AAAs. See Area Agencies on Aging
Abrams, Creighton, 170
abuse, 19–20, 115–16, 128, 174, 178, 219
activities of daily living (ADL), 72, 126, 137
adult day health care, 149
advance directive for health care, 45
attitudes toward, 100–104
physical changes, 92–99
Aid and Attendance Benefit (VA), 35, 82, 162–63
ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease), 211
Alzheimer’s Association, 10
Alzheimer’s disease, 66–67, 86, 91, 134, 150, 195, 209–11
care communities, 137–38
American Elder Care Research Organization, 165
anger, 11, 100, 172, 177, 191, 194–95, 218, 221, 226
anxiety, 34, 74, 120, 194, 228, 230
Area Agencies on Aging (AAAs), 162–63
assisted living, benefits of, 127–35
activities, 132–34
friendships, 132
health care, 134–35
housekeeping, 131
laundry, 131–32
nutrition, 128–30
pets, 132
safety, 129–30
transportation, 130–31
assisted living communities, 135–44, 186, 193, 212, 226–27, 231
costs of, 149
large centers, 142–43
levels of care, 140–42
licensing, 140–42
purpose of, 126
small group homes, 143–44, 193
Assisted Living Federation of America, 136
authority. See legal authority
authority figures, 188–89
bathroom issues, 41–42, 52, 63–64, 76, 220
Beardsley, Mary Jo, 111
bed-bound patients, 217
bedsores, 217
behavioral issues, 20, 208, 218–20, 226, 229
controlling behaviors, 3, 56, 219
dangerous behavior, 1–2, 66, 137, 197, 219
Boals, Maryglenn, 159
bones, 97–99
boundaries, 41, 56–58, 115–16, 170, 229
brain
brain death, 208
degenerative disorders, 1–2, 66
health of, 21
See also dementia; memory loss; mental activity; traumatic brain injury (TBI)
breathing tubes, 214
Burnett, Carol, 12–13
burnout, 58–59
cancer, 13, 34, 76, 120–21, 130
care communities, 52–54, 124–44
gathering information on, 180
names for, 149
types of, 135–40
caregivers
burnout, 58–59
defining, 33–37
family members as, 33–37, 41–44, 69–71, 77–83, 108–110, 174–75, 180, 187–88, 227–29
family responsibilities, 10–13
friendships, 15–16
parenting responsibilities, 11–13, 80–81
private caregivers, 114–16, 118–19, 228
relationships with siblings, 13–15
relationships with spouses, 10–11, 18–19, 209, 212
retirement, 82–83
seniors bonding with, 227
stress on, 10, 24, 33–34, 103, 110, 218
work and professional responsibilities, 16–18, 81–82
Caregiver Survival Tips, 8, 36, 59, 83, 103, 145, 165, 188–89, 200–101, 220–21, 232–33
Carter, Rosalynn, 233
Cash and Counseling Program (Medicaid Waiver), 161
CCRC. See continuing care retirement communities
changes
adjusting to, 191–92, 223–24, 229
in family relationships, 40–44, 47, 69–70, 100–101, 135, 194
mental, 86–92
in personality, 90, 218–20 (see also behavioral issues)
physical, 92–99
See also functional decline; transitions
children
long-term care for, 204–106
See also parent-child relationships
chores. See housekeeping and chores
cognitive skills, 73, 86–92. See also brain; mental activity
coma, 208
communication, 11, 14, 41, 43, 169–70
computers, use of, 26, 43, 169
concerns. See needs and concerns
continuing care retirement communities (CCRC), 138–39
control
legal, 40–41
seniors’ sense of, 48, 50, 53, 178, 196
controlling behaviors, 3, 56, 219
averages, by type, 148–49
estimates, 179
See also paying for care
Cost of Care Survey, 2022 (Genworth), 148, 151
Covey, Steven R.
7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 102
crisis situations, 1–2, 12, 33, 61–62, 111, 176
avoiding, 78
difficult discussions during, 168, 182, 184
See also emergencies
dangerous behavior, 1–2, 66, 137, 197, 219
coping with, 54–55
hospice services, 121–24
decision making, 6-7, 40, 107, 173–77, 191–101
about care communities, 142–44
guilt and anxiety over, 223–24, 230–32
legal authority for, 199–100
participation of family members, 169–70
decline. See functional decline
delirium, 66
dementia, 1–3, 134, 199, 210–12, 218, 223, 229
and decision making, 172
stages of, 66–69
See also Alzheimer’s disease; memory/dementia care communities
denial, 69–71, 74, 173–74, 176, 181, 187, 199
dialysis, 215–16
directed care licensed facilities, 142
discussions, difficult, 6, 167–89
approaching subject of, 184–87
experts, role in, 188–89
family, bringing together, 168–70
locations, 182–83
strategy development, 170–77
timing, 183–84
diseases. See illnesses and diseases
doctors
as authority figures, 31, 188–89
maintaining contact with, 78
See also medical care
documents
on concerns, 178–79
downsizing, 29–30
driving, giving up, 30–31, 53, 95, 130
durable medical equipment, 214
durable power of attorney, 45, 48
eldercare, overview of, 1–8, 9–10, 33–37. See also caregivers
Eldercare Financial Resource Locator Tool, 165
embarrassment, 25, 42, 74, 76, 172, 183, 220
emergencies, 35, 39–40, 44, 57, 71, 118–19, 128, 135, 141–42. See also crisis situations
emotions and feelings, 47, 100–104, 191, 203, 228–30. See also specific emotions
exploitation, 20, 115–16, 128–29
eyesight. See vision impairment
Facebook, 43
faith, 104
falls, 51, 72, 94, 96–97, 127, 171, 198, 226
preventing, 21–22
Family and Medical Leave Act of 2001 (FMLA), 16, 82
family relationships, 10–15
changes in, 40–44, 47, 69–70, 100–101, 135, 194
and difficult discussions, 167–72
fears, 30, 86–87, 120, 126, 177–78, 191, 194, 197
feelings. See emotions and feelings
Fern, Ralph, 112
finances, managing, 47–48, 73. See also cost of care; paying for care
financial exploitation, 20, 128–29
FMLA. See Family and Medical Leave Act of 2001
forgetfulness, 65, 86. See also dementia; memory loss
foundations, financial assistance from, 164
401K plans, 155
friends
in assisted living communities, 132
of caregivers, 15–16
loss of, 29
difficult discussions about, 167
evaluating, 62–66
physical, 62–65, 92–99, 150, 176
as reaction to change, 192, 230
Genworth Cost of Care Survey (2022), 148, 151
geriatrics case managers, 50, 79
government programs for financial assistance, 161–64
gratitude, 102–104
guilt, 56, 81–82, 188, 191, 227–28, 230–32
hallucinations, 218
health care. See medical care
health care advocates, 110–12
health-care power of attorney, 45
health care professionals, consulting with, 74–77
health insurance, 75, 111–12, 124, 160
hearing impairment, 94
help, asking for, 5, 36, 43, 81, 103, 107, 193
high-needs care, 203–221
hobbies, 104
home care agencies, professional, 112–13
interviewing, 116–18
home environment, 19, 22, 63, 96
home equity, 156
home health aide services, 149
home health care agencies, professional, 112–13
interviewing, 116–18
homeowner’s insurance, 115
homes, renting or selling, 157–58
hospice services, 121–24
hostile attitudes, 218
Housebound benefit (VA), 162
housekeeping and chores, 178, 181, 197
in assisted living communities, 131
homemaker services, 148
Huntington’s disease, 1–2, 8, 66
hygiene problems, 20, 24, 54, 73, 220. See also showering; toileting
illnesses and diseases, 75–76, 113
hospice services, 121–24
long-term progressive, 211–13
palliative care, 120–21
See also individual illnesses and diseases
Improved Pension (VA), 162
income, loss of, 28–29, 82, 102
incompetence, declaration of, 40
independence, 27, 30, 41, 50, 102, 107, 125, 194
independent living communities, 53, 136–38
information
organization of, 62, 78, 80, 88
research on resources, 179–81, 196
in-home care agencies, 41
insurance, 158–61
employee-related, 114–15
health insurance, 75, 111–12, 124, 160
life insurance, 159
long-term care insurance, 159–60
private, 160–61
IRAs, 155
isolation, 25–27, 34, 74, 94, 102
Jacobs, Barry, 80
joints, 97–99
impaired, 24, 66, 68, 129, 208, 218
kidney disease, 215–16
Laibson, David, 48
large print, 23, 88, 95–96, 98, 133
last will and testament, 45
laundry, in assisted living communities, 131–32
learning, benefits of, 92, 104
legacies, creating, 55
Lewy Body disease, 66
liability issues, 114–15
life insurance conversion, 159
listening, 11–12, 15, 28, 30, 32, 55, 170, 173, 182, 185, 196
assistive listening devices, 94
living arrangements, 50–54. See also care communities; relocation
locked-in syndrome, 208
loneliness, 26, 34, 79, 94, 102, 104, 129, 193, 221
long-distance caregiving, 77–79
long-term care (LTC)
insurance, 159–60
for younger people, 204–106
Long-Term Care (Medicaid), 161
loss, coping with, 54–55
Lou Gehrig’s disease (ALS), 211
LTC. See long-term care
marriage, impact of caregiving on, 10–11, 18–19, 209, 212
MCI. See mild cognitive impairment
meaning, sense of, 101–102
mechanical ventilators, 214
medical care
appointments, 22, 25, 27, 47, 75–77, 94–96
in assisted living communities, 134–35
managed by caregivers, 46–47
universal medical record, 47
medical devices and equipment, 213–15
Hospice Benefit, 124
Supplemental Insurance (Medigap), 160
medications
managing, 22–23, 52, 57, 72, 134
risk of falls related to, 22
side effects, 96
memory/dementia care communities, 137–38, 195, 211
memory loss, 67–68, 73, 86–92, 195
evaluating, 65–66
senior moments, 87–89
mental activity, 91–92, 132–34
mental health care power of attorney, 45
mental status testing, 69
micromanaging care, 227
mild cognitive impairment (MCI), 65
mind. See brain
mind/body/spirit connection, 85, 105
minimally conscious state, 208
MLS (muscular dystrophy), 211
mobility issues, 20–21, 63, 104, 126, 141, 162
mortgages, reverse, 156–57
moving. See relocation
multitasking, 87–88
muscles, 97–99
muscular dystrophy (MLS), 211
needs and concerns
choices and options, 36–37, 107–145
documentation of, 178–79
major areas of, 17–28
planning for future, 50–51, 61
nonprofit organizations, financial assistance from, 164
nursing homes, 139, 149, 178. See also skilled nursing communities
in assisted living communities, 128–30
obsessive-compulsive behavior, 219
orientation, loss of, 90
osteoporosis, 97
palliative care services, 120–21, 123
paranoia, 218
parent-child relationships, 40–42, 69–70, 135
Parkinson’s disease, 136, 139, 153, 209, 211–13
Participant/Consumer Program (Medicaid Waiver), 161
paying for care, 6, 147–48, 152–64
See also cost of care
payroll taxes, 114
personal care issues, 64, 72–73, 178
personal care licensed facilities, 141–42
personality changes, 90, 218–20
personal property, paying for care with, 155
physical decline, 20, 62–65, 92–99, 150, 176
physician’s directive, 45
pill organizers, 23
Pinnacle Care, 47
planning, 39–40
for difficult discussions, 48, 177–81
prescription drug assistance programs, 23, 164
private caregivers, 114–16, 228
interviewing, 118–19
private funds, 153–56
private insurance, 160–61
purpose, sense of, 101–102
quality of life, 2, 37, 85, 100, 102, 107, 109, 120, 194
religious practices, 104
relocation, 29–30, 175, 186, 191–92, 195, 198–99
resentment, 43, 58, 110, 221, 227
residential care communities, 135–40
respite, 36
respite care services, 59, 139–40
retirement
retirement accounts, 49, 147, 153–55
retirement communities, 53, 138–39
reverse mortgages, 156–57
designating, 43
routines, 79, 88, 191, 218, 225
safety, 17–20, 63, 71, 115–16, 127–28, 178–79, 197
in assisted living communities, 129–30
sandwich generation, 80–81
seizures, 207–208
Self-Directed Program (Medicaid Waiver), 161
senior moments, 87–89
seniors
decision making, 40–41, 44, 48, 73, 170–72, 195–99
resistance to care, 172, 177, 182, 187–88, 196–99, 229
sense of control, 48, 50, 53, 178, 196
7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), 102
siblings
and difficult discussions, 170–77
skilled nursing communities, 139, 149, 209
Skype (telecommunication software), 26, 169
sleep, 20–21, 26, 54, 89–90, 120
socialization, 25–27, 74, 104, 181, 193
Social Security, 163–64
special considerations for care, 7, 203–221
spiritual well-being, 100–104
SSI. See Supplemental Security Income
on caregivers, 10, 24, 33–34, 56, 110, 218, 221
suctioning equipment, 215
suicidal thoughts, 221
supervisory care licensed facilities, 140–41
Supplemental Security Income (SSI), 164
supplements, 99
risk of falls related to, 22
side effects, 96
taxes, payroll, 114
TBI. See traumatic brain injury
toileting, 36, 41–42, 52, 64, 76, 137, 149, 151, 159
tracheotomy tubes, 214
managing life transitions, 28–33
mistakes during, 225–29
transition period, defined, 224–25
in assisted living communities, 130–31
See also driving, giving up
traumatic brain injury (TBI), 22, 206–210, 218
unemployment insurance, 114
universal medical record, 47
VA. See Veterans Affairs
vegetative state, 208–209
ventilators, 214
Veterans Affairs (VA)
Aid and Disability Benefit, 82
Veterans Affairs (VA) benefits, 35, 82, 154, 161–63
use of large print, 23, 88, 95–96, 98, 133
Volk-Craft, Barbara, 122
volunteering, by seniors, 29, 104
volunteer services, 49, 124, 153–54
Waivers (Medicaid), 161
Wandrych, Rick, 157
warning signs, early, 62–66, 125–26, 181
wills, 45
workers’ compensation, 114–15
younger people, long-term care for, 204–106
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