Coach Washington asks: Where are we? Together, Coach Washington and Coach Smitty determine that the only way to answer this question is to listen to the team. Coach Smitty worries that this will be a heated discussion, but they agree that as long as they show authentic vulnerability and lead with humility, things will be okay. Coach Smitty confesses that part of the reason he handled the situation so poorly was his fear that either he or Davey would be “canceled” as a result of Davey's actions. The coaches agree that the Cancel Culture hurts much more than it helps, as people are too quick to dismiss others and not quick enough to give grace.
The Cancel Culture is about gripping onto hate and offense. Participants in the Cancel Culture grip tightly to the hurtful things that have been said or the harm that has been done, not to make things better for everyone but to make sure that others are hurt, too. The Cancel Culture says: you hurt me, so I'm going to write you off. But as we say in the locker room, if you're grippin' you're trippin'.
Imagine this situation. One day a monkey finds a banana that he can only get by reaching through a hole in a log. But he can't get his fist out of the log while gripping the banana. The monkey can't get his paw out because his instincts are telling him to hold onto the banana. We have similar instincts, but unlike the monkey, we have the mental flexibility to choose a different path.
We can choose to let go.
Everyone has things they hold onto too tightly at some point, such as pride, anger, or fear. Coach Smitty held too tightly to his pride, so he didn't hear what Marcellus was trying to say. Davey held too tightly to fear, which kept him from owning up to his mistake and demanding to be held to the standard.
When Coach Smitty lets go of his pride, he opens himself up to learning how to overcome the problems that his team faces. Gripping onto things like pride, fear, or hate doesn't do us any good. These things just hold us back from reaching our full potential.
Gripping onto things that hold you back will just leave you tripping over your own feet. That's why we say, if you're grippin' you're trippin'. It's true in the locker room and it's true in the wider world. Hanging onto hurts will leave you aiming to hurt others in turn, but releasing those hurts gives you room to grow away from the incident.
Here are three different ways that you can symbolically let go of something you've been gripping onto. These won't magically make you stop thinking about the mistake or the hurt or your pride. (Whatever you're thinking of for this exercise probably has a strong hold.) This is just a first step to letting go.
The Flush
The Burn
The Trash
Canceled by the Judge-and-Juries This exercise is for a group of 10–20 people. It is adapted from a popular party game known as “Mafia” or “Werewolf.”
Once people are chosen, gameplay proceeds in two phases: Night and Day.
Night Phase
Directed by the leader, players take the following steps:
Day Phase
Directed by the leader, players take the following steps:
The game is over when all J&J players have been removed from the community or when only J&J players remain.
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