A serious, but largely overlooked, problem in philanthropy is feeling overwhelmed. You know what I'm talking about. You might have woken up this morning feeling overwhelmed by the day ahead of you. You could feel overwhelmed right now. It might be because the ideas you're reading about in this book are triggering changes you want to make, but you aren't yet sure how to make them. Or you might be overwhelmed because you haven't gotten around to scheduling the dental appointment, dermatology check-up, and half dozen other health appointments you should probably make.
What is overwhelm? According to wellness writer Michelle Rees, “Overwhelm happens when the sheer volume of thoughts feelings, tasks, and stimuli in our daily environment shifts our brain and nervous system into a reactive, stressed state.”1 The result? Easy things become hard and hard things become impossible.
I felt that way recently while trying to finish up work, pack for a long weekend, take my daughter back-to-school shopping, and register my kids for dance class—all before noon!
In addition to zapping our creativity and problem-solving skills, overwhelm creates a relentless cycle of inactivity. We stop in our tracks. We don't know the right path forward, which step to take, or even what direction to choose. Overwhelm costs money, drains time, and suffocates talent.
Think feeling overwhelmed is not a big deal for philanthropists? Think again.
Think of the woman who is so overwhelmed with managing her family foundation after the death of her husband that she cannot even consider potential solutions, such as transitioning the foundation into an easier-to-manage donor-advised fund, or retaining a consultant to help her run it. The foundation falls into disarray, fails to make its 5% payout, and triggers tax penalties.
Think of the CEO of a philanthropy-serving organization who feels overwhelmed by the prospect of firing her communications director, because she's worried that she won't have any communications support during a major change in the organization's strategy. She tolerates the communication director's poor performance and bullying behavior, which results in a toxic work environment, low staff morale, low productivity, and poor communications. As a result, two top performers leave in frustration.
In my experience, philanthropists experience six distinct types of overwhelm. As you read the list, jot down how many of these you've experienced in the past year.
Feeling overwhelmed is delusional because you don't recognize the damage it's causing you and your philanthropy. You don't know how much control you have to reduce overwhelm. And you aren't doing anything about it. Overwhelm is holding you back from changing the world, and you're allowing it to do so.
Let's look at what's contributing the feeling of overwhelm. As you read, make a note of when you take one of these actions. Also, pay attention to how much is within your control.
As odd as it seems, overwhelm often comes more from our minds than from the physical world. That is, we may indeed have a boatload of tasks to take care of, but how we view our situation has a lot to do with whether we feel helplessly overwhelmed or appropriately busy. Our thoughts tip the boat in one direction or the other.
Here are eight ways you unintentionally contribute to a feeling of overwhelm:
But being busy and feeling overwhelmed is not a badge of honor. Your booked schedule is not proof of your importance. It's probably proof of your exhaustion! In fact, keeping busy might be a form of procrastination. Instead of stuffing our calendars, we need to create more unstructured time to relax, think, and do nothing. In fact, studies show that periods of being idle makes us more creative and better at problem solving.3
The “busy brag” is also contagious and can negatively impact organizational cultures. Netflix and Virgin Group have begun combating this by offering employees unlimited vacation time. Not only does this help them attract top talent, it neutralizes a culture of “busy bragging” even as employees are still held accountable for results.4 Carl Richards, author of The Behavior Gap, offers this practical advice: “Take the ‘busy’ badge, throw it in the trash, and replace it with one that says, ‘rested.’”5
One family foundation trustee described the chaos her family experienced without a grantmaking process. The board had no process or schedule for reviewing proposals or approving grants. This was intentional, because they thought the lack of a grantmaking system would allow them to be nimble and make quick decisions. In fact, the opposite was true. “We were all over the place. … As proposals rolled in, we had to drop what we were doing and respond. We felt like we were being really responsive. But really, we were just disorganized. On one hand we'd say we needed to hurry, but then we'd reschedule board meetings, and funding decisions got postponed for six months.”6
For example, Business of Good Foundation (Ohio) supports mentoring to help first-generation, low-income college students persist to college graduation. It does this by supporting America Mentors, which uses MentorcliQ technology on a smartphone or tablet to match students with mentors and enable guided interactions between these pairs, fostering strong relationships through timely and relevant conversations. All for free. The outcome? More than 3,000 students have been mentored and graduation rates increased from 8% in 2011 to 80% in 2017. The foundation hopes there will be a time when all first-generation college students have mentors.7
Why invest in outside help? I can think of at least three reasons:
First, you will free up your time and brainpower to do what you are best at. If you're best at engaging employees in meaningful volunteer opportunities, why would you spend your time on data entry?
Second, you can always improve. Why be good when you can be great? Why be great when you can be fabulous? A trusted advisor can help you prioritize your goals and hold you accountable for meeting them.
Third, when you invest in people who are smarter and better at an activity than you are, you might find that the quality of your organization's work improves dramatically. After all, if you have an entire group of people attacking projects from their own individual strengths, things start getting done quickly.
What amazes me about the list above is that everything on it is usually within our power to change—or at least influence. In many ways, we enable and facilitate our own feelings of overwhelm.
Of course, overwhelm is also triggered and exacerbated by experiences and traumas beyond our control. You might live in a community experiencing a natural disaster or violence, experience racism or homophobia, have a serious health problem, or have lost a loved one. There are a lot of real-world factors that can overwhelm us, whether they come from our workplace, community, national politics, or personal identity and experience.
When oppression, physical health problems, mental health concerns, and similar major life issues are involved, it is important to take action. Counseling, support groups, religion, peer groups, and family can be powerful sources of strength. So too can volunteering, community organizing, and participating in social change activities to eradicate the situations that cause these types of traumas.
Sometimes the contributors to overwhelm are powerful and constant. Other times they are more subtle. Regardless, they all have an effect. Although we might not be able to remove some of these at their source, we can at least try to mitigate them. This can partially be accomplished by some of the techniques discussed in this book.
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