Chapter 14
Choosing and Using Influence Behaviors to Achieve Your Objective
How to Create Your Approach

A beautiful behavior is better than a beautiful form: it gives a higher pleasure than statues or pictures; it is the finest of the fine arts.

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reviewing the Influence Framework

During the preliminary influence planning process, you have established your objective and thought about the person you're influencing and your influence relationship. You've explored other factors in the context into which you'll be influencing. All of this information will help you choose your tactics—the behaviors you'll consciously choose and use to move toward the result you want to accomplish—that will help you achieve your objective.

Look over the notes you've made and highlight the things that seem especially significant to this influence opportunity. In general, the more important the influence opportunity, the more elements you'll take the time to consider. Now you're ready to develop a plan of action.

Selecting the Most Useful Behaviors

Tables 14.1 and 14.2 show criteria for selecting behaviors that will be most effective in your situation. You've probably already made a preliminary choice. In many cases, you'll simply confirm this. However, the criteria will enable you to notice where context issues could make a particular behavior less effective than you would like. In that case, you can either select another behavior or, if there really is no practical alternative, you can do something to change the context. For example, if the situation requires that you make a suggestion about something where the other doesn't consider you an expert, you'll probably want to enlist a person who is respected in that field to work with you.

Table 14.1 Guidelines for Choosing Expressive Behaviors

Use Tell behaviors when Use Sell behaviors when
  • The other is uncommitted on the issue.
  • You have a clear direction you want to take.
  • The issue is open to different ideas, solutions, and interpretations.
  • You can be relatively objective.
  • Choose Suggest when the other has defined the issue as a problem and you are seen as an expert.
  • Choose Express needs when the other would see your need as legitimate.
  • Do not use if the action would be against the other's interests.
  • Choose Offer reasons when you are seen as an expert on the issue.
  • Choose Refer to goals and benefits when you are seen as a partner.
  • Do not use if you are not open to influence on the issue.
Use Negotiate behaviors when Use Enlist behaviors when
  • Vested interest are involved.
  • The other perceives you as fair.
  • You are on the same “team.”
  • The other is hesitant to take action.
  • Choose Offer incentives when you have tangible or intangible resources to exchange.
  • Choose Describe consequences when the other needs to know about them in order to make a good choice.
  • Do not use if you are unwilling to deliver on them.
  • Choose Encourage when the other respects you and you are willing to offer help and support.
  • Choose Envision when you want to align and motivate.
  • Do not use if you are not genuinely enthusiastic.

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Table 14.2 Guidelines for Choosing Receptive Behaviors

Use Inquire behaviors when Use Listen behaviors when
  • The other wants to be consulted or involved.
  • You are genuinely interested in what he or she has to say.
  • The other believes you have a right to know.
  • The other believes you can identify with his/her concerns.
  • Choose Ask Open-ended questions when you are opening a new topic.
  • Choose Draw out when you want to go deeper.
  • Do not use if the other does not trust you.
  • Choose Check understanding when the information is relatively straightforward.
  • Choose Test implications when you want to deepen your understanding.
  • Do not use if you feel hostile toward the other.
Use Attune behaviors when Use Facilitate behaviors when
  • You would like to create more openness.
  • The other has a need for allies.
  • The other is accountable for taking action.
  • The other would not lose face by accepting assistance from you.
  • Choose Identify with other when the other already trusts you.
  • Choose Disclose when you are willing to make yourself somewhat vulnerable in exchange for more openness.
  • Do not use if you don't trust how the other would use the information.
  • Choose Clarify issues when the other seems to be “stuck.”
  • Choose Pose challenging questions when the other needs a stimulus toward action.
  • Do not use if you have a specific action in mind.

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In addition, you'll want to use your ability to identify with the other person to imagine what specific issues might arise once your suggestion, request, or offer is on the table. Once you can articulate several possible issues, your choice of behaviors may become clear. For example, you ask your manager to provide you with additional resources for your project. Some issues that may come up for her include

  • Where will I find an additional resource?
  • Will others see that as unfair?
  • How can I justify that to my manager?
  • What difference will that resource make to the project's success?

With these concerns in mind, you will probably think about using Inquire (to go deeper into understanding her concerns), Tell (to express your need or make a suggestion), Negotiate (to offer an exchange that would make her decision seem more fair), and perhaps Enlist (to communicate a vision of the desired result). Using Tables 14.1 and 14.2, you can consider which of the behaviors in each tactic might be most useful. Of course, there's never a “school solution” for the best influence approach—there are too many variables. Still, this process can help you to work out a “draft plan” for your opportunity.

Once you've decided on three or four behaviors, use the “sentence starters” in Appendix D to develop some ways to use them. You won't be reading from a script during the real event, but this practice will enable you to become more comfortable with the behaviors, especially if they're not the ones you use most often.

Reframing

In the previous chapter, we introduced the concept of framing—how you conceptualize and present ideas, requests, or solutions. One of the most important preparations for a specific influence opportunity is to use what you know about the other person to reframe your ideas in a way that will make sense within his or her model of the world. Earlier, we discussed the importance of understanding the values, needs, and aspirations of the other. Once you do, you're in a position to take an idea that's important to you and frame it so that the other person can understand and see the value of it. This doesn't mean being dishonest; there are usually many different ways of looking at the same set of data.

You'll need to look at the issue through the other person's frame if you are to be influential. For example, as a parent, you may want to influence your child's teacher to provide more individual attention and challenging assignments, rather than punishing him for misbehavior that you know comes from boredom. You know that she wants to be seen as a supportive and helpful person. Rather than telling her what you think she is doing wrong, you might mention how much pleasure your son received from the time she spent with him, working on a special art project (Encourage).

Planning Your Approach

The most useful parts of your approach to plan in some detail are

  • The first few minutes of the meeting or conversation: How will you start?
  • Key transition points: How will you introduce or handle difficult issues?
  • Conclusion: How will you move toward closure?

Remember, this will not be a play in which you and the other person have blocked the action and rehearsed your lines. It will be improvisational theater, and things will happen that you don't expect. If you prepare for that possibility in your planning, you can anticipate and respond to these events. So—put some “what-ifs” in your plan. Troubleshoot it. Think about the worst case and what you might do if it happens. Think about what might be a signal that things are going off course. Then decide what to do if this should occur. For example, what if your influence target becomes angry? What if he or she presents you with a major piece of information that is a complete surprise? Consider what could trigger a decision to set your objective aside while you use receptive behavior to probe for information. Under what conditions might you disengage? Consider the possibility that you might succeed sooner than you expected to. Is there a way you can build on that to accomplish other influence objectives while you are on a roll, or should you end the meeting early and hope the other person doesn't feel that he or she has been a pushover?

Setting Yourself Up for Success

You can do a few things before you begin actively influencing the other person that will help you be successful. They may include

  • Resolve old issues that may get in the way of working on new ones.
  • Garner the support of people who are respected by the other.
  • Choose a time when the other person will be most likely to be receptive (after a milestone has been achieved, during a time of day when he or she will not be distracted, etc.).
  • Choose a place where the two of you can talk (actually or virtually) without interruptions or fear of arousing apprehension on the part of others.
  • Let the other person know your motivation and intentions for the meeting.
  • Do anything else you can think of that will put the other person at ease about the meeting, such as sending a detailed agenda or including someone he or she trusts in the invitation.
  • Begin the meeting by expressing optimism about the results.
  • Take time to do a “check-in” before you get down to business. Ask what's going on for the other person, whether he or she has anything to put on the agenda, or other questions that express an interest in him or her.
  • Use behaviors that the other is most comfortable with to establish rapport at the beginning, even though your plan calls for you to use other behaviors to achieve your influence objective.

By taking some of these actions, you're not just trusting to luck or the other's good mood, but actively creating the conditions that give your plan the best possible chance for a successful outcome.

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