Index

acceptance

balance, 149–50

change, 157–58

community, 30, 68, 153, 158

empathy, 98, 140–42, 141, 160

exercises, 161–62

heartfulness, 14, 20, 141, 145–46, 150–54, 156–57, 158

Japanese culture, 142–50

liberation, 142, 148–58

loss, 159–60

maturity, 64, 73, 79, 116, 119

resilience, 145–49

suffering, 142–44

victimization, 154–55

vulnerability, 143, 152, 173

writing, 147–48

African-Americans, 56–59, 73, 74–75, 93

akido, 109

Alcoholics Anonymous, 133, 168

Anzaldua, Gloria, 101–2, 104

Arima, Hatsuko, 39

Arimoto, Yuko, 83–84

arugamama (unconditional acceptance), 156

Asian-Americans, 4–11, 58, 72–79, 94–97, 104, 110, 116, 149, 195

authenticity

community, 83–84, 87–91, 98–99

doubt, 80–81

empathy, 19, 83, 86, 91

exercises, 92

heartfulness, 14, 20, 43–44, 191

mindfulness, 80–81

parenting, 39, 89

passion, 84–86, 201

purpose, 83–86

self-acceptance, 76–80, 89, 90

vulnerability, 66–68, 77, 88, 97, 183

Autobiography of Malcolm X, The (Malcolm X), 74

Bashō, 10

“Beautiful Boy” (Lennon), 37

beginner’s mind

empathy, 54, 60, 77, 152

exercises, 45–46

health care, 33–37

heartfulness, 14, 19, 20

leadership, 40–44

mindfulness, 26–33

Zen, 23, 25–26

Benedict, Saint, 124–25

Bernstein, Leonard, 61

Black Panthers, 74

Blue Hawaii (Taurog), 72

Boggs, Grace Lee, 17, 199–201

Brown, H. Rap, 74–75

Buddhism, 7, 63, 144–45, 150, 168. See also Zen

Bush, Mirabai, 153–54, 208

Bushido, 3, 5, 116, 127, 177, 183, 190–91

Cambridge, Massachusetts, 24–25, 34

Camp Russell (Boy’s Club), 5–7

Canada, 53

Christianity, 85, 150–52, 159, 168, 193

Chua, Amy, 130

chugi (loyalty), 190–91

connectedness

community, 4–5, 13–14, 17–20, 32–33, 44, 52, 83, 90, 95–104, 107, 108, 166, 190, 206–10

empathy, 95, 97–113, 118, 198

exercises, 114

gratitude, 167–68, 180–82

heartfulness, 152–53, 197

identity, 94–95, 101, 103–4, 109–11

suffering, 111–12

vulnerability, 53, 108

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly, 90

Dalai Lama, 144–45, 168–69, 187, 193

Davis, Angela, 153, 206

death, 3–5, 65, 90, 116–19, 141, 147, 173–77, 183–84, 192

Dharamsala, India, 168

dharma, 181, 204

“Duck Syndrome,” 59–60

dukkha (suffering), 144

Dweck, Carol, 62–63

East Asian medicine, 28, 33–36, 55

Einstein, Albert, 26, 78, 98–99, 166–67

Eliot, T. S., 97

Ellison, Ralph

Invisible Man, 74

Epictetus, 151

Erikson, Erik, 76, 202

exercises, 21–22, 45–46, 70, 92, 114, 137, 161–62, 185–86, 211

Frankl, Victor, 141

Franklin, Aretha, 74

Freud, Sigmund, 155

Fromm, Erich, 198

Fujiwara, Michinaga, 2

ganbaru (do your best), 145–46, 147

Gandhi, Mahatma, 197

Ganz, Marshall, 199

Gaye, Marvin, 74

Gelb, David

Jiro Dreams of Sushi, 84

Gibran, Kahlil, 38

giri (loyalty to the group), 192–93

Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 34, 109

Gonzales, Mark, 204

gratitude

acceptance, 143, 148, 164–69

community, 19, 140, 149, 166–68, 182–84

empathy, 119, 180

exercises, 185–86

forgiveness, 171–73

heartfulness, 14, 20, 165, 171–73, 179

illness, 173–77

leadership, 178–79

parenting, 177–78

practice, 180–81

self-reflection, 169–84

teaching, 177–78

Great Hanshin-Awaji Earthquake, Japan (1995), 147–48

Hagakure (book), 127, 191

Hammarskjold, Dag, 107, 202

Harvard University, 12, 26–27, 34–35, 53–59, 62, 121, 123, 194–95

hatamoto. See samurai

health care, 33–37, 58–59, 129, 133, 173–77. See also psychology/psychiatry/psychotherapy

Hillel, Rabbi, 199

Hinduism, 168

hineni (here I am), 101

Holt, A-lan, 204

hooks, bell, 32, 66–67, 73

Ichi-go, Ichi-e (one moment, one meeting), 3, 28–31

Ieyasu,Tokugawa, 2, 47

indigenous peoples, 53

Invisible Man (Ellison), 74

Islam, 168

itadakimasu (I gratefully receive), 166

James, William, 81, 201

Japan, ix–x, 2, 8, 14, 34, 35, 55, 66, 76–77, 83–84, 94–95, 131– 32, 142–50, 164–66, 188, 190–93

Jibun (self), 191

Jiro Dreams of Sushi (Gelb), 84

Jobs, Steve, 81–83, 85

Judaism, 168, 199

Jung, Carl, 126, 155

Kabat-Zinn, Jon, 1, 16, 206

Kalanithi, Paul, 142

kanji (characters), 4, 16, 17, 31, 66, 122, 167, 190, 193, 197

kansha (gratitude), 167

Katz, Richard, 34, 53–55

Ki (healing energy), 36–37

kiku (listen), 122–23

King, Martin Luther Jr., 154, 200

kintsugi (art form of imperfection), 51–52

kokoro (wholeness), xi, 16

Kyoto, Japan, 43

Lennon, John, 37

“Beautiful Boy,” 37

Levy, David M., 46

Mindful Tech, 46

Life-Works program, 60–61

“Lion’s Roar,” 7–8

listening

active, 127–30

American culture, 132

community, 108, 131–36

empathy, 36, 105, 109, 116, 117–19, 120, 121, 123–36

exercises, 137

heartfulness, 14, 17, 20, 68, 120–23, 126–29, 132, 134, 136

leadership, 134–35

learning, 25–26, 34, 61, 67, 90, 123–24

parenting, 39–40, 130–31

storytelling, 132–33

Lorde, Audre, 71, 196

loving-kindness, 21–22, 90, 193, 201

ma (empty space), 131

Malcolm X

The Autobiography of Malcolm X, 74

Mandela, Nelson, 103–4

Matsumoto, Saemon, 2

Matsuyama, Japan, 77

MBSR. See Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction

meditations, 21–22

Meyers, Yoshiko, 116, 117–19, 120, 121, 136

mindfulness

acceptance, 49–50

attention, 26–27

authenticity, 90–91

beginner’s mind, 42–44

community, 17–20, 97–99

compassion, 14, 15, 16–17, 20, 23, 31, 33, 37, 38, 44, 51, 64, 65, 76, 86, 98–99, 105–8, 109, 112–13, 118– 22, 129, 135, 136, 145, 149, 153–54, 156–57, 172– 73, 191, 193, 194, 200, 201, 203, 204, 206, 208

diversity, 18, 28–29, 30, 35–36, 48–50, 52, 56–59, 81, 94–97, 100, 102, 103–4

education/teaching, 24–25, 29–33, 37, 52

health care, 33–37, 58–59, 173–77

leadership, 40–42

parenting, 37–40

psychology, 12–14, 32, 33, 34–37, 38, 53–64, 66, 81, 84, 87–91, 99, 106, 121, 127, 144–45, 157–58, 169–73, 178, 180, 193, 201, 202–3

respect, xi, 18–19, 38–40, 51, 52, 55, 67, 68, 99–103, 109, 113, 126, 127–28, 129, 134, 147, 149, 158, 163, 182

science/technology, 15–16, 18, 34

social justice, 12–14, 204–9

storytelling, 19, 20

vulnerability, 49–59, 62–65

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, 37

Mindful Tech (Levy), 46

Miss Universe contest, 110

Mitsufuji, Hidehiko, 34

Miyamoto, Ariana, 110

mono no aware (sadness in awareness of transcience), 51

Morimoto, Kiyo, 34–35, 123–24, 142–44

Morita, Shoma, 155–58

Morita Therapy, 148–49, 155–58

mottainai (aversion to waste), 166

Murphy-Shigematsu, Stephen

When Half Is Whole: Multi ethnic Asian American Identities, 87

mushin (no heart), 52

Naikan Therapy, 148–49, 169–73

namaste (I bow to the divine in you), 101

“Nana-Korobi, Ya-Oki” (“Fall seven times, get up eight”), 146

Native Son (Wright), 74

Nazis, 141

Niebuhr, Reinhold, 150–51

ninjo (human feeling), 192–93

Nitobe, Inazo, 190–91

Nobel Peace Prize, 107

nosotros (we; all of us), 102

Nouwen, Henri, 132

Obama, Michelle, 163

okagesama de (gratitude to others), 166

Ono, Jiro, 84

Ototake, Hirotada, 109–10

Parker, Pat, 93, 100

Pearce, Barnett, 174

Pierce, Chester, 34, 56–59

powell, john a., 198, 201

Presley, Elvis, 72

qigong, 28, 55

Ram Dass, 153–54, 208

Rogers, Carl, 89, 127, 157–58

Rolling Stones, 160

Roxbury, Massachusetts, 58–59

Rumi, 131, 139

sabi (fleeting nature of beauty), 50–51

sabishii (lonely), 50

samurai, 2–3, 49, 73, 76, 94, 177, 191

Sato, Isao, 148

Savannah, Georgia, 12

sawubona (I see you), 101

Second World War, 142–44

sensei (teacher), 65–69

Serenity Prayer, 150–52, 154, 155–56

service

community, 19, 84, 91, 191–93, 198

exercises, 211

fear, 196–97

heartfulness, 20, 107, 197, 198, 204–10

leadership, 199–210

loyalty, 190–93

responsibility, 194–98, 201–4

suffering, 194–95

Shaw, George Bernard, 201

shikata ga nai (nothing can be done), 49, 116, 142–44, 147, 151, 155

South Africa, 103–4

Stanford University, 29, 58–59, 62, 81, 88, 195–96, 204–5

Steindl-Rast, Br. David, 181, 182

Stenzel, Ana, 39, 173–74

Suzuki, Shunryu, 23, 117

Taoism, 150

Taurog, Norman

Blue Hawaii, 72

Temptations, 74

Thatchenkery, Toto, 178

Thich Nhat Hanh, 115, 135–36

Tibet, 168

Tokuda, Tsutomo, 34, 36–37

Tokyo, Japan, 50, 76, 175, 188

Ueshiba, Morihei, 109

United Nations, 107, 202

United States

armed forces, 40–42, 104, 142, 205

internment camps, 143–44

VUCA. See Vulnerability, Understanding, Connectedness, and Agility (VUCA)

vulnerability

authenticity, 42–43

education, 53–64

empathy, 17, 19, 30, 37, 54–59, 67–68

exercises, 70

heartfulness, 30, 37, 42, 43, 55–56, 67–69, 108, 145, 183, 191

helplessness, xii, 48–49

Japanese culture, 50–53

parenting, 64–65

power, 8, 14, 55–56

psychology, 53–59

teaching, 59–69

Vulnerability, Understanding, Connectedness, and Agility (VUCA), 41–42

wabi sabi (absence of materials and material concerns), 51, 52, 67–68

Wakayama, Japan, 142

West, Cornel, 197

When Half Is Whole: Multiethnic Asian American Identities (Murphy-Shigematsu), 87

Wright, Richard

Native Son, 74

Yoshimoto, Ishin, 169

Zajonc, Arthur, 32

Zen, 8, 25, 55, 63–64, 66, 90, 135, 148–49, 155

Zen 2.0 (conference), 8