Accessible, as component of A.R.E, 59
Affirmation statements, 71–72, 73
Alfa Insurance Company, 7, 14–18. See also Linda’s team
Anxious dependency style, 12
Apollo 13 (movie), 98
A.R.E. tool, components of, 59–61
Arnold, Magda B., 39
Attachment
styles. see Attachment styles
Automatic thoughts and behaviors, 43–45
Avoidant dependency style, 12
Bodily sensations, 40
Bonding conversation, 13, 51–53
Brown, Brené, 50
Center Club Orange County, 113–114
Client-centered therapy, 5
Conflicts, 20
addressing, 99
avoiding, 13
and disconnections, 43
and disengagements, 83
emotional balance during, 81
future, 58
long-standing, 72
primary negative cycles in, 48
responding to emotions during, 65
solving, 98
teams struggle due to, 2
turning point in long-standing, 72
Constructive dependency style, 12
Daring Greatly (Brown), 50
Effective dependency style, 12
Einstein, Albert, 78
The Emotional Brain (LeDoux), 63
Emotional Connection (EmC) process. See also Emotional Connections
acknowledging words and phrases, 50–51
alliance and safety in, 45
automatic thoughts and protective behaviors, 43–45
becoming captain, 111
bodily sensations, 40
brain activity and, 57
goal of, 58
identifying the triggers, 27–28
importance of repetition in, 81–82
individuals sharing feelings and thoughts, 36–38
interviews with leaders using, 113–115
Linda’s raw spots and levels of emotions, 27–28
nurturing connection and emotional safety, 25–26
recognizing emotions in ourselves, 41
three dimensions of attachment, 40–41
three stages of, xix
trust, 86
using as proactive tool, 99–100
using emotional attachment, 19
validation component of, 45
working with conflict, 38
Emotional Connections
and building bonds, 93
and enhancing trust, 88
and improving alignment, 90
and increasing awareness, 92
positive, 6
and power of vulnerability, 95
restoring healthy, 6
Emotional responsiveness, 67–68
Emotional safety, 50
Emotion(s)
in ourselves, recognizing, 41
positive, 52
shame as, 33
sharing, 70
softer, 32
surface, 32
understanding, 4
Empathic reflection, 69
Engaged, 60
emotional responsiveness, 67–68
empathic reflection, 69
normalizing, 70
Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) images, 57
Goleman, Daniel, 7
Healthy team dynamics. See Team dynamics
Human relationships, nightjars in, 75–76
Innovation, nurturing, 102–104
Johnson, Susan, 57
Joy, feeling of, 34
understands emotional balance, 63
LeDoux, Joseph, 63
Lieberman, Matt, 61
Linda’s team
exploring emotions with, 36–38
list of raw spots, 61
raw spots and levels of emotions, 27–28
thoughts and protective behaviors, 43–45
three layers of emotions in, 39
warning signs, 59
List
of negative emotions, 107
of positive emotions, 109
Minuchin, Salvador, 5
Miroculus, 113
reframing, 81
withdraw–withdraw cycle, 48
Negative emotions, list of, 107
Nonverbal cues, 60
Normalizing, 70
Perls, Fritz, 6
Perls, Laura, 6
Pink, Daniel, 100
Positive cycles
of bonding conversation, 53
sequence of, 53
Positive emotional connections, 102
Positive emotions, 52
list of, 109
Pursuer dependency style, 12
Reassuring anchor, using, 56
Reconnection process, 80
Reflection, empathic, 69
Repetition, importance of, 81–82
Resilience, 1
Responding to emotions
during conflicts, 65
real-life example, 66
Responsive, 59
Rogers, Carl, 5
Sadness at work, 33
emotional, 25–28, 49, 50, 55, 58, 76, 101
situational safety, 29
team, 91
Secure attachment style, 12
Self-realization, 79
Shame, 33
Sharing emotions, 70
Situational safety, 29
Softer emotions, 32
Still Face Experiment (Tronic), 60
Stress, 40, 41, 59, 67, 72, 76, 79, 83
brain functions during, 59, 102
exploration of values during, 89
factors causing, 91
negative cycle patterns and, 46
positive cycles during, 61
situational, 58
Surface emotions, 32
Team(s)
on thriving situations, 97–100
Team leaders. See Leaders/leadership
Team members, learning, 6
Team success, roadmap to, 4
Tocigl, Alejandro, 113
Traditional training program, 78
Transparency, 89
emotional connection and enhancing, 88
within teams, 86
Unresolved traumas, 91
Warning signs, 59
Withdraw–withdraw cycle, 48
Work
fun at, 101
sadness at, 33
Workplace
culture, 59
emotions in, 85
emotional intelligence at, 7
safety at, 16, 24, 25–27, 103. See also Safety
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