Introduction

There’s always something to say.

No matter where you are, who you’re with, or what’s happening around you, you can make an observation, ask a question, or share a thought with a stranger. And when you do, you tap into a world of unlimited possibilities you never knew existed until that moment.

I should admit that I’ve been striking up conversations with strangers through chance encounters and staying in touch with them for a long time. So although it might seem a bit extreme that I’ve remained in contact with the doctor who delivered me into this world many decades ago, it’s simply how I began my habit of meeting, talking to, and connecting with strangers for the better part of my life. Over the latter years, I have earned hundreds of thousands of dollars in consulting and training fees and have built long-term, mutually profitable relationships with people I met in the most random of ways: on planes, in coffee shops, in restaurants, in hotel lobbies, at weddings, in elevators, in doctors’ offices, and just about everywhere else I’ve been.

Talking to strangers comes naturally to me. And although the results have been remarkable, I can’t tell you for sure exactly what has driven this behavior since a young age, except that I always found people available to me—willing to smile back, to acknowledge a common experience in the moment, to share pieces of the stories of their lives, and to teach, guide, and help me. I also have an insatiable curiosity about the people I encounter wherever I go. I want to know: Where are they from? Where are they going? What do they do? Who are they? I’m always fascinated by their answers, even the ones who don’t appear all that interesting on the surface.

I’ve always had a desire to connect with the people around me. I didn’t have much of an outcome in mind when I was younger, except perhaps to help someone, learn something, or make a friend. I would always find a reason to circle back with a particular person long after our initial meeting, sometimes to find out what that person was up to, sometimes just to let that person know what I was doing, and sometimes simply to say hello. Some of these new connections faded away over time, and some I still know to this day—30 and 40 years later.

One early random encounter comes to mind that in many ways laid the groundwork for a lifetime of talking to strangers that would become relationships of great positive impact. It was a perfect example of the idea that you never know who you’ll meet unless you make yourself available. As a teenager, my sister and I had summer jobs in Manhattan, and we would take the bus to the subway into the city. Often the traffic would be so heavy that cars would sit bumper to bumper in front of the bus stop. One morning while waiting for the bus I made eye contact with an executive-looking man who was driving an expensive car and was undoubtedly headed in the same direction we were.

After a smile and gesture of friendliness, he opened his passenger window and asked if we were going into the city. I said yes, he offered a lift, and feeling safe in accepting, we hopped in. What began as a serendipitous ride turned into a long-term friendship with the managing partner of the fourth largest stock brokerage firm in the country. Someone who for years and years I would visit in his office (nab a free sandwich in his company cafeteria—after all, I was a high school student with a summer job!), but most importantly, from whom I would learn about business and have a model for business success. And maybe that was at a safer time, when taking a ride from a stranger didn’t require a credit check and the last four digits of the driver’s Social Security number. But the story is true and the message is clear: what starts as a random encounter and opportunity can become a long-term friendship and growth experience, all because of a smile, a gesture of friendliness, and a willingness to take a chance.

Whereas meeting people in random encounters was more of a natural inclination, even a hobby, during my younger years, it became a critical skill as I entered the business world. I discovered that the more I reached out to strangers, the more I found people who had a need for my services. As a result, my ability to connect with people by way of casual, everyday encounters became invaluable in building my career and financial success. You might call me a consummate networker in today’s language. However, I do this for a much more important reason than that. I do this because it transforms my everyday world into one big untapped opportunity to expand and enrich virtually every aspect of my life, while simultaneously providing value to those I meet in return.

I realized over the years that just by sparking a conversation with someone, I would learn all kinds of things about that person—and concurrently discover ways that I could be of service. I found that the more I made myself available to people, the more opportunities came my way.

These random encounters were so productive as I was developing my business that I began engaging in what some might consider a peculiar undertaking: I started flying around the country, to no particular destination, but rather to meet potential clients along the way. I would travel to places far and wide: Atlanta to Boston. New York to Chicago. Dallas to LA and Seattle. Detroit to Tokyo. Often I would take the most circuitous route. And it really didn’t matter where I was going, only that there would be businesspeople along the route. There was nothing waiting for me in any of these places; all the action was in the airport, on the plane, on the tram, in the taxi, and in the hotel lobby.

And so for me, flying around the globe to make business contacts was no big deal; it was just my marketing strategy. But my friends and colleagues saw it as something unusual and insisted that I should tell my story. My first call was to Joe Sharkey, who writes the business travel column of the New York Times. I immediately received a return call. “You do what?” he asked.

“Well,” I replied, “I take flights all over the country and sometimes around the world, just to meet potential clients.” Joe said something about that being the most incredible thing he’d ever heard. An interview followed that afternoon, and my story appeared in the next edition of his column.

As is my natural inclination, I spent much of my time writing this book in public places, surrounded by complete strangers. I worked in coffee shops, on airplanes, in hotel lobbies, in parks, in libraries, and in restaurants. As I look around, I see unlimited opportunity in the people in sight. Walking, talking potential . . . in every one of them.

I am also actively communicating with at least four prospective clients as I write, all of whom I met through completely random encounters. One was at a coffee shop, two were seatmates on flights, and one I met in an office building elevator. I anticipate that at least two of them will monetize significantly.

You can do the same. This book will show you how you can expand your pool of contacts to enhance your business, career, and personal life. It’s closely connected to the broader issue of personal branding or self-marketing, where you take control of your success by managing who you know and who knows you—except in this case, you will be going beyond your typical and somewhat predictable networking venues. You will discover how you can easily and naturally connect with the people with whom you come in contact throughout your daily life.

Of course, you may not choose to go to the lengths that I do to meet people. But whether you go halfway around the world to make random connections or find them within a 20-mile radius of your home, at the end of the day (actually at the beginning of the day and all day long), it is about seeing the world as one big opportunity, where everyone you meet can enrich your life in some way or another—and you, theirs. It is about taking advantage of every opportunity to make face-to-face, in-person connections and leveraging them for mutual benefit, wherever you find yourself.

The woman in front of you in line at the supermarket, the guy sitting next to you on an airplane, your fellow conference attendees, the person sitting in the lobby, other guests at the wedding, the others on the shuttle van—these are the “people portals” of your life. They’re the individuals who just may be able to lead you to personal and professional success—that is, if you know how to connect and cultivate them.

And as you’ll discover while reading this book, everybody you encounter either is somebody you want to know or knows somebody you want to know. Some random encounters lead somewhere specific; others take a circuitous route. Whether you’re a salesperson, job candidate, small-business owner, independent consultant, recent college grad, or new to your community, you’ll doubtlessly find that the more widely you reach out to people, the more likely you will be to discover new possibilities. In fact, expanding your network of contacts is one of the few activities you can control to put the odds of success in your favor. And the best part? These leads don’t cost you anything, and they’re open to you every day. You just have to know how to recognize, cultivate, and optimize them.

In many ways, this book is a field guide, a resource you can take with you and refer to when you are out and about, surrounded by random connecting possibilities. So read on to find out how you can tap into a world of opportunity that is available to you day and night. These opportunities are free for the asking and can lead you to new clients, new career opportunities, new insights, and new friends—as well as to the financial and personal rewards that follow from making such fortuitous connections.

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