In the 1937 Disney classic Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, the Evil Queen is obsessed with being the best. Every day she stands in front of the magic mirror and asks, ‘Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?'
It all goes swimmingly so long as she hears, ‘Queen, you are the fairest in the land'. It goes downhill big time, though, when she gets feedback she doesn't want to hear. One day the mirror responds, ‘Snow White is the fairest of them all' … and the Queen goes nuts. Snow White becomes the object of her hatred, and she plots to have the young girl killed.
It's a classic tale of good versus evil, and a lesson that it's not what's on the outside that's important, but what lies within us. Outwardly, the Queen is beautiful, but inside she is vain, insecure and filled with self-loathing and hatred for possible rivals (definitely a famine mindset!).
She's also completely unprepared for unwelcome feedback. It's a classic case of ‘shooting the messenger' (or in this case destroying the mirror then plotting to take out her rival). Workplaces are often competitive and political, and it can be easy to get caught in the comparison trap and to think that to get ahead you need to win, to beat all rivals, to be ‘the best'. Yet success in life, and at work, isn't about beating everyone else; it's about being your best, which means any competition should be with yourself.
Check in regularly to see if you are being your best, and if you like what you see in the mirror.
Throughout Part III, you've been challenged to close the gap between your leadership promise (what you want to do and be) and your leadership practice (what you're actually doing and being). This next step is where the old adage ‘What gets measured gets done' comes into play.
The legacy you create for your team members will be positive or negative, depending on the effort and dedication you've put into becoming an effective leader, and sustaining that effort.
Let's start by identifying the progress indicators you can use to continue to reflect on how things are going. As in the economy, there will be leading and lagging indicators.
Indicators will alert you to warning signs of decline, and potential and real progress.
Your leading indicators point to the progress underway because they track your leadership habits and practices, including, for example:
Lagging indicators, on the other hand, confirm that a pattern of change is in progress, or has been made (or not made). These are data sources. Lagging indicators may include:
Lagging indicators will come from 360-degree feedback assessments, engagement and employee satisfaction surveys, employee staff indicators (such as turnover, absenteeism and sick leave) and key performance indicators (such as quality, performance, productivity, revenue and sales). Typically, they take more time to access and require a dollar investment, so may not be readily available.
It can be easy to manipulate data to tell a story that makes you feel comfortable, so for this exercise to be helpful, be open to what you see in the data and get curious about the possibilities and potential for further change and progress.
Making progress isn't about one big thing you do. It's about the things you do every single day. Some will be tiny, others big; some quickly noticeable, some not.
Leadership development is an ongoing journey of discovery. The learning never stops. Equally, be prepared for progress to take time. While you may notice some shifts around the edges quite quickly, most change takes at least six to 12 months of sustained effort to translate into tangible benefits and outcomes.
Don't be put off or disappointed if progress isn't as fast as you'd like it to be.
One of my clients was a great manager, but it was only when she went through a formal feedback process that she discovered her leadership was failing. Her team and peers found her distant and hard to connect with, overly driven and ambitious, and too willing to say ‘yes' to the needs of people more senior than her.
Over a 12-month period she dramatically turned her profile around. She spent more time with her team, which helped them get to know her, and her them. She built deeper relationships with her peers and stakeholders, reaching out proactively to help them and connect. She shifted her approach and behaviour, and as a result how she was viewed as a leader changed.
Success comes more easily when you see the benefits it brings, and you can feel the positive energy and impact you are having. In fact, it feels so good you'll just want more of it. And why wouldn't you? When you know you are creating an environment where every person in your team can be their best — well, that's liberating and empowering.
But be careful of becoming complacent and falling back into old patterns of behaviour, particularly when you are tired and stressed.
You are creating new leadership muscle and it will take a while for this to become habitual.
As I did throughout my corporate career, and now in my executive coaching work, I often see leaders who are trapped. They know something's not working but struggle to pinpoint what it is. They are locked in a pattern of thinking and behaving and are fearful of change.
It often takes a crisis — getting fired, facing redundancy, a major illness or another life-changing event — that forces them to stop, reflect and recognise that it can't go on like this anymore. Obviously, you don't want this to happen to you, so you need to be aware of five traps that can trip you up.
These traps are not discrete and isolated. In fact, they frequently overlap. When you fall into one or more of them the impacts may include social isolation and dislocation, poor health outcomes, negative impacts on team members, deteriorating social and family relationships, and over time a negative impact on your career outcomes and therefore your career prospects.
Are you in danger of falling into one of these traps?
If so, what needs to change?
As part of this reflection process, and being aware of the traps, it's important you look at how your organisation's culture is impacting you.
Every time you step away from who you want to be, ignore the problem and fail to treat the impact, you are deepening the risk of permanent long-term infection. As an inoculation strategy, you have two options:
Your treatment strategy involves determining how you can influence the organisation's culture in a way that supports you.
This might include, for example:
If there are no available treatment strategies (or you've tried them and found they don't work for you), and you want to ensure you retain your integrity and mental wellbeing, then you need to consider whether it's time to activate an exit plan from the organisation. This may not mean you move to another organisation; it may mean finding a new boss or role (my book Career Leap could help you with that).
This is a critical test of your willingness to live up to your leadership potential.
Being willing and open to new ideas, new possibilities and new ways of doing things also means being willing to test and learn from your mistakes.
‘A good leader,' Margaret Heffernan counsels, ‘knows she's not perfect and doesn't mind her team knowing it. People don't want perfection, they want consistency. Besides, knowing that you're fallible makes people trust you more … because they know you're human, just like them.'
It's not about being perfect; rather, it's about continuous improvement.
Andre Agassi was one of the world's best tennis players. Throughout his career, he had some amazing highs with spectacularly good tennis days, while on other days he would come crashing down.
In his autobiography, Open, he recounts a conversation with his coach Brad Gilbert. This was at a time when his game was faltering. His coach told him that his problem was ‘perfectionism'.
He said, ‘You always try to be perfect, and you always fall short and it fucks with your head. Your confidence is shot and perfectionism is the reason. You try to hit a winner on every ball, when just being steady, consistent, meat and potatoes, would be enough to win ninety percent of the time.'
Agassi learned the value of listening and being coachable. He pushed through the challenges, and accepted that to achieve his goals, he had to uncover what was holding him back, try new things and then forge through. And look where that took him: he eventually won eight Grand Slams!
You can't do this on your own, however. You need to surround yourself with trusted advisers and a great support crew.
Who do you trust? Who do you turn to for guidance? Who can you safely share your struggles and challenges with?
It's imperative to have a support crew, who act as your trusted advisory board. These are people you can call on for advice, support, counsel, and objective and constructive feedback. It might include a former boss, a current work colleague, a mentor (either internal or external to your organisation) or your partner. They need to be willing to challenge you, to hold up a mirror to show you whether your assessment of your progress isn't too rosy or misaligned.
These supporters can play an essential part in helping you sift through the feedback and assess how you can use it to carry you forward. They can help reality check your interpretation, pick you up and encourage you to keep going if you find progress slow and hard.
They can call you to account when you aren't living up to your stated values and are sidestepping courageous conversations. And they can help if you reach a point where you feel stuck or trapped and things at work just don't seem to be working.
It's critical to surround yourself with the right support crew who will back you and challenge you.
Being a leader is a privilege, and with that comes a whole lot of responsibility. You get the chance to shape, nurture and encourage the leaders of tomorrow. How awesome is that?
So don't stop. This has been a big chapter of reflection and revision. You'll have noticed progress and identified where you want to do more. Perhaps you've needed to challenge yourself to step outside and look beyond where you are currently.
You may also have discovered that you have some work to do in the relationship with your boss, in which case you'll want to go back and revisit Part I.
Remember the wise words of Benjamin Franklin, one of the world's great polymaths: ‘When you're finished changing, you're finished.'
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