INDEX

A

• Adonis, 20–21
• agape, 16–17
• Amini, Fari, 25
• Angelou, Maya, 34
• Aphrodite, 20–21
• apples, as symbol of love, 20
• Aristotle, 66, 67, 69, 71

B

• Barsade, Sigal, 56
• Beard, Mary, 67
• Beddoes-Jones, Fiona, 30–31
• Berk, Lee, 76
• birds, as symbol of love, 21–22
• Bitterly, Brad, 107–8
• Bono, Raquel “Rocky,” 88–92, 109
• Brin, Sergey, 83
• Brooks, Alison Wood, 107–8
• Buchowski, Maciej, 75

C

• Caesar, Julius, 67
• “Call Me by My Title” leaders, 32, 81
• “Catchphrase” leaders, 32, 81
• Claddagh ring, 21
• Collins, Jim, 55, 98
• cortisol, 25, 76
• courage, 94–97
• Cousins, Norman, 74–75, 77
• Cupid, 19

D

• Dalai Lama, 54
• Darwin, Charles, 23
• Demoulas, Arthur T., 39–44, 56, 60
• Derks, Peter, 72–73
• dopamine, 25

E

• Edmondson, Amy, 107
• emotional intelligence (EI), 46–47, 48
• epinephrine, 76
• Eros (Greek god), 19
• eros (type of love), 15, 16

F

• Follett, Mary Parker, 128
• Frank, Anne, 95
• Freud, Sigmund, 70
• Fry, William, 76

G

• Gandhi, Mahatma, 27
• Goleman, Dan, 103

H

• Hassan, Maggie, 41
• heart, as symbol of love, 20, 97
• Hobbes, Thomas, 69
• Holt-Lunstad, Julianne, 26
• Hsieh, Tony, 83
• humility, 55, 97–101
• humor, 64, 107–8. See also laughter

I

• “I Don’t Even Like Myself” leaders, 32, 81
• “I Got This” leaders, 32, 80, 114–20

J

• Jeep Wave, 55
• jewelry, as symbol of love, 21

K

• Kant, Immanuel, 71
• Keppler, Joseph, 68
• kindness, 52–56
• King, Martin Luther, Jr., 95
• Klobuchar, Amy, 83
• Krumrei-Mancuso, Elizabeth J., 99–100

L

• ladybug, as symbol of love, 21
• Lannon, Richard, 25
• laughter
  • absence of, 78–81, 83
  • animals and, 67, 75, 80
  • contrast between love and, 64
  • courage and, 94–97
  • embracing, as way of being, 114
  • frequency of, 72
  • history of, 65–68
  • humility and, 97–101
  • humor vs., 64
  • importance of, 3, 7
  • incongruity and, 70–71
  • leadership and, 78–81, 83–94, 132
  • mental health and, 77
  • organizational impact of, 104–8
  • physiology of, 72–78
  • relief and, 69–70
  • risk of, 64, 103
  • social awareness and, 101–4
  • social bonding and, 71, 73, 77, 82, 105
  • superiority and, 68–69
  • theories about, 68–71
  • types of, 73–74

• leaders
  • characteristics of successful, 1–2
  • examples of funny, 83, 85–92
  • examples of loving, 36–44
  • failure and, 3–5

• leadership
  • human needs and, 6–7
  • humility and, 55
  • kindness and, 52–56
  • laughter and, 78–81, 83–94, 132
  • love and, 27–33, 35–44, 132
  • self-awareness and, 46–49
  • vulnerability and, 49–52
  • leadership development programs, approaches of, 5–6, 133–34

• leader types
  • “Call Me by My Title,” 32, 81
  • “Catchphrase,” 32, 81
  • “I Don’t Even Like Myself,” 32, 81
  • “I Got This,” 32, 80, 114–20
  • “Selfie,” 32, 81
  • “Show Me the Metrics,” 32, 81
  • “This Won’t Work,” 120–25

• letting go, 33, 82, 95
• Lewis, Thomas, 25
• limbic resonance, 25–26, 30
• listening, 103
• loneliness, 26
• love
  • absence of, 24, 26, 27–33, 34
  • acceptance of, 63
  • animals and, 17, 24, 28
  • contrast between laughter and, 64
  • in different contexts, 13–14
  • embracing, as way of being, 114
  • Greek conceptions of, 14–18
  • happiness and, 23
  • importance of, 3, 7, 23, 26–27, 34
  • kindness and, 52–56
  • leadership and, 27–33, 35–44, 132
  • meaning of, 22–23
  • organizational impact of, 56–59
  • physiological reaction to, 24–26
  • psychological effects of, 26
  • self-, 17–18, 60
  • self-awareness and, 46–49
  • symbols of, 18–22
  • vulnerability and, 49–52

• ludus, 17

M

• Mahomes, Patrick, 104
• Market Basket, 39–41
• masks, 46, 58–59
• Maslow, Abraham, 128
• mindset, importance of, 126–30
• Morreall, John, 64
• Myatt, Mike, 27

N

• negative thinking, 126–28
• norepinephrine, 25

O

• Obama, Barack and Michelle, 87
• Ocampo, Lizet, 85–87, 90–92, 109
• O’Neill, Olivia A., 56
• optimism, 128–30
• oxytocin, 25, 26, 28

P

• Palmer, Parker, 32–33, 46, 58
• Patrick, Deval, 41
• Peck, M. Scott, 59
• pessimism, 126–28
• philautia, 16, 17–18, 33, 42
• philia, 15, 16, 42
• Plato, 18, 66, 69
• Polamalu, Troy, 104
• Pollar, Odette, 71
• Porter, Eleanor H., 126
• positive thinking, 128–30
• pragma, 16
• Provine, Robert, 73
• Puck, 67–68

R

• relationship management, 47
• Roem, Danica, 95
• Rogers, Carl, 128
• roses, as symbol of love, 20–21
• Rothschild, Mariam, 67

S

• sarcasm, 107–8
• Schumer, Amy, 71
• self-assessments, limitations of, 8
• self-awareness, 46–49
• self-doubt, 133
• “Selfie” leaders, 32, 81
• self-love, 17–18, 60
• self-management, 47, 48
• serotonin, 25
• “Show Me the Metrics” leaders, 32, 81
• social awareness, 47, 101–4
• Staley, Dawn, 37–39, 41–43, 56, 60
• storge, 14–15, 16

T

• Tarvin, Andrew, 107
• “This Won’t Work” leaders, 120–25
• Treasurer, Bill, 95
• Twain, Mark, 79

V

• Valentine’s Day, 20, 21, 22
• vasopressin, 25, 26
• Vindman, Alexander, 95
• vulnerability, 49–52

Z

• Zak, Paul J., 58
• Zauderer, Don, 84