discomfort tolerance 140, 165–72
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anxiety
boring tasks 201
commitment to action 52, 58, 91–7
fear of disapproval 174–6, 178–80
fear of failure 144, 146–7, 202–3, 206, 208
goal setting 71–5, 79–81, 91–7
information gathering 29–30, 33–5, 37, 55–6, 57–8
low frustration tolerance 117
not knowing what you want 6, 7–9, 11–12, 14, 40–1, 43, 85–6, 88–9
planning 112, 116, 120–1, 125–6, 128
presentation 175
thinking about what you want 17
avoidance
fear of failure 204
information gathering 31, 35, 45
not knowing what you want 7, 12, 88–9
awfulising beliefs
commitment to action 54–6, 92–3
not knowing what you want 11–12, 38, 40–1, 85–6
beliefs
commitment to action 50–1, 58–9, 91–7
discomfort 17–18, 20–1, 140, 165–6, 171–2
fear of failure 141, 144–5, 146–8, 202–3, 207–8
focusing on your goal 209
information gathering 31–2, 35–6, 59–60
not knowing what you want 7, 8–16, 23, 37–44, 83–4, 88–90, 212–13
perfectionism 112–13, 157–8, 163–4
planning 105–11, 112–13, 121, 122–3, 134
post-goal attainment period 212
thinking about what you want 17–22
see also awfulising beliefs; healthy beliefs; self-damning beliefs
black-and-white mindset 46, 53, 76, 170
comfort 17, 165–7 see also discomfort
commitment to action 50–9, 91–7
confidence 5, 21, 106, 119, 126, 166, 212
approval from others 180
awfulising beliefs 152
discomfort tolerance 169
self-damning beliefs 13–14, 127, 162, 178
small tasks 138
decision making 131
commitment to action 50, 52, 92
fear of failure 141–2, 144, 203–4
information gathering 32–3, 42
planning 106–7, 112–13, 118, 120
depression 6, 11, 15, 71, 110, 119
discomfort 10, 17–18, 20–1, 36, 211, 214
taking action 140, 164, 165–72
failure 12–13, 75, 95, 152, 185, 210, 214
planning 112–13, 115–16, 120–1, 126–7, 135
fallibility 13, 58, 77, 95, 162, 164, 185
fear of failure 146, 147, 203, 207
not knowing what you want 15, 44, 89
frustration see low frustration tolerance
not knowing what you want 83–90
planning 102, 104, 114, 125, 134, 135
setting reminders 182
hard work, beliefs about 31–6, 105–11
healthy beliefs 21, 22, 143–4, 196, 212
approval from others 180
boring tasks 201
discomfort tolerance 172
fear of success 156
information gathering 59
not knowing what you want 15–16, 89–90, 213
high frustration tolerance (HFT) 21, 89–90, 117, 197, 199, 214
not knowing what you want 37–44
learning 71, 124, 125–6, 128–9
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low frustration tolerance (LFT)
commitment to action 56–7, 93–4
not knowing what you want 10–11, 38, 39–40, 84–5
planning 106, 107–8, 113, 116–17, 125–6
thinking about what you want 19–20
motivation 52, 63, 64, 138, 166, 197
reasons for 103
presentation anxiety 175
procrastination 107–8, 138, 140, 157, 163, 197, 201, 215
resilience 21, 36, 129, 169, 177, 199
self-acceptance 12, 44, 111, 119, 121, 146, 178, 214
self-damning beliefs
commitment to action 52–4, 94–5
not knowing what you want 12–14, 15, 38, 41–3, 86–7
planning 109, 110, 113, 118–19, 120–1, 126–7
SMART goals 63, 64–9, 77, 97, 98
timelines 66
uncertainty 37–44, 83, 113–14, 116, 120, 121, 214
values 188
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