ONCE YOU ASSUME the role of manager, all eyes are on you. Beyond knowledge and skill, you have to show that you are credible, competent, and trustworthy to be a successful manager. How you present yourself, how you communicate, and how you act all reflect on the type of leader and person you are. The questions and answers in this section reflect on those traits that project confidence, credibility, and integrity.
Question: I understand that creating a personal brand is important. I expect the discussions in this section are inspiring. How do I encapsulate, protect, and maintain my brand?
Answer: Your brand is important. It helps to define who you are as a person and a manager. Acting consistently and with integrity is one of the most important things that you can do to preserve it. When people know they can count on you to act in a certain manner in every situation, you gain credibility and their trust. You are known as someone who can be relied on to get things accomplished and produce results. As you conduct yourself in your personal and professional life, remember:
Integrity and respect should be the cornerstones of your brand. Always put ethics at the forefront. Hard work goes into building your brand, so you're wise to protect it. It will serve you well throughout your career.
Question: I've heard other people say that it takes courage to be a manager, but I'm not sure what that means. How do I as a manager exhibit courage in the workplace?
Answer: Being courageous is a critical component of being a manager. Courageous managers are the people who earn the trust of others and who succeed where others fail. A manager who is courageous doesn't keep his or her head down and go along with everything and everyone. One way to show courage is to be comfortable speaking up when you think a peer or member of the senior management team, including the CEO, is about to make a strategic or even legal mistake. Courage in the workplace means having the integrity to speak or act in situations in which you know the organization is heading in the wrong direction and may be unwilling to change.
Don't be afraid to respectfully confront situations you think are wrong or need improvement. Present alternative options when you believe options are being overlooked. Strong leaders surround themselves with people whom they consider advisors–people who are competent and don't shrink from telling the truth, especially when they think a leader is wrong. Be secure in your own abilities and knowledge to speak up. People who provide a different point of view, or explain why they think something needs to change, exhibit courage and integrity.
Confront wrongdoing that you observe, even if it is occurring outside of your chain of command. If you hear about wrongdoing second-hand, report it to the appropriate resource in the organization. Don't be afraid about stepping on toes. It could help avoid legal or public relations risk.
Courageous leaders will not only speak out, take an opposing point of view, or confront situations and bad decisions, they will also suggest and advocate for ideas and positions that may be unpopular. They are not afraid to put the interests of an employee, their team, or even the larger organization above their own self interests. They move beyond the “what's in it for me” mentality, sometimes to their own detriment, because they have the vision to see greater, long-term outcomes.
Courageous managers also solicit feedback from their teams. This starts with getting to know your people. Listen to them, take advice, and act on sound recommendations. Be willing to admit what you don't know. Encourage staff to offer ideas, comments, and criticism, and don't allow other team members to filter information, even if it's bad news. You should not filter information from your team, unless that information is confidential or proprietary.
If you maintain a climate of openness in which everyone is comfortable speaking up and bringing information and ideas to you, or soliciting your ideas, you'll gain respect and show that you have the courage to lead your team.
Question: I intend to be the best manager I can be. Can you share some best practices or resources for me to up my game?
Answer: You probably know that there are a lot of books, webinars, podcasts, YouTube videos, and so much more available to you with tips on how to be the best manager ever. Here are a few of what we think are the best strategic actions you can take:
Following these steps will help you become a better manager, but don't ever stop adding to your skill set as a manager. Check out the Resources section of this book for good sources of additional information on becoming the best manager you can be.
Question: I've heard that successful managers think like entrepreneurs. If that's true, how do I do that?
Answer: Your question indicates that you've already begun to do so by thinking outside of the box. One way to approach this challenge is to consider the characteristics that make a good entrepreneur. These include the following (and there are certainly others):
What was successful about the implementation of the new process? Can you replicate it for another process? What would you do differently? When will you analyze the new processes effectiveness and make any necessary adjustments? These are the questions an entrepreneur will be asking.
Entrepreneurs bring a great deal of clarity to their vision. When they embark on something, there is no ambiguity. They are purposeful in their endeavors. Everything is intentional, even if the intent is to learn and explore. Finally, they are great at networking. They seek out people and groups with whom they can connect and because of their curious nature, they can elicit interesting and useful information and build meaningful relationships.
Question: I've been really surprised about the countless rumors that appear to be circulating among my team members, most of which are untrue. I'm overhearing most of this gossip and I'm not sure how to address it. I'd like to just ignore them and hope they'll stop. Should I take any action?
Answer: Not only are rumors unproductive and disruptive in the workplace, you're risking your personal credibility by simply ignoring them. You are right to consider taking action. As a manager, you want to send a strong message about integrity, and you can do so by confronting the rumors and setting the record straight with facts. Be proactive rather than hope the rumor mill will stop operating. One thing you can do is to address the rumors in a staff meeting, which not only provides the opportunity for everyone to ask questions, but it also lets your team know that you value open and factual communication.
Establishing and maintaining your personal integrity as a manager are so important to your success. Some things that you can do personally to promote an ethical work environment are:
Question: This is the year I want to move forward in my organization. What should I do so I can position myself for career growth?
Answer: Before you start thinking about getting promoted, be sure you are doing the best job possible right now. It's easy get complacent while you focus on your next career move, but you'll never move up in your organization if you aren't at least a solid performer in your current job! Better yet, you need to be consistently exceeding expectations so that when you ask to take on new responsibilities or to move to the next level, your organization will consider you for the job.
Once you're sure you are exceeding expectations, volunteer for additional assignments where you will gain visibility in your organization. Is there a task force you might serve on? Is there an interdepartmental project you could volunteer for? If you do get to be on a task force or do a special project, do great work there while keeping up your current responsibilities at a high level.
Research the kinds of experience, knowledge, skills, and education the job you want requires and put together a plan to match up the requirements with your background. Your HR department should be able to help you evaluate your skill set as compared to the job requirements.
If your organization offers career development webinars, podcasts, training programs, or any other way to gain new knowledge, be sure you take full advantage of what's offered. This is also a great time to seek out a mentor in the area you'd like to work in, and gain knowledge and experience from interacting with your mentor. You can also offer to be a mentor to someone else in the organization. Take advantage of your education reimbursement program, if offered, to complete your degree or add a certification that may be important for the position you want.
If your firm doesn't offer employee development opportunities, you can still build your skill set. There are lots of free webinars available, and don't overlook YouTube and TED Talks as free but excellent sources of skill-building opportunities. Look for articles and books that will add to your knowledge and put you in a better position to be promoted.
Once you're sure you are as prepared as you can be, talk with your manager and get feedback on whether you might be a candidate for the next opening. If you hear that you need to gain experience or develop a skill in a particular area, take that feedback to heart and continue to prepare yourself for the next level.
Question: Our organization has had some ups and downs recently, and I sense some of our staff aren't firmly in our camp. I really want my employees to trust me and our organization. What can I do to build trust?
Answer: I hope what's been happening in your organization hasn't been too difficult or hasn't made its way into the press, because if and when organizations or managers don't live their values or do what they promise to do, trust goes right out the window.
Trust can't be demanded. It must be earned over time and through consistent behavior and actions. Rebuilding trust is even more difficult but critical to your organization's success, because when trust is broken productivity usually suffers.
We know that employees want transparency. They want to know what's happening in your organization and/or department and they want to know the good, bad, and ugly. So, start by being honest with your team. Of course, there will be things you as a manager know about that will not be appropriate to share, and you will get more comfortable with these issues as you grow as a manager. For example, if layoffs are being discussed, you would not want to discuss this with your employees until final decisions are made and you've been trained in what to say and how to say it.
One of the best ways to build trust is to listen to your people. Spend time getting to know each of your direct reports, and listen carefully to their questions and comments. If your organization does employee surveys or focus groups to measure engagement, pay close attention to the results and take action when appropriate.
Being consistent is a great trust-building strategy. Your employees want to trust you so keep your word. If there is ever a time when you can't do what you promised, let your team know why and do it quickly. Sometimes there will be issues out of your control so share why you couldn't keep a commitment and move on.
Admit when you're wrong. It is hard to trust someone who isn't secure enough to admit a mistake. This is a difficult lesson for many managers who don't want to appear not to know everything. But, no one knows everything and there will be times when you make a mistake so learn how to “own it.” A heartfelt “I'm sorry” goes a long way to building trust.
Never bad-mouth one of your employees to another team member! This is a surefire way to destroy all you've done to build trust.
Never ask an employee to tackle a job you're not willing to do yourself. In fact, a great way to build trust is to work alongside your employees on a project so that they see your commitment to them and to your work.
Always give credit where credit is due. Recognizing good work done by your team is a great way to not only build their skills and their confidence but their trust in you. And, it probably goes without saying, but don't ever take credit for something you didn't do!
Building trust is not a one-time event. You will be working on this your entire management career and it is well worth the effort.
Question: I work in an organization that works hard to support a positive culture. Even with quality programs and policy, disruptive behaviors occur. What can I do, personally, to keep such behavior to a minimum?
Answer: It's clear that you already realize that as a manager you play a big role in influencing the quality of the climate in your organization. There are a number of personal initiatives in which you can engage, starting with how you act, react, speak, and conduct yourself at work. Remember that your team and others are watching, so always act professionally, and be respectful and purposeful in your actions. Choose your words wisely.
Being proactive and taking action when disruptive behavior occurs not only maintains the organization's positive culture, it also builds your personal trust and credibility. Your employees will have confidence in you and the organization, and be proud to be a part of it.
Question: Our organization is committed to having a culture that is inclusive and respectful of everyone. I want to set a good example for my team members about the importance of diversity. Knowing that words matter, do you have any guidelines on using the correct terms and language to avoid offending anyone?
Answer: You are so right: Words do matter. It's not only the choice of words, but the tone that is used to convey the message. It is so important to choose your words carefully.
Language is symbolic, meaning there is an arbitrary connection between the symbols (words and phrases) and what they refer to. Stated another way, different words and phrases can have different meanings to other people, depending on their perspectives and experiences. In today's diverse workplaces, communication can be complex and challenging!
Formality is changing significantly in today's work environment, which is becoming more casual. Determine the level of formality within your organization. Is it acceptable to address people by their first name regardless of age and/or position? Whatever the norm, let new employees know what's expected. Rather than be stymied, the simplest solution is to ask someone what they liked to be called or how they like to be addressed.
Be wary of slang, jargon, acronyms, or insider expressions that come about through shared experiences, including shared experiences within the organization. It can make a newcomer, an external consultant, or a service provider feel like an outsider. If these terms are used, be sure to translate them so everyone has the same understanding.
Avoid words and phrases that may be offensive and keep in mind that acceptable terms and phrases can change. Use neutral words or words that are comparable (for example: black or white, gentleman or lady, man or woman). “Girls Night Out” could be acceptable if the comparable activity would be “Boys Night Out.” However, I'll have “my girl” get back to “your girl” is totally unacceptable. Imagine if you said, “I'll have ‘my boy’ get back to ‘your boy’! It should go without saying that any slang term for an ethnic group is not acceptable in the workplace, even used by someone from that group.
Don't use labels. You usually do not need them unless you are describing a person when physical appearance is essential. In that case, just state facts (about six feet tall, dark complexion, short beard, shoulder-length hair, blue jeans, red jacket, etc.). If you must use a label, refer to the person first and the descriptor second. The Americans With Disabilities Act is purposely not called the Disabled Americans Act. People are individuals first, not their disability.
Remember that communication is an important way to build positive relationships at work—with your team, your peers, and your managers. Paying attention to what you say and how you say it is an excellent way to start. However, keep in mind that you may say the wrong thing at times, or say the right thing in the wrong way. If that happens, don't berate yourself. Apologize, learn from your mistake, and move on.
Question: I understand that words matter, but actions and body language speak as well. What else can I do to model positive behavior that supports diversity and inclusion?
Answer: Fair treatment and inclusion of all employees does go well beyond words. There are so many examples of people not being included evenly. For example, in meetings all members are not polled for their opinions. Certain people are allowed to dominate. An idea comes from a woman and is ignored; it is repeated slightly differently later in the meeting by a man and is complimented/accepted. Be mindful and respectful of everyone present, even if you are not running the meeting. Acknowledge what everyone has to say. Remember that it is okay to gently interject if you notice someone is attempting to speak and someone else is dominating.
Gestures and expressions can often convey powerful messages. Negative messages can be sent through eye rolls, smirks, or other expressions of disinterest, such as listening with arms crossed, or looking at watches or electronic devices in meetings while others are talking. Don't tolerate this type of behavior from your team. It has the effect of devaluing other individuals by negatively impacting feelings of inclusion and self-esteem.
Diversity includes many types of differences from introverts and extroverts to ages and backgrounds. Keep in mind that treating people fairly is not the same as treating them equally. People are individual and unique, and each individual may need to respond or be treated differently in a given situation. It's not the easiest job for a manager, but it's an important concept to keep in mind.
Watch people's reactions. How are they receiving information from conversations? Private conversations might be necessary to understand preferences. Some people need more time to process information. Their great ideas may come hours after the meeting has concluded. Invite everyone to submit comments, thoughts, and ideas in writing as well.
If people have good ideas, achievements, and contributions, acknowledge them publicly, unless that is embarrassing to them. If so, thank them in private. Know how they react. The best managers give credit where credit is due and address shortcomings in private when necessary before they grow into big problems. Abide by the old saying “Praise publicly; reprimand in private.”
Finally, the most important compliment you can pay someone is to listen to them. Yet listening is probably the most misunderstood communication process we use. Be conscious of your listening habits. Make a conscious effort to hear what other people are saying. Turn off your listening filters and sharpen your listening skills.
It is good business to treat all people with respect, and this is reflected in an organization's profitability and its ability to attract and retain the best employees. If employees feel valued, their contributions to the organization will continue to grow over time.
Question: Now that I'm a manager, I know it's important to become a better listener. I'm trying to improve my listening habits and improve my skills. Any tips on what I can do?
Answer: Listening is probably the most misunderstood communication process we use. It takes some focus and patience, but if you are committed to sharpening your listening skills, it can be done. And, your better listening skills will not only be useful at work, they will help you with any relationship!
Let's start with what listening isn't. It's not, when the other person is talking, waiting for your turn to talk. If that's your approach to listening, that means you probably aren't even hearing what the other person is saying. You've focused on preparing what you're going to say when they finish!
Listening is hard work for most of us, and we've spent little time learning how to listen. A good listener makes a deliberate effort to understand the other person's message. A good listener listens to learn, is interested in what the speaker is saying, and lets the speaker know they're listening.
If you're serious about being a better listener, consider what's called “active listening.” It's the most powerful way to capture the entire message the speaker is attempting to convey. Here's how it works: While the speaker is talking, the active listener encourages the speaker to share by nodding, maintaining eye contact, a raised eye-brow, or a smile. These cues let the speaker know you hear them and want to know more. However, you have to really mean it. If you aren't sincere, the speaker will probably not want to continue to talk to you!
Another active listening technique is to paraphrase what you heard the speaker say (e.g., “I heard you say that my department needs to respond more positively to requests from your staff”). Then, if that's not what the speaker intended, the information can be clarified—but they will know you were listening!
As you work to improve your listening skills, consider what gets in your way. Maybe you're distracted by external noise or other people. If so, when you find yourself in that situation, ask the speaker if you can move to a quieter location. Maybe the timing is bad. If you're on a tight deadline and can't focus, ask if you can postpone the discussion until you can give it your full attention. Also consider any cultural barriers or differences that may get in the way of understanding. Maybe the speaker uses words or phrases you don't understand. If that's the case, ask for clarification.
Listening is such a critical skill, and we can learn to listen with the same amount of energy and enthusiasm we use when we talk. Yes, it takes additional work and concentration, but the payoff is great!
Question: I've been told that as a manager I should improve my accuracy in reading nonverbal communication. Why is reading nonverbal cues important and how can it help me better communicate?
Answer: Communication is more than just being articulate when you speak, more than just being able to write an outstanding report, and more than just listening with your ears when someone is talking. It's about relating to the other person or group of people. If you're not paying attention, the other person may state they understand, but their tone, facial expressions, or body language may be conveying a different message. You have to be able to read all the nonverbal clues you are receiving.
Nonverbal communication is important because it's an indicator of:
Being able to observe other people, especially when you are engaged in a direct conversations or encounters with someone, allows you to be comfortable. When you are comfortable with one another, you are able to relate to that person and track their ability to follow you. The result is that you are in sync with each other; you are communicating.
What exactly should you be observing?
In this process of observing others, you will learn to better read behavior and get a better sense of what the person is feeling. You will become more empathetic. Empathy is important because the other person may be reluctant or unable to express their feelings, especially to their manager. However, as a manager, it's important that you know and understand those feelings.
Certainly, if it's a negative message you're getting (anxiety, anger, or indifference), that's your cue to further explore the situation. If you miss these cues, you could be setting the other person or the team up for some difficult times. This is an opportunity to understand any underlying issues.
Communication is a two-way street. When you are communicating with someone, you have the responsibility for making sure your receiver gets the message you are sending. So don't just speak, communicate with your whole expressive self. Show through body language and expression how emotional you are about an idea or issue.
As a manager, the more you perfect your ability to read and send nonverbal cues, the more confident you will be in your impressions of people and your ability to assess them. As you learn to appreciate subtlety in messages, it will help you better understand each member of your team–what each person is capable of–and make good decisions about the work you all need to accomplish.
Question: I've heard that emotional intelligence is just as important to professional success as technical ability. Can you shed some light on this?
Answer: Emotions have a big impact in our interpersonal relationships with others, and they greatly affect our ability to work efficiently and harmoniously. We spend a great deal of time at work, so we want that time to be positive. Emotions, whether positive or negative, can be infectious. As an example, say an anxious or angry team member seeks your help, but their emotion has the effect of making you become more anxious or angry, impeding your ability to help them with the problem.
Too often in the workplace, there's an expectation to leave feelings at the door, but feelings and emotions are normal and natural human traits. It's important that you are aware of them and your ability to express them in a constructive way. That's where emotional intelligence comes in.
Emotional intelligence is a person's ability to recognize their own emotions, understand them, and realize that their emotions affect others around them. It also includes a person's perception of others—understanding how they feel. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence are keenly aware of their own emotions and don't let them control their actions or get out of control. They harness their emotions (a passion for excellence, for example) and put them to work for positive outcomes. Emotionally intelligent people can not only manage their own emotions but can influence the emotions of others. They are good at recognizing the feelings of others and thus can have a calming effect on them, making them less angry or anxious, for example, in a tense situation.
If you want to strengthen your emotional intelligence, here are some considerations:
When you find yourself in a particularly tense situation with someone, a team member, a peer, or even your boss, the following should help:
All of the qualities of a highly emotional intelligent individual (self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy) make the emotionally intelligent person a good listener and excellent at managing relationships, which are essential for managers and leaders.
Question: I'm finding that as a manager I need to compose more emails. What can I do to make sure they are clear and effective?
Answer: Most written communication today is taking the form of email, so your staff and leadership should be grateful that you recognize it's important. Because email is not interactive, it lacks the subtleties of face-to-face or telephone communication—nonverbal clues such as tone or body language. So getting your messages right is important. There are appropriate circumstances to use and avoid email.
Use email when:
Avoid email when:
In addition, there are protocols for email usage to which you should adhere. These include:
Question: As a new manager, I'm concerned that I may not always have the answers to all the questions I'm asked or a solution to every situation that arises. I don't want my team and peers to lose confidence in me. Any suggestions about how to handle these situations?
Answer: Nobody likes a know-it-all, so stop fretting. You're not a manager because you have all the answers to everything. Rather, it's because you can plan and organize work, hire the right people to do it, and make sure it gets done. Don't be afraid to show your vulnerabilities.
Start by recognizing your limitations and admit them to yourself. If there is an area that's critical to your team in which you're weak, make sure that you have someone who's strong in it. Don't be afraid to admit, “That's not something I'm particularly good at. Would you mind taking responsibility for this?” In doing so, you'll demonstrate not only your honesty, but your confidence to admit you are not an expert at everything. You also send the message that you recognize your team's expertise.
Next, admit to yourself that you don't know everything and get comfortable with that. Things are constantly changing in today's business environment, and you will encounter new things and plenty of gray areas. It's okay to admit you don't have all the answers. Face it head-on and ask others what they think. Consider saying:
If you don't understand something you are told, don't pretend you do. Ask for clarification. If you're not clear about something, don't assume. If you act on an assumption and you're wrong, you'll not only look foolish, you'll risk damaging your credibility.
Finally, admit and learn from your mistakes, and share those lessons. If your team is faced with a challenge similar to one you've encountered, they will be delighted to hear you say, “Let me tell you about a time I faced something similar and really messed up!” They will appreciate your candor and willingness to share what you learned so they can avoid a similar mistake.
When mistakes occur, whether it's your own or a member of your team's, take responsibility and don't assign blame. Assess the damage and offer some solutions; this can be a team effort if appropriate. Apologize to those affected by the mistake and let them know you're taking steps to prevent future occurrences. Then take steps to make sure it doesn't happen again.
Don't waste time and energy trying to make others think that you are perfect. You have limitations, cannot answer every question or fix every problem, and have made mistakes. You're not perfect, you're human. Your ability to spotlight your vulnerabilities will increase your credibility and gain the respect of your team, peers, and leadership.
Your personal brand is a key to your career success, and it's something that should always be developing and evolving. It lets people know what they can expect from you–that you're approachable, fair, ethical, or decisive, for example. Your brand sets a standard of respect for you and your organization, and an example for your team to model. Nothing and nobody can ever negatively affect your personal brand!
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