If you think your boss is ineffective at leading meetings, you’re not alone. Few managers have mastered the art of meetings, and even fewer organizations have made it a priority. Add to that the fact that leaders are busy—and often don’t have the time to adequately prepare—and you’ve got a recipe for ineffective meetings. The question is, what can you do about it?
Three broad perspectives are available to you in every meeting:
Let’s look at each of these options individually.
I love this perspective because it allows you to be supportive without making your boss wrong. A key aspect of influence is the ability to state a problem without blaming anyone. Offering to supply elements that may be missing is a powerful way to do this. Here are some things you might offer to do:
Stepping up and offering to do something will usually be appreciated and respected. However, we all know that our ability to speak frankly with our boss is determined by the level of trust and respect that exists between us. If your boss values what you bring to the group, you can be straightforward: “Sam, I think we can improve the quality of our meetings by doing a couple of things differently. If you agree, I would be willing to do the following.”
If your boss takes offense at your offer or says, “No thanks, I’ve got it under control,” then respond with, “OK, and if you change your mind, let me know. I just want to do whatever I can to support you.” None of us are as open-minded or coachable in the moment as we think we are. There is a good chance that your boss will continue to think about your suggestion during the next few meetings. Without your offer, nothing will change; with your offer, it just might.
What are your most common complaints about these meetings? What could you ask for that would resolve each complaint? If you need something in order to be both present and productive in a meeting, find a diplomatic way to ask for it. Other people will probably be having the same experience and will welcome your initiative. Here are some suggestions for asking for what you need.
Usually we go into a meeting thinking about one person: ourselves. Fair enough, but looking out for others is an easy way to add value and impact in an organization.
Consider these questions:
OK, now it’s up to you. This is wonderful place to trust your instincts. Sincerity trumps all conversational skills. Take your boss to coffee, and offer to help. And, try the ideas that resonate with you in other meetings that you attend. You’ll be pleased with the results.
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Paul Axtell provides consulting and personal effectiveness training to a wide variety of clients, from Fortune 500 companies to universities. His latest book, Meetings Matter: 8 Powerful Strategies for Remarkable Conversations (Jackson Creek, 2015), received awards from the Nonfiction Book Awards and the Benjamin Franklin Book Awards, a Silver award in the Nautilus Book Awards, and was first runner-up for the Eric Hoffer Prize.
Adapted from content posted on hbr.org on May 16, 2016.
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