Index

A

Africa, narratives about, 119, 121–22, 141–42

Always Another Country, 130

anti-Blackness, 14, 91, 117, 120–21, 127

The Armah Institute of Emotional Justice, 11, 40–41

B

BBC (British Broadcasting Corporation), 77–80

Biko, Ntsiki, 28, 32–33, 34, 36

Biko, Steve, 28, 32–33

Biles, Simone, 92

Black masculinity, 89, 90

Black men

emotional labor between Black women and, 88–91

intimate revolution and, 71–72

labor and, 89

language of whiteness and, 89

masculinity and, 89, 90

Blackness

anti-, 14, 91, 117, 120–21, 127

centering, 36–37, 38

distinct experiences of, 131–33

emotional vs. political connection to, 133–36

global, 124–26, 132, 134, 139–40

on the periphery, 47

segregated, 9, 117, 120, 130, 137–38, 143

Black people. See also Black men

Black women

global Black people

challenging language of whiteness, 63–64

COVID pandemic and, 91–92

George Floyd’s murder and, 19–20

Black privilege, 133

Black women

as Black community’s caretakers, 85–87

emotional labor between Black men and, 88–91

as emotional mammies, 76–77, 97

freedom fighting and, 84–85

grind and, 15, 81, 86–87, 94–96, 98

intimate revolution and, 71–72

labor and, 72–77, 84, 94–95

language of whiteness and, 63–64, 71, 77–81, 93–94

weaponized body of, 74–75

Blain, Keisha, 40

Blay, Yaba, 140, 143

Blint, Rich, 37

Boateng, Paul, 24

Bound: Africans vs African-Americans, 122–23

Brecht Forum, 36

Brexit, 60–61, 62

Business & Financial Times, 40

C

Calderon, Jennifer JLove, 37, 38

cancel culture, 18

caucasity, 93

change

becoming, 102–4, 145–46

examples of, 11–16

Chapman, Gary, 16

Chicago, 38, 40, 59

Chin, Staceyann, 37

circle of willingness, 55

Color Bar Act of 1926, 30

Cooper, Brittney, ix–xii, 37

COVID pandemic, 91–92

critical race theory (CRT), 59–60

D

Davis, Wade, II, 37

De Clerk, F. W., 31–32

DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion), 34

DiAngelo, Robin, xiii–xv, 8, 47, 64–69, 101

discomfort muscles, 105–6

discussion guide, 147

domestic labor, 73

Dunham, Lena, 49–51, 54, 58

DuVernay, Ava, 111

E

Eakins Oval, 26

#EJconvos, 36–37

emotional currency

Black women and, 71, 74, 77

defining, 7

as a pillar of the language of whiteness, 6

unlearning, 8, 9, 71

emotional economy

anti-Blackness and, 118, 120, 121–23

defining, 7

as a pillar of the language of whiteness, 6

unlearning, 9, 99–100, 117, 118, 120, 132

Emotional Justice

community and, 145–46

creation of term, 32–33

defining, 3–4

development of, 20–21, 33–41

as a global model, 38, 39–41

need for, 1–2

as part of family of justice movements, 3–4

as roadmap for racial healing, 3–6, 38

training sessions, 12–15

Emotional Justice Equity Package, 15

Emotional Justice love languages. See also intimate reckoning

intimate revolution

resistance negotiation

revolutionary

Black grace

as challenge, 19

defining, 16–18

as gift, 19

learning, 19, 20, 51

overview of, 7–9

replacing pillars of the language of whiteness with, 9

Emotional Justice template

as constant companion, 145–46

discussion guide using, 147

emotional labor and, 11

for intimate reckoning, 69

for intimate revolution, 98

for resistance negotiation, 114–15

for revolutionary Black grace, 143

three steps of, 9–11

emotional labor

Black women and, 76–77

defining, 51, 54

Emotional Justice template and, 10, 11

redefining, 54–55

relationships and, 51–52

emotional mammies, 76–77, 97

emotional patriarchy

within the Black community, 90

defining, 6

in governance, 61–62

intimacy and, 44, 45, 49, 61–62, 90

lethality of, 58

as a pillar of the language of whiteness, 6, 28

unlearning, 9, 45, 48, 54

white masculinity and, 48, 49, 58–61

Eric-Dyson, Michael, 39

F

Fed Up, 51

feelings, working through, 10

The 5 Love Languages, 16

Flanders, Laura, 37

Floyd, George, 11, 19–20

focus, reimagining, 10

forgiveness, 27–35

Freeman, Marjery, 37

future, building, 10–11

G

Geter, Hifiyah, 136

Ghana, 23–25, 26, 38, 40, 125, 132, 137

Girls, 49

global Black people

equal division of emotional labor and, 131

George Floyd’s murder and, 20

language of whiteness and, 118, 119–23, 130–33, 137, 140–41

racial healing centering, 39

revolutionary Black grace and, 117–19, 130–33, 143

trauma and, 117, 126–29, 135

grind, 15, 81, 86–87, 94–96, 98

H

Hamer, Fannie Lou, 132

hampton, dream, 127

Hannah-Jones, Nikole, 81–84

Hartley, Gemma, 51, 54, 57

Hartman, Saidiya, 124

Hersey, Tricia, 87

Hill, Marc Lamont, 37, 60

Hochschild, Arlie, 51

home, finding, 135–36

Hughes, Seamus, 59

Hunter, Karen, 37

Hurt, Byron, 37

I

intimacy. See also intimate reckoning

intimate revolution

as institution, 44–45, 66–67, 90

political, 44, 61–63

private, 44, 53

professional, 44, 49–51

public, 44

intimate reckoning

defining, 7, 43

as Emotional Justice love language, 7

Emotional Justice template for, 69

practicing, 54, 55

replacing emotional patriarchy with, 9, 45, 48, 54

for white women and men, 7, 43–44, 53, 66–69

intimate revolution

for Black women and men, 71–72

defining, 8, 71–72

as Emotional Justice love language, 7

Emotional Justice template for, 98

practicing, 92–93, 97–98

replacing emotional currency with, 8, 9, 71

J

Just Mercy, 53

K

Kendi, Ibram X., 40

Kenya, 28, 29, 32, 36, 39, 138

Kenyatta, Jomo, 29, 30

King, Gayle, 82, 84

King, Martin Luther, Jr., 132

KKK (Ku Klux Klan), 12

L

labor. See also emotional labor

Black men and, 89

Black women and, 72–77, 94–95

as connection to value and worth, 75–76

COVID pandemic and, 91–92

domestic, 73

political, 74

sexual, 73

language of whiteness. See also emotional currency

emotional economy

emotional patriarchy

racialized emotionality

Black men and, 89

Black women and, 63–64, 77–81, 93–94

challenging, 63–64

defining, 5

enforcement of, 46

as false narrative, 45–46, 100

four pillars of, 6–7

global Black people and, 118, 119–23, 130–33, 137, 140–41

intimacy and, 44–45, 50

scars from, 130–33

sustained injustice and, 5

unlearning, 5, 9, 21, 45, 56, 81–84, 114

white people vs., 45–46

winners and losers in, 47

Let’s Get Free: The Black August Hip Hop Project, 127–29

Lewis, Dumi L’Heureux, 37

London, 24, 36, 38, 40, 139

Lose Your Mother, 124

love languages, concept of, 16. See also Emotional Justice love languages

M

Malcolm X, 132

The Mammy, 73

The Managed Heart, 51

Mandela, Nelson, 30, 32, 36

Mandela, Winnie, 25, 26–27, 31–32, 35, 132

Martin, Courtney, 104–14

Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America, 59

#MeToo movement, 49–50

Miller, Murray, 49–50

Million Woman March, 25–27

Montgomery, Tulaine, 136–41

Moore, Darnell, 37

Morgan, Joan, 37

Msimang, Sisonke, 31, 130

Mullan, Jennifer, 93–98

Mwaura, Nguhi, 136–43

N

Nap Ministry, 87

Neal, Mark Anthony, 37

New Profit, 136

New York, 36–38, 40

New York Times, 82

Nkrumah, Kwame, 23, 24, 132

O

Oluo, Ijeoma, 59

Owino, Peres, 122

Oxfordshire, 40

P

pan-Africanism, 120, 129, 134

patriarchy. See also emotional patriarchy

challenging, 64, 66

reality of, 68

white women and, 68

Patton, Stacey, 37

Perrineau, Aurora, 49–50

Philadelphia, 25–27

political intimacy, 44, 61–63

political labor, 74

Pozner, Jennifer, 37

private intimacy, 44, 53

professional intimacy, 44, 49–51

proximity, 53, 63, 108

push-through-o-nomics, 86–87, 92

R

racial healing

Emotional Justice roadmap for, 3–6, 38

global work of, 2

as journey, 23

need for, 1–2

South Africa’s model for, 30–33, 34, 35, 36, 138

starting, 145–46

racialized emotionality

defining, 6, 31

as a pillar of the language of whiteness, 6, 28

unlearning, 9

radical rest, 87

Reagan, Ronald, 74

relationships and emotional labor, 51–52

reparations movement, 134

Representation of Natives Act of 1936, 30

resistance negotiation

becoming the change, 102–4

choice and, 109–10

defining, 8, 99–100

discomfort muscles and, 105–6

emotional connection to whiteness and, 101–2, 106–7, 112–14

as Emotional Justice love language, 7

Emotional Justice template for, 114–15

manufactured attack and, 100, 101, 102, 113–14

replacing racialized emotionality with, 9

stages in, 102

for white women and men, 8, 99–100

Rest Is Resistance, 87

Rethinking Possible, 137

revolutionary Black grace

defining, 8–9, 117–19

as Emotional Justice love language, 7, 119

Emotional Justice template for, 143

global Blackness and, 117–19, 130–33, 143

Roof, Dylan, 34

S

segregation, 108, 127

sexual labor, 73

Shringarpure, Bhakti, 40

1619 project, 82

Solomon, Akiba, 37

South Africa, 27–33, 34, 36, 39, 127–29, 130, 138

The Spin podcast, 39

statementism, 103

Stevenson, Bryan, 53, 63, 108

systems, dismantling, 49, 110–11

T

Traister, Rebecca, 52

trauma

defining, 19

global Black people and, 117, 126–29, 135

legacy of untreated, 19–20

Trump, Donald, 58–59, 104

Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC), 27–29, 32–33, 138

Tutu, Desmond, 28–29, 34, 36, 138

U

Umkontho we Sizwe, 26–27

University of North Carolina (UNC), 82–83

Urban Areas Act of 1923, 30

W

Wakeup Call, 38–39

Walker, Alice, 39

Walker, Rebecca, 39

WARSCAPES, 40

The Welfare Queen, 74

The Wench, 73

West, Cornel, 39

white fragility, xiv–xv, 8, 47, 64, 99, 101, 113

white masculinity, 47–48, 50–53, 57, 59, 63, 65–66

white men

change and, 56–57

emotional relationship of, to power and race, 48, 56, 58–61

intimate reckoning and, 43–44, 53–55, 67–69

white masculinity and, 47–48, 57, 59, 63

whiteness. See also language of whiteness

decentering, 10–11, 14, 69, 115, 136, 147

emotional connection to, 101–2, 106–7, 112–14

protection of, by segregation, 108

white people. See also white men

white women

emotional connection of, to whiteness, 101–2, 106–7, 112–14

family histories of, 112–13

George Floyd’s murder and, 19

language of whiteness vs., 45–46

relationship of, to the body, 104–8

resistance negotiation and, 8, 99–104

safety and, 66

white tears, 10, 114–15

white women

intimate reckoning and, 43–44, 53–55, 67–69

political intimacy and, 61–62

white masculinity and, 50–54