- Page numbers in italics refer to figures.
A
- Ableism, 83–86, 90–91, 98, 109
- Accountability, 152–154
- Achievement, 8–12, 63–75
- as learned orientation, 70–71, 73
- practice, 67–68
- and satisfaction, 72–74
- systems thinking, 68–70
- The Achievement Habit (Roth), 70
- Adam, Barbara, 79, 146
- Adaptation, 48–49, 144, 171, 179, 182
- Agency, 9, 59, 61, 70, 108, 143–144, 167, 179–181, 183
- Ahmed, Sara, 169
- Alderson, Arthur S., 72
- Amazon, 70
- Ambition, 9, 12, 20, 107–109, 179
- Ameliorative value, 147
- Anabaptism, 41
- &yet, 108
- Anxiety, 7, 9, 83, 89, 126
- Apps, 5, 63, 128
- Assumptions, 129, 141–142, 142, 188
- Atelic activities, 65–66
- Attenberg, Jami, 63
- Autism, 7–8, 28–29, 48–49, 51, 67, 84–86, 90–91, 130
- Autism in Adulthood (journal), 29
- Autistic masking, 29, 130, 180
- Avenir, Sara, 108–109
B
- Bandura, Albert, 108, 113–115, 149, 173
- Barry, Rita, 97–99, 106–108
- Becoming, 57–61, 115–119, 118
- Berger, Brittany, 86
- Beyoncé, 79–81, 92
- Bias, confirmation, 142
- “Big assumptions,” 142, 149
- Big Five personality traits, 47
- Big Mountain (Montana), 112–113, 121, 124
- Bingo, 17–18
- Bliss, Eula, 47
- The Body Is Not an Apology (Taylor), 16, 85
- Borders Books and Music, 4, 87
- Boundaries, 183
- Bowler, Kate, 5
- Brainstorming, 160–162
- Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking is Undermining America (Ehrenreich), 33
- Broken (in the Best Possible Way) (Lawson), 77
- brown, adrienne marie, 14, 73–74, 144
- Brown, Brené, 42
- Budgeting, 78
- Burnout, 9, 13, 23–25, 24, 43, 78, 78, 83, 130
- Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle (Nagoski), 25
- A Burst of Light (Lorde), 182
- But You Don't Look Sick (blog), 84
- Buy-in, 145–155
- accountability and motivation, 152–154
- cultivating of, 154–155
- discipline, 150–152
- Byrne, Rhonda, 4, 6
C
- Calvin, John, and Calvinsim, 39–40
- Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation (Peterson), 17, 26, 88
- Capacity, 8, 77–95, 108, 173, 183
- money, 91–92
- personal energy, 83–91
- renewable resources, 93
- skills, 92–93
- time, 79–83
- Capacity audit, 93–95
- Capitalism, 40–41, 44, 73, 74, 88, 107, 109, 148, 179
- Capitalist Realism (Fisher), 36
- Captain Picard (fictional character), 35
- Catholic Church, 39–40
- Choosing projects, 162–163
- Chunking, of projects, 166
- Clance, Pauline Rose, 22
- Clinton, Bill, and administration, 35
- Closed loop projects, 165
- Collective bargaining, 20
- College, 101
- Colonization, 73
- Commitments, 127–132
- Communities, 105
- Competing commitments, 140–141, 141, 143, 166
- Complicit suffering, 179–180
- Conditioning, 117–119, 188
- Confidence Culture (Orgad and Gill), 20
- Confirmation bias, 142
- Constructive development theory, 57–59, 140
- Constructivism, 57–58
- Consumer economy, 60
- Control, proactive vs. reactive, 114–115
- Country Living (magazine), 42
- Covert, Abby, 111
- COVID-19 pandemic, 60
- Creator economy, 54–55
- Critical thinking, 6, 147, 167, 184
- Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism (Montell), 157
- Cultural expectations, 59
- Cultural narratives, 31, 44
- Cultural programming, 34
- Cultural salvation, 43
- Cultures, 105
D
- Danny On Trail (Montana), 112
- Deadlines, 174
- De Beauvoir, Simone, 133
- Decision-making, financial, 179
- Deconstruction:
- of cultural narratives, 31
- and disorientation, 99
- and game theory, 117
- of relationship to goals, 12–16
- of social conditioning, 119, 134–135
- Deep Space Nine, 34
- Delay of work towards goals, 137
- Denying help, 178
- Depression, 7, 10, 85
- Destinations, 115–132
- Development, psychological, 57–58
- Developmentalism, 57–58
- Didion, Joan, 152
- Differences, overcoming, 34, 43, 43–44
- Directions, 133–144
- map-making, 137–140
- pursuing a strategy, 143–144
- strategies, 135, 135–137
- wanting to change, 140–143
- Disability, 21, 37, 52, 84
- Discipline, 150–152
- Disconnection, 38
- Discrepancy, 113, 113–115
- Disequilibrium, 114–115
- Disorientation, 99–102, 101
E
- Eating disorders, 10
- Economic policy, 19
- Economic salvation, 43
- Editing your plan, 171
- Educators, 55–56
- Efficiency, 56
- Ehrenreich, Barbara, 33
- The Electricity of Every Living Thing (May), 8
- Emergent strategy, 144
- Emotional labor, 83, 89–91, 130
- Employment benefits, 100–101
- Energy, personal, 83–91
- Enneagram, 47
- Equal opportunity, 39
- Equations, 187
- Eskandani, Shirin, 30
- Essential workers, 60
- The Ethics of Ambiguity (de Beauvoir), 133
- Etsy, 56
- Existential value, 147–148
- Expectations, 59, 83, 85–86
- External forces on identities, 57
F
- Fascination Advantage system, 47
- Feedback loops, 170–176, 174
- Feminism, 21
- Financial decision-making, 179
- Finesse, 175
- Fisher, Mark, 36
- Fitness trackers, 88, 107
- Fixing, 84
- Flathead Lake (Montana), 134
- Flathead Valley (Montana), 112
- Flexibility, 167
- Focus, 137–138, 143
- Follow-through, 175–176, 177, 178
- Foys Lake (Montana), 134
- Franklin, Benjamin, 41, 185
- Fraser, Nancy, 36
- Freedom, individual, 39
- Free markets, 19, 21
- Freudenberger, Herbert, 23–24
- Friedman, Milton, 20, 36
- Future outcomes, 66
- Future sense of self, 57
G
- Games, 100, 101, 117–118. See also Sports
- Game theory, 117
- Gender, 21, 52
- Gilkey, Charlie, 163
- Gill, Rosalind, 20, 36, 74
- Girl, Wash Your Face (Hollis), 71
- Glacier National Park, 112, 124
- Glatzel, Mara, 107, 108
- Glei, Jocelyn K., 49
- Goals, 33–45, 127
- carrot-and-stick, 114–115
- commitments vs, 102–103, 127
- cultural obsession with, 1
- deconstruction of relationship to, 12–16
- delay of work towards, 137
- Edwin Locke on, 106
- overcoming differences, 34, 43, 43–44
- and political ideologies, 34–37
- and Protestant work ethic, 39–41
- realistic, 77
- and rugged individualism, 37–39, 41, 44
- and supremacy culture, 41–44
- toxic relationship to, 8–12
- in Validation Spiral, 28–31
- Goals! (Tracy), 71
- Goals and identities, 47–61
- becoming, 57–61
- internet, 53–57
- and the market, 52–53
- self-identities, 49–52
- Goal-setting theory, 106
- God's will, 150–151
- Good and Mad (Traister), 71
- Graduate school, 10, 30, 116
- Great Depression, 36, 38
- Grocery delivery, 91–92
- Growth:
- Growth without striving, 97–110
- disorientation, 99–102, 101
- and goals vs. commitments, 102–103
- personal values, 103–110, 104
- self-efficacy, 108–109
- striving, 97–99
- The Guardian, 37
H
- Habits, 129
- Having and Being Had (Bliss), 47
- Hayek, Friedrich, 19–20, 36, 38
- Health insurance, 101
- Hedonic treadmill, 72
- Highline Trail (Montana), 124–126
- Hijacked values, 118–119
- Hiking, 64, 112–113, 124, 133–134, 137
- Hochschild, Arlie Russell, 89
- Hollis, Rachel, 71, 74, 98–99
- Home ownership, 100, 107
- Hoover, Herbert, 37–39
- How to Make Sense of Any Mess (Covert), 111
- Hurry Slowly podcast, 49, 121
- Hypotheses, 173
I
- I Came All This Way to Meet You (Attenberg), 63
- Identity(-ies):
- crises, 126–127
- external forces on, 57
- relational, 50–51
- Ideologies, political, 34–37
- Imes, Suzanne, 22
- Immigrant status, 21, 37, 87
- Immunity to change framework, 140, 142
- Imposter Syndrome, 21–22, 180
- Individual freedom, 39
- Individualism, 21. See also Rugged individualism
- Individualism and Economic Order (Hayek), 19
- An Injustice!, 42
- Instagram, 53–55, 71
- Interdependence, 69, 93, 119
- International Business Times, 79
- Internet, 53–57
- Introductions, 50
- The Invisible Kingdom: Reimagining Chronic Illness (O'Rourke), 97
- Isolation, 7
J
- Jackson, Elisabeth, 81
- Jay-Z, 79
- Jennings, Rebecca, 55
- Jim Crow, 38
- Joy, 150–151
K
- Kalispell (Mont.), 133–134
- Katz-Gerro, Tally, 72
- Kegan, Robert, 57–59, 103, 140–141, 149
- Keynes, John Maynard, 36
- Keynesian economics, 19, 36
- Kierkegaard, Søren, 150–152, 188
- Knitting, 70
L
- Labor:
- emotional, 83, 89–91
- regulations, 38
- “The Ladder,” 42, 44, 53
- LaGuardia-LoBianco, Alycia, 179–182
- Lahey, Lisa, 140–141, 149
- Lake McDonald (Montana), 124
- The Law of Attraction, 4–5
- Lawson, Jenny, 77
- Learned orientation, 70–71, 73
- Lennington, Michael, 153
- The Lily of the Field and the Bird of the Air (Kierkegaard), 150, 188
- Limitations, 84–87, 125–126
- Living a Feminist Life (Ahmed), 169
- Locke, Edwin, 106, 108
- Loneliness, 38
- Lorde, Audre, 182
- Loving relationships, 48
- Lupus, 84
- Luther, Martin, 40
M
- The Managed Heart (Hochschild), 89
- Map-making, 137–140
- Margin, 182–185, 183, 184
- Market value, 52–53
- Marriage, 100, 107
- Marxist philosophy, 19
- Maslow, Abraham, 127
- May, Katherine, 8
- Mayflower (ship), 39
- Meadows, Donella, 69, 70
- Medals, 12
- Meditation, 70
- Merit badges, 12, 74, 98
- Meritocracy, 59, 109
- Methodism, 41
- Metropolitan Opera, 30
- Midlife: A Philosophical Guide (Setiya), 65, 147
- Millennial generation, 30, 88
- “Mind-cure,” 5
- Mindset, 85
- Miserandino, Christine, 84
- Misery, 73–74, 151
- Monbiot, George, 37
- Money, 88, 91–92, 136–137
- Monocultural nation, illusion of, 20
- Montell, Amanda, 157
- Mont Pelerin Society, 18–20, 36
- Moran, Brian, 153
- Motivation, 114–115, 152–154, 173
- Mountaintop experiences, 112–114
- Multicultural society, 21
- Multidimensional identities, 50–51, 51
- Multilevel marketing, 2–4
- Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, 47
N
- Nagoski, Amelia, 25
- Nagoski, Emily, 25
- Narrative(s):
- cultural, 44
- harmful, 8, 13
- influence of, 106
- overcoming, 43, 84
- Negative self-talk, 178–180
- Nelson, Maggie, 145
- Neoliberalism, 20, 36–37, 41, 44, 59, 100, 109
- Network self, 50–51
- Neurodivergence, 21, 84
- New Deal, 35
- New Thought, 5–6
- New Year's resolutions, 33, 41, 42, 99, 148
- New York City, 30
- Nguyen, C. Thi, 100–101, 107, 117–118
- Nonfiction (research firm), 54–55
O
- Obedience, 150–151
- Objectification, 59–61
- On Freedom (Nelson), 145
- Online platforms, 55
- Open loop projects, 165–166
- Oppositional relationships, 57
- Oppression, 73
- Orgad, Shani, 20, 36, 74
- Orientation, learned, 70–71, 73
- O'Rourke, Meghan, 97
- Outcome-oriented activities, 66–67
- Outcomes, future, 66
- Overcoming differences, 34, 43, 43–44
- Overcommitment, 22–23, 26, 184
- Overextending, 182, 184
- Overplanning, 184
- Overstimulation, 86
- Ownership, 153
P
- Peale, Norman Vincent, 3, 5–6
- Pearson, Amy, 29
- Perfectionism, 178
- Performance:
- goals, 27–28
- valued standards of, 114
- Personal energy, 83–91
- Personal failures, 107
- Personality:
- change, 6–8
- profiles, 47–48
- Personal responsibility, 59, 99, 153
- Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Act, 35
- Personal values, 103–110, 104, 109–110
- Personal vision, 119–123, 120, 122, 138
- Peterson, Anne Helen, 17, 25, 60, 88
- Pietism, 41
- Planning, linear, 172
- Playing field, level, 21
- Plymouth Plantation, 39
- Podcasts and podcasting, 9, 51, 138, 164
- Policy, economic, 19
- Political ideologies, 34–37
- Political programming, 34
- Positive affirmations, 59
- Positive thinking, 5–8, 85
- Post-Adolescent Mind, 58
- Poverty, 179
- The Power of Positive Thinking (Peale), 5
- Practice, 67–68
- Practice-orientation, 73, 143
- The Precariat: A New Dangerous Class (Standing), 87
- Precarity, 87–90, 98
- Predestination, 40
- Present mindfulness, 66
- Presidential election (2016), 13
- Priorities, 71
- Privatization, 21
- Proactive control, 114–115
- Procrastination, 178
- Production of discrepancy, 113, 113–115
- Productivity, 8, 56, 59, 61, 69-70, 73, 79-82, 86, 108, 146, 167, 185
- Professionalism, 56
- Programming, cultural and religious, 34
- Project planning, 157–168, 159–161
- brainstorming, 160–162
- choosing projects, 162–163
- making your plan, 167–168
- next steps, 163–167
- Project(s):
- Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism (Weber), 40
- Protestant work ethic, 39–41, 44, 53, 56, 148
- Psychological development, 57–59
- Puritanism, 39–41, 44, 149
- Pursuit of strategy, 143–144
Q
- Quality:
- of energy, 175
- of life, 14
- Quilting, 161
R
- Race and racism, 21, 52, 180
- Reactive control, 114–115
- Reagan, Ronald, and administration, 35–36
- Real Change (Salzberg), 69
- Realistic goals, 77
- Reassessment, of plans, 171
- Recognition, 8–9
- Reduction of discrepancy, 114
- Relational identities, 50–51
- Relationships, oppositional, 57
- Reliability, 58
- Religious programming, 34
- Renewable resources, 93
- Resistance to change, 140–142
- Resources, 77, 93, 183
- Richards, Amy, 8
- Rigidity, 188–189
- Rigor, 188–189
- Rocky Mountains, 112, 134
- Roman Catholic Church, 39–40
- Rose, Kieran, 29
- Roth, Bernard, 70–71
- Routine projects, 166
- Routines, 64–65, 67–68
- Rugged individualism, 37–39, 41, 44, 53, 153, 179
- Running, 27–28, 51–52, 66, 70, 125, 169–170
S
- Salvation, 43
- Salzberg, Sharon, 69–70
- Sandberg, Sheryl, 74
- Satisfaction, 72–74
- Saying no, 81
- The Secret (Byrne), 4–5
- Secularization, 41
- Selassie, Sebene, 31, 121, 127, 146
- Self, network, 50–51
- Self-actualization, 5, 127
- Self-alienation, 43, 52, 89–90, 100, 101
- Self-Authoring Mind, 58–59
- Self-authorship, 101
- Self-awareness, 52
- Self-care behaviors, 180–182
- Self-comparison, 72
- Self-delusion, 52
- Self-discipline, 40, 148–152
- Self-efficacy, 108–109, 149, 162, 174
- Self-erasure, 42
- Self-help literature, 70, 73, 74, 99
- Self-identities, 49–52
- Self-knowledge, 166, 176–178
- Self-regulatory systems, 173
- Self-reliance, 37
- Self-sabotage, 11, 178–182
- Self-talk, negative, 178–180
- Self-Transforming Mind, 59, 61
- Sense-making, 142
- Setiya, Kieran, 65, 147
- Seven, Zuva, 42
- Seymour, Richard, 54
- Shared values, 105, 119
- Shooting for the moon, 2–3
- Silence, 150–151
- Simplification, 118–119
- Single-mindedness, 9
- Situational identities, 50
- Skills, 92–93
- Slavery, 20
- Sleep trackers, 88
- Social conditioning, 117–119
- Social Forces (journal), 72
- Socialization, 117
- Socialized Mind, 58–59
- Social media, 53–57, 71
- Social safety net, 38
- Social Security, 18
- Softball, 175
- Spiritual salvation, 43
- Spoon theory, 84–85
- Sports, 27–28. See also individual sports
- Square Peg Podcast, 8
- Standing, Guy, 87
- Start Finishing (Gilkey), 163
- Star Trek, 34–35
- State of flow, 80
- Stimulus checks, 60
- Strategic priorities, 140, 143
- Strategies, 135, 135–137
- Strategy, pursuit of, 143–144
- StrengthsFinder, 47
- Stretching, 182
- Striving, see Growth without striving
- Structure, 100, 102
- Student debt, 88, 136–137
- Substack, 54
- Suffering, complicit, 179–180
- Suicide, 7
- Supremacy culture, 41–44, 53, 56, 100
- Switzerland, 18
- Systems thinking, 68–70, 93
T
- Tax incentives, 100
- Taylor, Linda, 35
- Taylor, Sonya Renee, 16, 42, 85
- Technology, 173
- TED Talks, 9
- Telic activities, 65–66, 165
- Thatcher, Margaret, 35–36
- Theories of self, 50
- Theory of constructive development, 57–59
- Theory of goal-setting, 106
- Theory of spoons, 84–85
- TikTok, 53–55
- Time, 79–83
- Time journal, 81, 146
- Time off, paid, 101
- Tolentino, Jia, 54
- Tracy, Brian, 71
- Traister, Rebecca, 71
- Treadmill, hedonic, 72
- Trick Mirror (Tolentino), 54
- Triggers, 176, 188
- Trustworthiness, 58
- Tubman, Harriet, 71
- Turbulence, 69
- The 12 Week Year (Moran and Lennington), 153
U
- Uber, 89
- Uncommon Accountability (Moran and Lennington), 153
- Undercommitment, 25–28, 26
- Unemployment insurance, 19, 20
- United Kingdom, 35–36
- United States, 34, 36
- Urgency, 146–147
V
- Validation-seeking, 18, 25
- Validation Spiral, 17–32, 24, 85, 147, 185
- burnout, 23–25
- goals, 28–31
- overcommitment, 22–23
- undercommitment, 25–28, 26
- worthiness, 18–22
- Value(s), 58–59, 70
- Variables, mathematical, 187
- Veraeghe, Paul, 52–53
- Via Character Strengths Assessment, 47–48
- Vision, personal, 119–123, 120, 122, 138
- Visual art, 63–64
- Visualizations, 105
- Vox, 55
- Voyager, 34
W
- Wallace, Kathleen, 50–51
- Wanting to change, 140–143
- Warzel, Charlie, 60
- Weber, Max, 40–41, 148–149
- Web of identities, 111
- Weightlifting, 27–28
- Welfare system, 35–36
- Wheelchairs, 84
- Whitefish, Mont., 97
- Whitefish Range (Montana), 134
- Women's suffrage, 20, 25, 38
- Work environments, 56–57
- Workers:
- educated, 87
- essential, 60
- “Working” your plan, 171
- Worthiness, 12–13, 16, 18–22, 107
- Writing, 152
Y
- Yoga, 27, 66
- You Belong (Selassie), 31
- Yousafzai, Malala, 71
- YouTube, 89
Z
- Zero-based scheduling, 81–82, 82, 185
- Zimbabwe, 42
- Zoom, 82
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