By now it's no doubt clear to you that each type can contribute significant value—as a partner, within a team, and to an organization—and that the needs of each differ, often dramatically. We've shared lots of details about each type's nightmare work scenarios, how these situations can negatively affect their performance, and what can help make things better for them (and for you). Now we're going to tackle this issue from a slightly different angle. In this chapter we'll specifically address how your type impacts the ways in which you should flex to best work with others.
Flex is a funny word, because it can mean seemingly contradictory things—to bend and stretch, but also to tighten and contract. We like that apparent incongruity because the concept here is that sometimes you need to tweak your style to adjust to other people's needs, while also being true to yourself. There's an inherent and healthy tension in that. You shouldn't become a different person and act completely out of character, but you should make an effort to accommodate others' preferences and needs. That's how you exercise that gem-grade empathy mentioned in Chapter 1, and how you ultimately create powerful relationships. And hopefully the other person is flexing too so you can meet in the middle, like the rubber bands Kim talked about in chapter 14. When it comes to one-on-one relationships, how you go about flexing, and how challenging it's likely to be, depends on your type and that of the other person.
We'll start with flexing to your opposite type, because it's often the most difficult for people, particularly if one or both of you are on the more extreme end for your type. Flexing to your opposite usually requires conscious focus and lots of practice. It's worth it because the strengths of your opposite type are often in the areas where you have weaknesses, so working together can be really powerful. Just like a certain pair of twins from another planet—remember that cartoon? “Wonder Twin powers activate!” When the twins were out of each other's reach they couldn't activate their shape-shifting powers. It was only together that they were super heroes. But you don't need to be a shapeshifter to flex to your opposite type. We've already given you lots of clues for how to do it. Remember?
Let us remind you, just in case. We suspect as you read the previous four chapters you may have paid particular attention to the chapter about your own type, sort of like when you look through your old high school yearbooks. That's me! There I am again! But may we gently suggest you tear yourself away from your own image and do a thorough read-through of the chapter about your opposite type. There, you'll find lots of ideas about what your opposite type wants and needs, and how you might contribute to making conditions right for them to perform at their best. After all, isn't that what you want from all of your colleagues, team members, and stakeholders?
We know that more information is sometimes better—especially when doing something that may be unfamiliar—so the next four pages offer more specific hints for how to go about flexing to your opposite type.
As a Guardian you may not realize that imposing too much structure or specifying too many details about a project can box a Pioneer in and leave them without the space they want to get creative. Backing off and providing more high-level guidance instead of detailed instructions might be the key.
Our overall recommendation for engaging a Pioneer is go big, buckle up, and enjoy the ride!
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If you're an anything-goes Pioneer, you might be challenged to provide an environment where a more practical Guardian will thrive. You may want to give more consideration to the structure they crave and the time and information they need to make a decision.
Our overall recommendation for engaging a Guardian is be prepared.
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As an Integrator, you may be so diplomatic and dead-set on providing lots of context that a Driver loses patience or is left not understanding what your stance on an issue actually is. You may need to work toward being more direct and concise so they know where you stand and you don't lose their attention before they get there.
Our overall recommendation for engaging a Driver is to be smart, be quick, be gone.
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As a Driver you may mistakenly try to push an Integrator in a particular direction with a black-and-white, logical argument, since that tends to work best for your own Driver-nature. Instead, slow down and focus in on the person in front of you to bring them along more gradually.
Our overall recommendation for engaging an Integrator is to practice a bit of give and take.
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You may think that when you're working with someone who's the same type as you, you're on easy street. But like-type pairs can quickly find themselves in trouble. Two Drivers might end up in a power struggle, while a pair of Integrators may get stuck in an endless loop of considering and reconsidering every option in light of all the input they've gathered. A couple of Guardians together may analyze a problem to death and never make a decision, while a Pioneer duo might make very little progress on some really great ideas because they come up with even more great ideas before they can implement the first ones.
If you find yourself in a situation with someone of your same type, your goal is still to flex, but not to get closer to the other person's style. Instead, you want to get a little bit further away. You might do this by digging deeper and channeling your secondary type, like we talked about in Chapter 7. For example, if you're an Integrator working with another Integrator, lean into your Pioneer or Guardian traits to bring a different perspective into the mix. The great thing is, if you and your colleague are both in the Business Chemistry boat you can acknowledge what you're trying to do. You might say something like, “Since we're both Integrators I'm afraid we're going to have a hard time landing on a final answer, so I'm going to channel my secondary Pioneer to help get us there.” Your fellow seadog will know just what you mean.
The next page offers some quick tips for each of the types to help prevent your greatest strengths from becoming your greatest weaknesses.
Try to bring things back down to earth. After you've enjoyed some time brainstorming cool ideas, focus on developing actionable next steps so the path forward becomes clear.
While debating an issue, avoid tunnel vision by bringing up context or the human implications to get a broader view. Otherwise you may end up driving a bus together with no one else on board.
Temper your shared desire to explore all alternatives and settle on a direction. If there's an elephant in the room address it, even if it's uncomfortable.
Challenge yourself to ask whether the current way of doing things is really the best way to reach your goal. Avoid fixating on unknowns and instead focus on what is necessary to move ahead.
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So we've covered how you might need to flex to your opposite type and flex away from your own type. But what about the other types—those with whom you share some traits despite your differences? We'd like to invite you to sit on the floor for a moment. Come on, give it a try… chances are you've been sitting in that chair too long anyway. Now, put your feet straight out in front of you and reach for your toes (without bending your knees!). Is it challenging? Probably. (If not, then we'd like to know your stretching regimen so we can adopt it.) Now reach for your shins; it should be easier. Flexing to your adjacent type is more like reaching for your shins than your toes. You might feel the pull a little, but likely not too much. Here are some tips.
If you're a PIONEER working with a DRIVER… |
Your naturally bold and quick thinking is likely to engage a Driver. Go ahead and bring your out-of-the-box ideas; Drivers like to explore too. And feel free to spar a little, you're both likely to thrive on it. But don't lose sight of logic or practicality. Pie-in-the-sky isn't going to work here and ill-considered risks will likely not be embraced. |
If you're a PIONEER working with a INTEGRATOR… |
You're likely to have a lot in common with an Integrator, including a tendency toward big-picture thinking, an appreciation for context, and an expressive, collaborative style. Your storytelling skills will be an asset, and if you can make your stories about people, even better. The Integrator is likely to move a bit more slowly than you and to spend more energy on gauging the opinions of other people, so hold your horses and indulge their desire to bring others along for the ride. |
If you're a GUARDIAN working with a DRIVER… |
Start with the punchline. Drivers appreciate logic, data, and analysis just like you do, but you'll lose a Driver's attention if you try to take them through your full thought process. Come prepared with the facts, but once they've gotten the point, stop talking. |
If you're a GUARDIAN working with a INTEGRATOR… |
The Integrator shares your distaste for confrontation, so make sure any issues that need to be discussed are surfaced and not ignored. Be patient with discussions that may seem tangential, an Integrator's way of thinking through an issue may be more roundabout than yours. Start with some personal connections before launching into planning, and then provide the facts and structure that an Integrator may not naturally seek, as well as the context they need. |
If you're a DRIVER working with a PIONEER… |
You and a Pioneer may find a groove by exploring new approaches and experimenting together. You can help bolster the ideas you co-create by providing the facts to support them, but be careful not to go too deep into logic; Pioneers are more interested in possibility. You may also need to be cautious about being overly direct or trying to run the show. Pioneers are very collaborative but they also like to be in charge and bristle against feeling controlled. |
If you're a DRIVER working with a GUARDIAN… |
You may need to access your reserve tank of patience. Like you, Guardians thrive on facts and data, but they're likely to need more of both than you are, and they'll probably take longer in considering them. Be prepared to continue reviewing the details even if you've already reached a conclusion yourself, and don't attempt to take shortcuts. |
If you're an INTEGRATOR working with a PIONEER… |
You and a Pioneer could be great collaborators, as you both value working closely with others. You may also enjoy thinking big together, but don't forget to address critical details, something neither of you is likely to do naturally. You might need to pick up the pace, as Pioneers like to move quickly and they may feel impatient with your tendency to consider things more thoroughly. |
If you're an INTEGRATOR working with a GUARDIAN… |
A Guardian will likely appreciate your tendency to be introspective and considered; it's something you have in common. Your nonconfrontational style can also be an asset, because a Guardian is likely to be as conflict-avoidant as you are. Just make sure that important issues get addressed when needed, even if they're difficult to broach. You may need to adjust your level of structure and focus a bit to fit with a Guardian. Your non linear thinking style can feel scattered to them and your big-picture focus won't give them the specifics they're likely to need. |
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One final note about flexing. So far we've focused primarily on how to flex in one-on-one relationships. In the next chapter we'll address how to make Business Chemistry work on your teams, those you interact with on a somewhat regular basis. In both cases you're likely able to observe people over time to develop a hunch about their type, and you probably have the opportunity and incentive to adapt your style, and/or the broader environment, to be more effective together. But what about situations where you're interacting with a group of people that you don't know, or that you've met only once?
Take for instance, a sales presentation. You enter a bland conference room, and around the table eyeballs stare back at you. You might know the names of a few people in attendance, but others you've never met before. How do you use Business Chemistry in a context like that?
Well, to start, it helps to have a sense of the power dynamics. Who is the decision maker in the room? Who is the influencer? Try to do some homework in advance to get a sense of their Business Chemistry; the Internet is your friend in times like this. If you can develop a hunch based on what you find, great (look back at our tips in Chapter 7). You want to tailor your style to those people if you can. If you don't know who has the power, watch the others in the room. Who are they deferring to? Who do they look at most frequently? These are small clues that can give you a sense of the dynamics you're dealing with.
If you really don't have much to go on or aren't confident in your hunch, it's best to assume you'll have all types in the room. Here are some things to consider doing when going in blind:
Ultimately, our recommendation is to prepare like a boy or girl scout would. Make sure you have something for each of the types, try some of the tips we've proposed, and then watch the room. See how people respond and then go from there. We've given you lots of suggestions for how to relate to each type already, but here's one last cheat sheet.
Sure, you can't please everyone all the time, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try.
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