As a kid I didn’t much care for playing football in the freezing cold, and Liverpool could get very cold in the winter. Worst of all was when the ball hit you full on the thigh, as it would sting like only a leather missile striking cold flesh can. You would wince in agony, at which point you’d be harangued from the touchline: ‘Don’t stop, keep running, keep running! It’ll feel better in a minute’. The last thing you want to do when your leg is screaming in agony is keep running, yet you know there’s truth in those words, and sure enough a minute or so later there’s only a perfect imprint of the ball on your leg to remind you of the blow.
As a child these were the adversities I learned to bounce back (or forward) from. Whether it was catching a well-struck football on the leg, falling off my bike, getting bitten by a dog when delivering newspapers or failing my final-year school exams, I learned to get over it fast, find some kind of positive in it (the dog bite was a hard one!) and move on.
Today we call it resilience. Back then, my dad called it ‘the bulldog spirit’.
The bulldog spirit actually had nothing to do with dogs; rather, it referred to the courage and resoluteness shown by the British people whose homes and livelihoods had been destroyed during Second World War bombing.
In his book The Resilience Breakthrough, Christian Moore writes, ‘Becoming resilient starts with the realisation that the adversity you experience — any pain, discrimination or challenge — can be converted into powerful fuel that can actually bring opportunity’. As a project leader, you’ll face many challenges that will test your confidence in what you’re trying to achieve. If you’re to turn the challenges you face into energy for activity and success, resilience is an important skill to develop.
Like almost every other quality or skill discussed in this section, resilience can be learned. Here are some steps you can take to build your own bulldog spirit:
‘Colin, be more positive!’
‘Thanks so much. I’ve waited 30 years for someone to tell me that, and now I feel great. Silly me for being negative so long.’
In her book Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg writes, ‘Being confident and believing in your own self-worth is necessary to achieving your potential’. Being resilient will ensure that as a project leader you will never doubt your self-worth and will unlock your potential to deliver projects successfully every time.
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