Chapter 1
1. Brad Harrington, “Maximizing the Employee Experience: How Changing Workforce Dynamics Are Impacting Today’s Workplace,” Boston College Center for Work & Family, 2018, https://www.bc.edu/content/bc-web/schools/carroll-school/sites/center-for-work-family/research/work-life-flexibility.html.
2. Brad Harrington, “Behind the Data on Breadwinner Mothers,” New York Times, June 3, 2013, https://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2013/06/03/what-are-fathers-for/behind-the-data-on-breadwinner-mothers.
Chapter 2
1. Pew Research Center, “Breadwinner Moms,” Social & Demographic Trends, May 29, 2013, https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/05/29/breadwinner-moms/5/; Pew Research Center, “Modern Parenthood,” Social & Demographic Trends, March 14, 2013, https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/03/14/modern-parenthood-roles-of-moms-and-dads-converge-as-they-balance-work-and-family/; Brad Harrington, Fred Van Deusen, and Jennifer Sabatini Fraone, “The New Dad: A Work (and Life) in Progress,” Boston College Center for Work & Family, 2013, https://www.bc.edu/content/dam/files/centers/cwf/research/publications3/researchreports/The%20New%20Dad%202013_A%20Work%20and%20Life%20in%20Progress.
2. Scott Behson, The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home (Melbourne, FL: Motivational Press, 2015).
1. “2019 Employee Benefits,” SHRM, n.d., https://www.shrm.org/hr-today/trends-and-forecasting/research-and-surveys/pages/benefits19.aspx.
2. “Paternity Leave,” DOL Policy Brief, U.S. Department of Labor, n.d., https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/OASP/legacy/files/PaternityBrief.pdf.
3. “Expanded Paid Parental Leave,” Boston College Center for Work & Family, n.d., https://www.bc.edu/content/dam/files/centers/cwf/research/publications/researchreports/Expanded%20Paid%20Parental%20Leave-%20Study%20Findings%20FINAL%2010-31-19.pdf.
4. Emily Paisner, “Back-to-School 2020: Care.com Survey Reveals What’s Really on the Minds of Working Parents,” Care@Work blog, August 6, 2020, https://workplace.care.com/workingparentssurvey.
5. McKinsey & Co. and LeanIn.Org, Women in the Workplace 2020, n.d., https://wiw-report.s3.amazonaws.com/Women_in_the_Workplace_2020.pdf.
6. “Labor Force Participation—Women,” FRED Economic Data, November 6, 2020, https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/LNS11300002.
7. Promundo and Dove Men + Care, “Helping Men Care,” 2018, https://promundoglobal.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Promundo-DMC-Helping-Men-Care-Report_FINAL.pdf.
Chapter 4
1. Melissa J. Williams and Larissa Z. Tiedens, “The Subtle Suspension of Backlash: A Meta-analysis of Penalties for Women’s Implicit and Explicit Dominance Behavior,” Psychology Bulletin 142, no. 2 (2016): 165–197, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26689089/.
2. Ashleigh Shelby Rosette, Jennifer S. Mueller, and R. David Lebel, “Are Male Leaders for Seeking Help?,” Leadership Quarterly 25, no. 5 (2015): 749–762, https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1048984315000223.
3. Kerry Roberts Gibson, Dana Harari, and Jennifer Carson Marr, “When Sharing Hurts,” Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes 144 (2018): 25–43, https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0749597815302521.
4. Timothy A. Judge, Beth A. Livingston, and Charlice Hurst, “Do Nice Guys—and Gals—Really Finish Last?,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 102, no. 2 (2012): 390–407, https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-27429-001.
5. L. A. Rudman and P. Glick, “Feminized Management and Backlash Toward Agentic Women,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 77, no. 5 (1999): 1004–1010, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10573877/.
6. Janine Bosak et al., “Be an Advocate for Others, Unless You Are a Man,” Psychology of Men & Masculinity 19, no. 1 (2018): 156–165, https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2016-59613-001.
7. William A. Gentry et al., “How Displaying Empathic Concern May Differentially Predict Career Derailment Potential for Women and Men Leaders in Australia,” Leadership Quarterly 26, no. 4 (2015): 641–653, https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1048984315000600.
8. Victoria L. Brescoll and Eric Luis Uhlmann, “Can an Angry Woman Get Ahead?,” Psychological Science 19, no. 3 (2008): 268–275, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18315800/.
9. Agneta H. Fischer, Alice H. Eagly, and Suzanne Oosterwijk, “The Meaning of Tears,” European Journal of Social Psychology 43, no. 6 (2013): 505–515, https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/ejsp.1974.
10. Daphna Motro and Aleksander P. J. Ellis, “Boys Don’t Cry: Gender and Reactions to Negative Performance Feedback,” Journal of Applied Psychology 102, no. 2 (2017): 227–235, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27808525/.
11. Corinne A. Moss-Racusin et al., “When Men Break Gender Rules,” Psychology of Men & Masculinity 11, no. 2 (2010): 140–151, https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2010-07392-008.
12. Laurie A. Rudman, “Self-Promotion as a Risk Factor for Women,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 74, no. 3 (1998): 629–645, https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1998-00299-006.
13. Bradley P. Owens, Angela S. Wallace, and David A. Waldman, “Leader Narcissism and Follower Outcomes,” Journal of Applied Psychology 100, no. 4 (2015): 1203–1213, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25621592/.
14. Kathryn J. Holland et al., “Sexual Harassment Against Men,” Psychology of Men & Masculinity 17, no. 1 (2016): 17–29, https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2015-17472-001.
15. Jennifer L. Berdahl, “Harassment Based on Sex,” Academy of Management Review 32, no. 2 (2007): 641–658, https://www.jstor.org/stable/20159319?seq=1#page_scan_tab_contents.
16. Laurie A. Rudman and Kris Mescher, “Penalizing Men Who Request a Family Leave,” Journal of Social Issues 69, no. 2 (2013): 322–340, https://spssi.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/josi.12017.
17. Tessa L. Dover, Brenda Major, and Cheryl R. Kaiser, “Diversity Policies Rarely Make Companies Fairer, and They Feel Threatening to White Men,” hbr.org, January 4, 2016, https://hbr.org/2016/01/diversity-policies-dont-help-women-or-minorities-and-they-make-white-men-feel-threatened.
18. Ben Barry, “What Happens When Men Don’t Conform to Masculine Clothing Norms at Work?,” hbr.org, August 31, 2017, https://hbr.org/2017/08/what-happens-when-men-dont-conform-to-masculine-clothing-norms-at-work.
1. Haley Swensen, “Engaged Dads and the Opportunities for and Barriers to Parenting in the United States,” New America, June 17, 2020, https://www.newamerica.org/better-life-lab/reports/engaged-dads-and-opportunities-and-barriers-equal-parenting-united-states/.
2. Gretchen Livingston and Kim Parker, “8 Facts About American Dads,” FactTank, Pew Research Center, June 12, 2014, https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/.
3. McKinsey & Co. and LeanIn.Org, Women in the Workplace, 2020, n.d., https://wiw-report.s3.amazonaws.com/Women_in_the_Workplace_2020.pdf.
4. Scott Schieman, Leah Ruppanner, and Melissa A. Milkie, “Who Helps with Homework?,” Journal of Family and Economic Issues 39 (2018): 49–65, https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10834-017-9545-4.
5. Allison Damiger, “The Cognitive Dimension of Household Labor,” American Sociological Review 84 no. 54 (2019), https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122419859007.
6. “So You Want to Be a Male Ally for Gender Equality?,” Promundo, n.d., https://promundoglobal.org/resources/male-allyship/.
7. “CPE Checklist,” Fair Play, n.d., https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards/cpe.
8. Scott Coltrane, “Research on Household Labor,” Journal of Marriage and Family 62, no. 4 (2000): 1208–1233, https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2000.01208.x.
9. David G. Smith and Mady Wechsler Segal, “On the Fast Track: Dual Military Couples Navigating Institutional Structures,” in Visions of the 21st Century Family: Transforming Structures and Identities, vol. 7 (Bingley, UK: Emerald Publishing, 2013), https://www.emerald.com/insight/content/doi/10.1108/S1530-3535(2013)0000007011/full/html?utm_source=TrendMD&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Contemporary_Perspectives_in_Family_Research_TrendMD_1.
10. Scott Coltrane et al., “Fathers and the Flexibility Stigma,” Journal of Social Issues 69, no. 2 (2013): 279–302, https://spssi.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/josi.12015.
Chapter 6
1. The quotes and the prioritization exercise are adapted from my book, S. Behson, The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home (Melbourne, FL: Motivational Press, 2015), https://www.amazon.com/Working-Dads-Survival-Guide-Succeed/dp/1628651946/ref=sr_1_3?crid=16TZZ89OCYKXC&dchild=1&keywords=working+dads+survival+guide&qid=1603680940&s=books&sprefix=working+dads%2Cstripbooks%2C152&Sr=1-3.
2. James M. Citrin, The Career Playbook: Essential Advice for Today’s Aspiring Young Professional (New York: Crown, 2015), https://www.thecareerplaybook.com/.
3. Amy Saltzman, Downshifting: Reinventing Success on a Slower Track (New York: Harper, 1992).
4. My forthcoming book, The Whole Person Workplace (Highlands Ranch, CO: Authors Place Press, 2021) explores this topic in more detail.
Chapter 7
1. Bureau of Labor Statistics, “Employment Characteristics of Families—2019,” news release, April 21, 2020, https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/famee.pdf.
2. Liana S. Leach et al., “Prevalence and Course of Anxiety Disorders (and Symptom Levels) in Men Across the Perinatal Period,” Journal of Affective Disorders 190 (2016): 675–686, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26590515/#affiliation-1.
3. Cleber José Aló de Moraes and Tania Mara Marques Granato, “Becoming a Father: An Integrative Review of the Literature on Transition to Fatherhood,” Psicologia em Estudo 21, no. 4 (2017): 557–567, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/315762206_BECOMING_A_FATHER_AN_INTEGRATIVE_REVIEW_OF_THE_LITERATURE_ON_TRANSITION_TO_FATHER HOOD.
4. Bianca Wordley, “The Men Who Find the Transition to Fatherhood Most Difficult,” Essential Baby, March 16, 2018, http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/pregnancy/news-views/the-men-who-find-the-transition-to-fatherhood-most-difficult-20180315-h0xjs2.
5. Aló de Moraes and Marques Granato, “Becoming a Father.”
6. Samantha J. Teague and Adrian B. R. Shatte, “Exploring the Transition to Fatherhood,” JMIR Pediatrics and Parenting 1, no. 2 (2018), https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6715057/.
7. Brad Harrington and Jamie Ladge, “The New Dad: Exploring Fatherhood Within a Career Context,” Boston College, June 2010, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259266390_The_New_Dad_Exploring_Fatherhood_within_a_Career_Context_Boston_College.
8. Harrington and Ladge, “The New Dad.”
Chapter 9
1. Hugh Wilson, “The Millennial Dad at Work,” DaddiLife, May 18, 2019, https://www.daddilife.com/the-millennial-dad-at-work/.
2. Marianna Hunt, “The Best Companies to Work for as a New Father—with the Most Paid Paternity Leave,” Telegraph, February 22, 2020, https://www.telegraph.co.uk/money/consumer-affairs/best-companies-work-new-father-paid-paternity-leave/.
3. Ian Dinwiddy, “The Part Time Lawyer,” DaddiLife, November 8, 2019, https://www.daddilife.com/tom-the-part-time-lawyer/.
4. “Why Dad to Dad Mentoring Matters at Work,” DaddiLife, November 25, 2019, https://www.daddilife.com/why-dad-to-dad-mentoring-matters-at-work/.
Chapter 10
1. “When Everyone Can Work from Home, What’s the Office for?,” PWC Remote Work Survey, June 25, 2020, https://www.pwc.com/us/en/library/covid-19/us-remote-work-survey.html.
Chapter 11
1. Gretchen Livingston and Kim Parker, “Growing Number of Dads Home with the Kids,” Pew Research Center, June 12, 2016, https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/.
2. Stefanie K. Johnson and David R. Hekman, “Women and Minorities Are Penalized for Promoting Diversity,” hbr.org, March 23, 2016, https://hbr.org/2016/03/women-and-minorities-are-penalized-for-promoting-diversity.
Chapter 12
1. Brad Harrington, Jennifer Sabatini Fraone, Jegoo Lee, and Lisa Levey, “The New Millennial Dad: Understanding the Paradox of Today’s Fathers,” The New Dad Research Series, Boston College Center for Work & Family, 2016, https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/carroll-school/sites/center-for-work-family/research/work-life-flexibility1.html.
Chapter 14
1. Preeti Varathan, “Modern Parents Spend More Time with Their Kids Than Their Parents Spent with Them,” Quartz, November 30, 2017, https://qz.com/1143092/study-modern-parents-spend-more-time-with-their-kids-than-their-parents-spent-with-them/.
2. Gretchen Livingston and Kim Parker, “8 Facts About American Dads,” FactTank, Pew Research Center, June 12, 2019, https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/.
3. Gretchen Livingston, “Growing Number of Dads Home with Kids,” Pew Research Center, June 5, 2014, https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/06/05/growing-number-of-dads-home-with-the-kids/.
4. Kathryn Vasel, “It Costs $233,610 to Raise a Child,” CNN Money, January 9, 2017, https://money.cnn.com/2017/01/09/pf/cost-of-raising-a-child-2015/index.html; Care.com editorial staff, “Child Care Costs More in 2020, and the Pandemic Has Parents Scrambling for Solutions,” Care.com, June 15, 2020, https://www.care.com/c/stories/2423/how-much-does-child-care-cost/.
5. Wendy Klein, Carolina Izquierdo, and Thomas N. Bradbury, “The Difference Between a Happy Marriage and a Miserable One: Chores,” Atlantic, March 1, 2013, https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/03/the-difference-between-a-happy-marriage-and-miserable-one-chores/273615/.
Chapter 15
1. Stewart D. Friedman, “New Research on Working Parenthood,” hbr.org, October 4, 2012, https://hbr.org/2012/10/new-research-on-working-parent; “Expanded Paid Parental Leave,” The New Dad Research Series, Boston College Center for Work & Family, 2019, https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/carroll-school/sites/center-for-work-family/research/work-life-flexibility1.html.
Chapter 16
1. Kristen M. Shockley, Winny Shen, Michael M. DeNunzio, Maryana L. Arvan, and Eric A. Knudsen, “Disentangling the Relationship Between Gender and Work–Family Conflict: An Integration of Theoretical Perspectives Using Meta-analytic Methods,” Journal of Applied Psychology 102, no. 12 (2017): 1601–1635.
2. Sarah Thébaud and David S. Pedulla, “Masculinity and the Stalled Revolution: How Gender Ideologies and Norms Shape Young Men’s Responses to Work–Family Policies,” Gender & Society 30, no. 4 (2016): 590–617; Scott Behson, “What’s a Working Dad to Do?” hbr.org, August 21, 2013, https://hbr.org/2013/08/whats-a-working-dad-to-do; Gayle Kaufman, “Barriers to Equality: Why British Fathers Do Not Use Parental Leave,” Community, Work & Family 21, no. 3 (2018): 310–325.
3. Stewart D. Friedman and Alyssa Westring, “Empowering Individuals to Integrate Work and Life: Insights for Management Development,” Journal of Management Development 34, no. 3 (April 2015): 299–315.
Chapter 17
1. Billy Baker, “The Biggest Threat Facing Middle-Age Men Isn’t Smoking or Obesity. It’s Loneliness,” Boston Globe, March 9, 2017, https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2017/03/09/the-biggest-threat-facing-middle-age-men-isn-smoking-obesity-loneliness/k6saC9FnnHQCUbf5mJ8okL/story.html.
2. The quotes and much of the advice in this article are adapted from my book: S. Behson, The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home (Melbourne, FL: Motivational Press, 2015).
3. Leah Eichler, “Double Duty: The Plight of the Working Dad,” Globe and Mail, March 1, 2013, https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/career-advice/life-at-work/double-duty-the-plight-of-the-working-dad/article9213833/.
4. City Dads Group, https://citydadsgroup.com/.
Chapter 18
1. Stewart D. Friedman and Jeffrey H. Greenhaus, Work and Family—Allies or Enemies? (New York: Oxford University Press, 2000).
2. Rachel G. Lucas-Thompson, Wendy A. Goldberg, and JoAnn Prause, “Maternal Work Early in the Lives of Children and Its Distal Associations with Achievement and Behavior Problems: A Meta-analysis,” Psychological Bulletin 136, no. 6 (2010): 915–942, https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/bul-136-6-915.pdf.
Chapter 21
1. Gang Wang et al., “Transformational Leadership and Performance Across Criteria and Levels,” Group & Organization Management 36, no. 2 (2011), https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1059601111401017.
2. Laura Parks-Leduc, Gilad Feldman, and Anat Bardi, “Personality Traits and Personal Values: A Meta-analysis,” Personality and Social Psychology Review 19, no. 1 (2015), https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1088868314538548.
3. David A. Kenny and Linda K. Acitelli, “Accuracy and Bias in the Perception of the Partner in a Close Relationship,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 80, no. 3 (2001): 439–448, https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2001-16719-006.