ANSWERS TO IN PRACTICE QUESTIONS IN PART ONE
Understanding the positive intentions of negative thoughts
- The positive intention of anger: anger – a powerful motivating force – can motivate you to put right a wrong, to get what you want. It can also let others know how strongly you feel about something.
- The positive intention of jealousy is to protect you from losing out – to alert you to the fact that you may need to up your game, to make an effort to improve, or to guard against something or someone slipping away from you.
- The positive intention of embarrassment: embarrassment is a sign that you care about how others see you – that you regret what you said or did and that you acknowledge it and are sorry. In other circumstances, embarrassment is a sign that you don't approve and want to distance yourself from what someone else did or said.
- The positive aspect of boredom is to prompt you either to find a new way to engage with and be interested in the situation that is boring you, or, if you can, to leave the situation and do something else.
Recognising cognitive distortions
- No wonder I've made some mistakes with writing this report. What does my manager expect if she won't give me enough time to complete it properly? Blaming
- I bet they only asked me to join them because the other person couldn't make it. They obviously didn't want to ask me first. Mind reading. Jumping to a conclusion
- I've never used the tube trains in London before. I'll get confused and stressed. I just know I'll get completely lost. I won't know what to do. Catastrophising. Polarised thinking
- The person who interviewed me was very nice but all I can think about was the one question I didn't know how to answer. Tunnel thinking
- My manager has changed her mind and doesn't need the report after all. So that's another example of how incompetent she is. Confirmation bias
- My friend hasn't replied to my texts. I must have done something to upset him. Jumping to a conclusion
- If this isn't perfect it will have been a complete waste of time. Polarised thinking
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