accomplishments, acknowledging, 31, 78
accountability, 8, 30, 170–171
balance, 51
Covid pandemic and, 83
self-care and, xiii–xviii
Bandura, Albert, 112
Barnes, Christopher M., 121–129
Boyes, Alice, xvii–xviii, 91–100
for exercise, 113
from exercise, 117
weaving into your workday, 32
Bridge of Spies (movie), 76
Caspersen, Carl J., 111
changes, starting with small, 7–8
children
communicating openly with, 23, 49–51, 136
mealtimes and, 129
sick days and, 136
sleep deprivation and, 123
spending time with, through hobbies, 142–145
chores, 39
Coleman, John, 61
communication
about work-life balance at work, 56–58
crucial conversations in, 45–51
of gratitude, 72
guilt/shame and, 61
“I feel” statements for, 64
soft startups in, 64
with spouses/partners, 49, 59–66, 135
for working dads, about work, 53–58
with your boss and colleagues, 47–48, 135
with your inner perfectionist, 95–96
couple time, 9–10. See also spouse/partners
Covid pandemic, xvii–xviii, 60
emotional exhaustion in, 83
remote work during, 83
dads
communicating about work by, 53–58
time spent with children and, 55
work-family conflict experienced by, 12
Dowling, Daisy, xiii–xviii
dual-income families, 55
Edmondson, Amy, 30
emotional well-being, xvii
conserving energy and, 84, 85, 88
hobbies and, 141
permission to recharge and, 3–10
reducing emotional drain and, 83–85
talking with children about, 50–51
empathy, 65
exercise, xvii
breaks from, 117
commitment to, 8
emotional well-being and, 88–89
enjoying, 118
finding time for, 112–113, 115–119
goals in, 118
scheduling, 25
starting small with, 7
walking meetings and, 32
yoga, 96
family leave, 56
fatigue, xiv, 128–129. See also sleep
fathers. See dads
“The Flexibility Stigma,” 55–56
flexible work arrangements, 47–48
exercise and, 113
sleep and, 129
focus, 36
Friedman, Stewart D., 11–17, 169–172
emotional well-being and, 88–89
supporting spouse/partner’s, 9–10
weaving into your workday, 31
fun, 165
Gandhi, Mahatma, 57
goals
acknowledging progress toward, 31
for exercise, 118
setting daily, 30
setting with spouses/partners, 49
for values-driven schedules, 21, 22
Gottman, John, 64
Greenhaus, Jeff, 170
perfectionism and, 94
habits
personal fulfillment and, 62
unproductive, 34
health. See emotional wellbeing; physical health
household tasks. See chores
“I feel” statements, 64
intentionality, 20
Journal of Social Issues, 55–56
judgment, 29
holding back on, 128
of women’s vs. men’s mistakes, 99–100
Kabat-Zinn, Jon, 102
life satisfaction, 13–14, 16, 60, 62, 171–172
meals and mealtimes, 129
mental health days, 134
micro-breaks, 7–8. See also breaks
mindfulness, 78–79, 89, 101–105
perfectionism and, 96
mistakes
moving on from, exercise and, 117
motherhood penalty, 51
Mother’s Day, 12
motivation
perfectionism and, 94
needs, xvii. See also values
defining, 69
prioritizing your own, 4
Oettingen, Gabriele, 78
overthinking, xv. See also rumination
parenthood and parenting
positive effects of on work, 97
priority definition for, 20
quality vs. quantity of time in, 5–6, 39
transformative nature of, 4
Parents Night Out, 8
perfectionism, xvii–xviii, 91–100
performance, 30
exercise and, 113
friendships and, 149
performance evaluations, 12
perspective
focusing on accomplishments in, 31, 78
friendships and, 149
scarcity mindset and, 34
Pew Research Center, 102
physical health, xvii
recharging and, 16
self-care and, 170
priorities
setting daily, 30
sick days and, 134
time management based on, 19–26
worksheet for, 22
problem solving, 142
exercise and, 111
sleep and, 124
psychological safety, 30
remote work
Covid pandemic and, 83
resources, 30
emotional well-being and, 89
scheduling, 23
Rock, David, 36
Saunders, Elizabeth Grace, xvii, 3–10, 19–26
scarcity mindset, 34
scheduling, xvii
self-care, xiii–xviii
communicating about your needs in, 59–66
defining, 28
importance of, xvi, 28, 169–172
personal differences in, 29
weaving into your workday, 27–34
self-knowledge, 47
self-management, 33
self-neglect, 33
self-preservation, 34
“should,” 29
catching up on, 125
conflicting schedules for, 128
relationship-based strategies around, 127–129
soft startups, in conversation, 64
spirituality, 6
spouses/partners
communicating self-care needs to, 59–66
communicating with, 49
give-and-take with, 65
relationship checkups with, 65–66
talking with, for values-driven schedules, 23
stress and stress management, xvii
lapses in self-care and, 33–34
mindfulness and, 102
recharging and, 16
“third space” and, 62
support, 31
technology
disconnecting from on vacations, 162, 163–164
sick days and, 135
thank yous, 72
time management, xvii
giving yourself permission to recharge and, 3–10
values-based scheduling for, 19–26
weaving self-care your workday and, 27–34
time off, xvii
disconnecting during, 162, 163–164
harassment of fathers at work about, 12
technology use during, 163–164
weekend trips, 155
uncertainty, xiii–xiv
vacations. See time off
Valcour, Monique, xvii–xviii, 81–89
values, xvii
values-based scheduling, 19–26
walking meetings, 32
work. See also time off
fitting exercise into, 113–114
focus at, 36
gender norms in, 53–55, 99–100
negotiating schedules/workloads at, 47–48
psychological detachment from, 88–89
sleep deprivation and, 123
Work and Family—Allies or Enemies? (Greenhaus and Friedman), 170
workspaces, 32
yoga, 96
Your Brain at Work (Rock), 36
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