• You are there to listen as much as to talk.
• Be precise and stay on point. Don’t give a complete blow-by-blow history of your charity’s last 20 years in response to the what’s-new-at-your-charity question.
• If you’ve had a grant previously from this funder, report on how that project went (or continues to go), stressing its accomplishments. Talk about its challenges only if you’re there for funding for the same project.
• Don’t give the funder any materials at the beginning of the meeting. It will only distract her, and you want to maintain eye contact. If you have materials for her, present them as you’re saying your good-byes—and be sure all materials are directly to the point of your program and that your name and contact information appear on everything.
• It’s much better not to refer to notes, but if it’s absolutely necessary, have your list of bullet points to remind you of the topics you need to cover and the questions you need to ask.
• Do take notes when the funder speaks (on the pad you brought with you), even if you know you’ll remember every word. Taking notes shows interest.
• Don’t doodle instead of (or in addition to) taking notes.
• Ask questions about the funder’s interests that show you’ve done your research.
• If the funder has been in the news recently, comment on it to show your interest.
• If you feel like your project pitch is getting nowhere, have a fall-back project to offer. You’re not going to get a second meeting anytime soon, so make the most of this one.
• Call or e-mail the day after your meeting—not two days later—thanking the funder for meeting with you and highlighting points from the meeting needing amplification or emphasis, or making a point you forgot to make in the meeting.