
honor your, by exploring it, 140–144
signs of, 138–139
training for, 146 (See also Resistance work)
Resistance work, 131–152
honoring your resistance by exploring it (stage 1), 140–144
pinpointing the conflict by reflecting on the past (stage 2), 144–145
receiving support by reaching out (stage 4), 148–152
stages of, 139–140
taking on small doable tasks (stage 3), 146–148
Respond Differently (Step 3 of Rewire Response), 117–128
about, 117–119
Tracy Benson’s story of, 121–126
celebrating to, 183–184
to heal your inner child, 159
meditation to, 181–183
practices to continually, 173–184
preparation (the Stretch) for, 119–121
and resistance, 133
and testing for rewiring, 128
uncomfortability of, 172
visualizations to, 178–181
watching your words to, 174–178
Rewards, focusing on, 125–126
Rewire in Action (exercises):
Angry Letter, 143–144
The Career Finder, 147
Digging Deeper, 136–137
Dissecting a Challenge, 28
Earliest Money Memory, 21
Finding My Motivation, 54
An Inquiry with Resistance, 141–142
Meditation Practice, 183
My Reframe, 107
Perfect Day Visualization, 180–181
Rating Your Relationship to Wealth, 42
Recalling a Risk, 126
Reparenting Guided Visualization, 160
Sacred Wealth Circle, 150
Shave and Save, 49
Signs of a Wounded Inner Child, 158
statement check, 68
Taking Stock, 77–82
Tracking Your Spending, 44
What Am I Saying?, 177–178
What Do I Want?, xxvii–xxviii
Where Am I In Resistance?, 140
Which Voice are You Listening To?, 30–31
Write Your New Story, 197
Rewire Mentorship Programs, xxvi, 83, 88, 102, 111, 122
exercise for, 77–82
and increasing motivation/strengthening commitment, 76–77
and need for correction, 73
premises of, 73–76
Recognize step of (see Recognize [Step 1 of Rewire Response])
Reframe step of (see Reframing [Step 2 of Rewire Response])
Respond Differently step of (see respond differently [Step 3 of Rewire Response])
steps of, 71–72
ReWIRE VIP Intensives, xxvi
Rewire Your Brain (Arden), 19, 76
Richards, Stephen, 69
Risk:
and fear of building wealth, 55–56
inflation, 55
market, 55
minimizing, 57–68 (See also Self-protection strategies)
Rohn, Jim, 76
Roman, Sanaya, 94
Roosevelt, Eleanor, 60
Rose, H. Raven, 161
Rose, Laura, 34
Roth, Geneen, 31
Rule of 72, 52
Rumination, 85
Sacred Success (Huson), xxii–xxiii
Sacred Wealth Circle (Rewire in Action exercise), 150
San Francisco Business Times, xx
Sanders, Bernie, 9
“Sandra,” 156–158
Save more (rule 2 of creating wealth), 46–50
Savings accounts, 46–50
Schwartz, Jeffrey, 4, 6, 18–19, 23, 25, 72, 74, 86, 89, 91–93, 100–101, 106, 118
The Scream (Munch), 119
Secret Shame of Successful Women, 32
Secrets of Six-Figure Women (Huson), xxii
Self-directed neuroplasticity, xxv, 18
Self-doubt, 85
Self-loathing, 33
Self-protection strategies:
diversify, 63–65
education, 57–60
planning, 60–63
time, 65–66
unplug, 67
Semrad, Elvin, 19
Seneca, 39
Separate your thoughts from yourself (Phase 3 of Recognize), 90–92
Serial Seminar Addiction (SSA), 163–164
Shave and Save (Rewire in Action exercise), 49
Shetty, Ashweetha, 1
Signs of a Wounded Inner Child (Rewire in Action exercise), 158
Simmons School of Management, 53
60 Minutes, 155, 159
Small doable tasks, taking on (Stage 3 of resistance work), 146–148
Smith, Lisa J., 157
Soft-Wired (Merzenich), 115
Soul:
Ego vs., 29–30
finding path of, 190
and resistance, 133–134
Source (Jaworski), 189
Spend less (rule 1 of creating wealth), 43–46
Spending, tracking your, 44–45
Spirituality, xxv
SSA (Serial Seminar Addiction), 163–164
Stafford, Stewart, 67
Stanley, Thomas, 10
Statement check (Rewire in Action exercise), 68
Stress, 181
“The Stretch,” 119–121
Support, 148–152
importance of, 148
resources for, 151–152
Suppressed emotions:
and anger, 142
anxiety from, 32
dealing with, 89–90
Synchronicity (Jaworski), 121
Taking a break, 111–112
Taking on small doable tasks (Stage 3 of resistance work), 146–148
Taking Stock (Rewire in Action exercise), 77–82
Talk therapy, 34
Templeton, John, 63
Therapy, 34
Thoughts, self separated from, 90–92
Time, as self-protection strategies, 65–66
Tolstoy, Leo, 71
Touchable savings account, 50
Toxic shame, 33
Tracking Your Spending (Rewire in Action exercise), 44
Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain (Begley), 20
Training:
mind, 24–28
mindfulness, 35
for resistance, 146 (See also Resistance work)
Trauma:
effects of, 31–35
and healing your inner child, 159
unhealed, 75–76
Trauma Center, 76
UCLA School of Medicine, 18
Unconscious Competence (in Learning Curve), 58
Unconscious Incompetence (in Learning Curve), 58
Unhealed trauma:
rewiring process inhibited and undermined by, 75–76
and Serial Seminar Addiction, 163–164
and stress hormone release, 89
University of Missouri, xiv
University of Oregon, xxvi
University of South Wales, 24
Unlearning, 72
Unplugging, 67
Untouchable savings account, 50
Van der Kolk, Bessel A., 31, 34, 76
Vanguard 500 Index Fund, 63
Vanzant, Iyanla, 153
Visualizations:
“Carmela’s” story of, 186
guided, 159–160
to Respond Differently, 178–181
Vitera, Patricia:
and covert reframing, 104–105
in step 1 of Rewire Response (recognize), 83–85, 89–90, 93–94
Volatility Index (VIX), 55
Wage gap, 9–10
Waldman, Mark Robert, 174
Wall Street Journal, 47, 58, 59, 65, 90, 172, 174
Washington Post, 182
Watching your words, 174–178, 186
Wayne, John, 129
Wealth, 39–68
causes of fear around building, 55–56
creating, 41–54 (See also Creating wealth)
and deactivating a triggered limbic system, 57–68 (See also Self-protection strategies)
defining, 40–41
Wealth gap, 9–10
Weight loss, 132
Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, 19
What Am I Saying? (Rewire in Action exercise), 177–178
What Do I Want? (Rewire in Action exercise), xxvii–xxviii
Where Am I In Resistance? (Rewire in Action exercise), 140
Which Voice are You Listening To? (Rewire in Action exercise), 30–31
Willpower:
failure of, 24
and tracking spending, 46
The Willpower Instinct (McGonigal), 184
The Wizard of Oz (movie), 118
Women:
and fear of investing, 11–12
financial information processed by, xxiv
money as birthright of, 8
powerful, defining, 106
self-efficacy in, 36–37
Words Can Change Your Brain (Newberg and Waldman), 174
Write Your New Story (Rewire in Action exercise), 197
Yawning, 123
Yoda, 71
You Are Not Your Brain (Schwartz), 6
You Are the Placebo (Dispenza), 15
Zuckerman Institute, 183
Zweig, Jason, 74