A

• A activities, in time-blocking system, 324
• accountability, 221
• accountant, as member of your wealth team, 358–359
• achievement(s)
  • increasing speed to goals, 89–91
  • mapping for goals, 78
  • recognizing, 195
• action
  • taking based on rankings in time-blocking system, 325
  • teaching power of over words, 202
• activities
  • as goals, 81
  • increasing motivation using, 68
• acts of service, as a love language, 180
• adjustments, in time-blocking system, 331, 333–334
• administrative roles, 80/20 rule for, 320
• adoption, 205
• adversity
  • about, 95–96
  • learning from failures, 96–100
  • power of persistence, 100–105
  • protecting your attitude, 105–108
• affirmations, positive, 106–107, 116, 131
• alcohol, 122
• Alcoholics Anonymous, 141
• Alessandra, Tony (creator of Platinum Rule), 158
• almonds, 123
• along the path, sowing seeds, 45–46
• Anecdote icon, 3
• appreciating assets, 256
• appreciation, as a characteristic of a great employee, 217–218
• aspirationally wealthy, 244, 245
• assessing
  • mentors, 26
  • progress in time-blocking system, 331–333
  • qualitative goals, 332–333
  • strengths and weaknesses, 286–287
  • time usage, 20–21
• assets, appreciating, 256
• assigning
  • timeframes to goals, 85–86
  • your time a monetary worth, 288
• at-home hobbies, balancing with household tasks, 321–323
• attitude
  • about, 129
  • being positive, 130–133
  • comparisons for encouragement, 136–137
  • cultivating your self-esteem, 133–136
  • developing the habit of personal reward, 138
  • positive, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 340
  • protecting your, 105–108
  • of wealthy people, 235
• attorney, as member of your wealth team, 359
• avoiding
  • distractions, 162
  • negative comments, 194

B

• balances, maintaining healthy, 298
• balance-sheet affluent, 246
• balance-sheet wealth, 245, 246–247
• balancing
  • discipline with procrastination, 41–42
  • price vs. promise, 42
• BBO (Boys Breakfast Out) tradition, 200
• behavioral styles
  • about, 58
  • communicating in your mate's, 181–183
  • Compliant
    • about, 66
    • characteristics of, 66
    • communicating with someone who has the, 182–183
    • downsides of, 67
    • drivers of, 66
    • how they operate, 66–67
  • DISC model, 59–60
  • Dominant
    • about, 60–61
    • characteristics of, 60–61
    • communicating with someone who has the, 181
    • downsides of, 62, 64
    • drivers of, 61
    • how they operate, 61–62
  • Influencer
    • about, 62–63
    • characteristics of, 62–63
    • communicating with someone who has the, 182
    • drivers of, 63
    • how they operate, 63
  • motivation and, 58–59
  • Steady
    • about, 64
    • characteristics of, 64
    • communicating with someone who has the, 182
    • downsides of, 65
    • drivers of, 64–65
    • how they operate, 65
• belief systems, 141
• belonging, increasing your feelings of, 145
• benchmarks
  • about, 57
  • setting with children, 203–204
• berries, 123
• Bezos, Jeff (Amazon founder), 137
• blueberries, 123
• body, as a temple, 112–113
• body positioning, 162
• Boys Breakfast Out (BBO) tradition, 200
• Brody, Adrien (actor), 16
• Buddhism, 146
• Buffett, Warren (investor), 215, 268, 360–361
• building
  • benchmarks, 57
  • children's character, 201–206
  • commitment to goals, 78
  • customer/client relationships, 223–226
  • debt-conquering strategy, 258–261
  • flex time in time-blocking system, 330
  • friends through personal connection, 158–163
  • friendships, 148
  • health teams, 113–115
  • inducement rewards, 57
  • integrity in business, 225–226
  • a legacy as a measure/model of success, 350–351
  • relationships, 148
  • routines, 289
  • self-confidence, as a measure/model of success, 349
  • success tournaments, 86–89
  • sustainable exercise programs, 125–126
  • unity, 149
  • value, 224–225
• business owner
  • 80/20 rule for, 319
  • forced savings as a, 274–275
  • guaranteeing retirement success as a, 278–280
• business relationships
  • about, 211
  • building customer/client relationships, 223–226
  • characteristics of great employees, 215–218
  • characteristics of great employers, 218–223
  • providing more than you're paid for, 212–215
• business savvy, maintaining, as a measure/model of success, 347
• buying time, 311

C

• calculating hourly income, 307–308
• capital, increasing, 92
• career
  • as a category of success, 12
  • as goals, 82
• caring, as a characteristic of a great employee, 216
• Carnegie, Andrew (entrepreneur), 82, 350–351
• Carnegie, Dale (author)
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People, 155
• categorizing
  • goals, 84–85
  • success, 11–14
  • tasks in time-blocking system, 324
• category tournament, 88–89
• cellphones, turning off, 293–294
• Chadwick, Florence (swimmer), 101
• Champions of Wealth course, 258, 259
• Chapman, Gary (author)
  • The 5 Love Languages, 180
• characteristics
  • of Compliant behavioral style, 66
  • developing welcoming, 159–160
  • of Dominant behavioral style, 60–61
  • of great employees, 215–218
  • of Influencer behavioral style, 62–63
  • personal, for improving success, 337–343
  • of Steady behavioral style, 64
• charisma, as a benefit of being motivated, 52
• Cheat Sheet (website), 3
• cheerleader, being a, 169
• children
  • adoption, 205
  • building character of, 201–206
  • defining success for individual, 192–193
  • demonstrating love to your, 197–198
  • encouraging gifts and skills, 194–195
  • establishing values in, 201–202
  • helping them to avoid life's dangers, 204–206
  • recognizing differences in, 193–194
  • setting goals/benchmarks with, 203–204
• chocolate, dark, 123
• choosing
  • motivation types, 67–71
  • work situations, 216–217
• chores, buying time for, 311
• Christianity, 146
• Churchill, Winston (UK Prime Minister), 213
• circumstances, mastering your, 41
• circumventing interruptions, 292
• claiming rewards, 58
• clarity, lacking, for your future, 354
• Clason, George S. (author)
  • The Richest Man in Babylon, 29
• clinging to commitment, 185–188
• clutter overload, preventing, 298
• Collins, Jim (author)
  • Good to Great, 219
• comfort, finding in faith, 144
• commitment
  • clinging to, 185–188
  • creating to goals, 78
  • as the key ingredient to marriage, 177–179
  • to marriage, 172–175
• communication
  • in business relationships, 213
  • as a characteristic of a great employer, 219–221
  • effective, 291–292
  • frequency of in business, 226
  • in marriage, 179–183
  • personally in business, 226
  • in your mate's behavioral style, 181–183
• comparisons, for encouragement, 136–137
• complacency, balanced with contentment, 132
• completion, as a motivator, 70–71
• Compliant behavioral style
  • about, 66
  • characteristics of, 66
  • communicating with someone who has the, 182–183
  • downsides of, 67
  • drivers of, 66
  • how they operate, 66–67
• complimentary behavior, 164
• compound effect, 45
• compound interest, 241–242
• compounding, as a benefit of being motivated, 52
• compromise
  • achieving harmony through, 174–175
  • harmony and, 183–185
• concentration, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 342
• condensing conversations, 295
• conflict resolution, 168.See also disagreements
• Confucianism, 146
• consistency, turning into repetition, 19–20
• consumer debt, 256, 355
• contentment, balanced with complacency, 132
• Controlling Cholesterol For Dummies (Rinzler), 122
• conversations
  • enraging in good, 162–163
  • shortening, 295
• Coonradt, Charles (author)
  • The Game of Work, 21, 221
• core purpose, 219–220
• core values, 219–220
• courtship, 187
• Covey, Steven (author)
  • First Things First, 326
  • Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, 158
• creating
  • benchmarks, 57
  • children's character, 201–206
  • commitment to goals, 78
  • customer/client relationships, 223–226
  • debt-conquering strategy, 258–261
  • flex time in time-blocking system, 330
  • friends through personal connection, 158–163
  • friendships, 148
  • health teams, 113–115
  • inducement rewards, 57
  • integrity in business, 225–226
  • a legacy as a measure/model of success, 350–351
  • relationships, 148
  • routines, 289
  • self-confidence, as a measure/model of success, 349
  • success tournaments, 86–89
  • sustainable exercise programs, 125–126
  • unity, 149
  • value, 224–225
• credit card debt, 256–258, 355
• CRM (customer relationship management) software, 291
• cultivating self-esteem, 133–136
• customer relationship management (CRM) software, 291
• customer service roles, 80/20 rule for, 320
• customer/client relationships, building, 223–226

D

• daily habits, maintaining, as a measure/model of success, 346–347
• daily objectives, prioritizing, 318
• daily prayer, 150
• daily prioritization, in time-blocking system, 323–326
• day, dividing in the time-blocking system, 327–328
• debt
  • about, 255
  • consumer, 256, 355
  • creating a conquering strategy, 258–261
  • creating your debt-conquering strategy, 258–261
  • credit card, 256–258, 355
  • good, 355–356
  • reducing credit card debt, 257–258
  • success principles about, 256
• Debt Management tool, 258, 259
• decision-making
  • about, 298–299
  • assessing timeframe for a decision, 302
  • determining most efficient way, 303–304
  • difficulties of, 299–300
  • evaluating the gravity of a decision, 300–301
  • gut feeling, 303
  • narrowing options to two, 302–303
• delayed gratification, 42
• delegating responsibilities, 295, 297–298
• desire for gain, as a motivator, 53–54
• destination focused, as a characteristic of Dominant behavioral style, 61
• determining resource needs, 92–94
• detours, limiting to goals, 78–79
• developing
  • faith, 140, 142–143
  • the habit of personal reward, 138
  • spirituality, 143–147
  • welcoming habits and characteristics, 159–160
  • your likeability, 163–166
• diet, 120–123
• diminishing intent, law of, 42, 273
• directness, as a characteristic of Dominant behavioral style, 61
• disagreements
  • about, 166
  • being a cheerleader, 169
  • displaying loyalty, 169
  • giving grace, 167
  • love, 169
  • taking responsibility, 167–168
  • taking the high road, 166–167
  • transforming foes into friends, 170
• DISC model, 59–60
• discipline
  • about, 35–36
  • balancing with procrastination, 41–42
  • keys to success, 40–42
  • law of sowing and reaping, 43–47
  • as a reward not a punishment, 36–39
  • teaching, 202–203
  • where to focus your, 39–40
• discounted company stock, investing in, 278
• discouragement, facing, 101
• discussions, rebooking, 295–296
• displaying loyalty, 169
• distractions, avoiding, 162
• divorce
  • about, 361–362
  • dropping the D-bomb, 179
  • intergenerational transmission of, 178
• documenting goals, 77–79
• doing more than you're paid for, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 338
• Dominant behavioral style
  • about, 60–61
  • characteristics of, 60–61
  • communicating with someone who has the, 181
  • downsides of, 62, 64
  • drivers of, 61
  • how they operate, 61–62
• Doubletree Hotels, 225
• doubt, 97–99
• dress for success adage, 161
• drivers
  • of Compliant behavioral style, 66
  • of Dominant behavioral style, 61
  • of financial freedom, 230–231
  • of Influencer behavioral style, 63
  • personalizing, 55–56
  • of Steady behavioral style, 64–65
• drugs, 122, 206

E

• earning(s)
  • relationship with wealth, 267
  • replacement income, 238
• economic trends, studying, 215
• effective communication, 291–292
• effective listening, 159
• ego, 99–100

• 80/20 rule (Pareto principle)
  • about, 23, 31–32, 120–121
  • matching time investment to return, 316–318
  • at work, 318–320
  • in your personal life, 320–323
• 85/10/5 rule, 325

• Einstein, Albert (scientist), 241
• e-mail, turning off, 293
• emergencies, credit card for, 257–258
• Emerson, Ralph Waldo (author), 74
• emotions
  • financial freedom and, 231–233
  • fueling fire with, 91
  • keeping in check, 185
• empathy, showing to others, 164, 184
• emphasizing the positive, 37–38
• employees
  • characteristics of great, 215–218
  • expanding opportunities for, 223
  • guaranteeing retirement success as, 276–278
• employers, characteristics of great, 218–223
• encouragement
  • comparisons for, 136–137
  • opportunities for, 197
• energy, as a benefit of being motivated, 52
• enjoyment, wealth and, 253–254
• entrepreneur
  • forced savings as an, 274–275
  • guaranteeing retirement success as an, 278–280
  • maintaining spirit of an, as a measure/model of success, 347
• establishing
  • a consistent process of success, 16–20
  • long-term service relationships, 226
  • traditions, 199–200
  • values in children, 201–202
  • your 50 goals, 79–83
• estate planning, 357–358
• evaluating
  • mentors, 26
  • progress in time-blocking system, 331–333
  • qualitative goals, 332–333
  • strengths and weaknesses, 286–287
  • time usage, 20–21
• event, failure as an, 100
• examples, people in your life as, 28
• executive leadership, 80/20 rule for, 319
• exercise
  • about, 124
  • common sense and, 125
  • creating a sustainable program for, 125–126
  • options for, 124–125
  • in your morning routine, 19
• expanding knowledge, 92–93
• expectations
  • being realistic, 297
  • resetting, 118–119
  • setting, 296–297
  • setting for success, 16
• expressing faith, 142–143
• eye contact, 162

F

• failure
  • as an event, 100
  • fear of, as a barrier to goal setting, 76–77
  • fear of, being paralyzed by, 96–99
  • learning from, 96–100
  • as a motivator, 69
• faith
  • about, 107–108
  • developing, 140, 142–143
  • expressing, 142–143
  • finding comfort in, 144
  • love and, 146
• Fallaw, Sarah Stanley (researcher), 268
• family
  • about, 189–190
  • being a successful parent, 190–195
  • building your child's character, 201–206
  • habits for creating success, 195–200
  • parents, 206–209
• Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams (FORD) system, 162
• Family Fridays tradition, 199, 322
• Family Game Night tradition, 199, 322
• family meals, 198
• Family Sunday Dinner tradition, 199–200
• family traditions, 322
• Farrar, Steve (author)
  • Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family, 198
• fear of failure
  • as a barrier to goal setting, 76–77
  • being paralyzed by, 96–99
• fear of loss, as a motivator, 54
• fear of rejection, as a barrier to goal setting, 75–76
• fear of success, as a barrier to goal setting, 76
• feedback, engaging in, 162
• finances, focusing discipline on your, 39
• financial freedom
  • about, 230
  • drivers of, 230–231
  • emotions and, 231–233
• financial planner
  • about, 238–239
  • as member of your wealth team, 359
• financial success
  • about, 229–230
  • as a category of success, 12, 13
  • difference in wealthy people, 233–236
  • financial freedom, 230–233
  • knowing your wealth number, 236–244
  • types of wealth, 244–247
• first impressions, 160–162
• First Things First (Covey and Merrill), 326

• The 5 Love Languages (Chapman), 180

• flame, rekindling the, 186–188
• flex time, building in time-blocking system, 330
• forced saving mechanisms, 273–275
• FORD (Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams) system, 162
• forgive, learning to, 143–144

• 40-Day Challenge, 187
• 4-percent rule, 238
• 401k plan, 276

• Frankel, Victor (author)
  • Man's Search for Meaning, 100
• Franklin, Benjamin (Founding Father), 170
• friendships
  • about, 155
  • building, 148
  • creating through personal connection, 158–163
  • developing likeability, 163–166
  • disagreements, 166–170
  • rules learned in kindergarten, 156–158
  • transforming foes into friends, 170
• fruits, eating, 123

G

• gain, desire for, as a motivator, 53–54
• GALP (Gone After the Last Payment) plan, 260–261
• game meat, eating, 122

• The Game of Work (Coonradt), 21, 221

• generating
  • benchmarks, 57
  • children's character, 201–206
  • commitment to goals, 78
  • customer/client relationships, 223–226
  • debt-conquering strategy, 258–261
  • flex time in time-blocking system, 330
  • friends through personal connection, 158–163
  • friendships, 148
  • health teams, 113–115
  • inducement rewards, 57
  • integrity in business, 225–226
  • a legacy as a measure/model of success, 350–351
  • relationships, 148
  • routines, 289
  • self-confidence, as a measure/model of success, 349
  • success tournaments, 86–89
  • sustainable exercise programs, 125–126
  • unity, 149
  • value, 224–225
• genetics, 114–115
• George, King of England, 13
• gift(s)
  • discipline as a, 38–39
  • encouraging of children, 194–195

• “gig economy,” 307
• “go big or go home” philosophy, 79

• goals
  • about, 73–74
  • categorizing, 84–85
  • communication of, as a characteristic of a great employer, 219–221
  • comparisons based on, 137
  • creating success tournament, 86–89
  • identifying tasks that support, 317–318
  • increasing self-esteem with clear, 133–134
  • increasing speed to achievement, 89–91
  • labeling and balancing your 50, 84–86
  • measurable, 80, 332
  • naming, 287–288
  • non-number-based, 80
  • number-based, 80
  • overcoming barriers to setting, 75–77
  • pinpointing resource needs, 92–94
  • power of, 74
  • power of documenting, 77–79
  • qualitative, 332–333
  • recording your 50, 79–83
  • setting with children, 203–204
• Golden Rule
  • about, 141, 146–147
  • applying to friendships, 156–158
• Goldman Sachs, 215
• Gone After the Last Payment (GALP) plan, 260–261
• good debt, 355–356
• good soil, sowing seeds in, 47
• Good to Great (Collins), 219
• grace, giving, 167
• grammar, 161
• gratification, delayed, 42
• gratitude
  • increasing motivation through, 69–70
  • as a personal characteristic for improving success, 339
  • in your morning routine, 19, 131
• gross asset number, setting, 238
• growing spiritually, 147–152
• guaranteeing retirement success, 275–282
• gut feeling, 303

H

• habits
  • about, 7–8
  • developing welcoming, 159–160
• happiness, daily, 133
• hard worker, as a characteristic of Dominant behavioral style, 62
• harmony
  • achieving through compromise, 174–175
  • compromise and, 183–185
• health, physical
  • about, 111–112
  • as a category of success, 11, 13
  • creating a health team, 113–115
  • creating your health team, 113–115
  • diet, 120–123
  • exercise, 124–126
  • having only one life to live, 112–113
  • health events, 117–120
  • maintaining, as a measure/model of success, 347
  • mental health, 115–117
  • relationship with motivation, 117
  • rest, 126–127
• health events, 117–120
• heart health, 123
• high fructose corn syrup, 122
• high road, taking the, 166–167
• Hill, Napoleon (author)
  • about, 25
  • Think and Grow Rich, 29, 90, 150
  • on wealth, 230
• Hinduism, 146
• home cleanliness, focusing discipline on your, 39
• home office, 18–19
• home ownership, 243–244
• honoring parents, 206–209
• hourly income, calculating, 307–308
• household tasks, balancing with at-home hobbies, 321–323
• How to Win Friends and Influence People (Carnegie), 155
• humble, being, 188

I

• icons, explained, 3
• identifying
  • DISC behavioral style, 59–60
  • tasks that support goals, 317–318
  • your rhythm, 288
• idleness, 204
• impressions, first, 160–162
• improving
  • quality of life, 310
  • your hourly value, 308–310

• “in the zone,” 288

• income
  • defined, 267
  • increasing, 309–310
  • wealth and, 252–253
• income wealth, 244, 246
• increasing
  • capital, 92
  • income, 309–310
  • productivity, 309
  • skills, 93
  • speed to achievement of goals, 89–91
  • your value in business relationships, 213–214
• indecision, 97
• inducement rewards, 57
• Influencer behavioral style
  • about, 62–63
  • characteristics of, 62–63
  • communicating with someone who has the, 182
  • drivers of, 63
  • how they operate, 63
• integrity
  • building in business, 225–226
  • as a personal characteristic for improving success, 340–341
• intent, law of diminishing, 42, 273
• intergenerational transmission of divorce, 178
• interruptions, circumventing, 292
• investing
  • in discounted company stock, 278
  • in personal relationships, 320–321
• investment lender, as member of your wealth team, 359–360
• Islam, 147
• It All Goes Back In The Box (Ortberg), 255

J

• Jefferson, Thomas (U.S. President), 13
• joint venture, marriage as a, 179
• journaling, in your morning routine, 19
• Judaism, 147

K

• Kendrick, Alex (author)
  • The Love Dare, 187
• Kendrick, Stephen (author)
  • The Love Dare, 187
• knowledge
  • expanding, 92–93
  • lack of, as a barrier to goal setting, 75

L

• lack of knowledge, as a barrier to goal setting, 75
• Larsen, Ralph (CEO), 220
• law of diminishing intent, 42, 273
• law of reciprocity, 165
• law of sowing and reaping, 43–47
• learning
  • from failures, 96–100
  • to forgive, 143–144
  • life-long, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 339
• legacy, as a measure/model of success, 350–351
• leisure activities, time-spending decisions for, 312–313
• Lemonis, Marcus (TV personality), 16–17
• life insurance, 357–358
• life-long learning, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 339
• Lightner, Candace (MADD founder), 69
• likeability, developing your, 163–166
• limiting detours to goals, 78–79
• Lincoln, Abraham (U.S. President), 15
• listening
  • demonstrating, 162
  • effective, 159
• living trust, 357
• long-term relationship. See marriage
• long-term service relationships, establishing, 226
• loss
  • fear of, as a motivator, 54
  • as a motivator, 69
• love
  • about, 169
  • demonstrating to your child, 197–198
  • faith and, 146
  • making the decision to, 173–174
• Love Is A Decision (Smalley), 15, 171–172, 173
• love languages, 180

• The Love Dare (Kendrick and Kendrick), 187

• loyalty
  • as a characteristic of a great employee, 217–218
  • displaying, 169

M

• MADD (Mothers Against Drink Driving), 69
• maintaining
  • business savvy, as a measure/model of success, 347
  • daily habits, as a measure/model of success, 346–347
  • entrepreneurial spirit, as a measure/model of success, 347
  • healthy balances, 298
  • moderation, 113
  • motivation, 297–298, 304
  • optimism, 106
  • physical health, as a measure/model of success, 347
• management professionals, 80/20 rule for, 319
• Man's Search for Meaning (Frankel), 100
• mapping achievement of goals, 78
• market value, realizing your, 264
• marriage
  • about, 171–172
  • clinging to commitment, 185–188
  • commitment as the key ingredient, 177–179
  • communication, 179–183
  • compromise, 183–185
  • divorce, 361–362
  • staying committed, 172–175
  • value of the institution of, 175–177
• Marston, William (psychologist), 60
• master list, in time-blocking system, 324
• mastering your circumstances, 41
• matching time investment to return, 316–318
• measurable goals, 80, 332
• measures of success
  • about, 345
  • building self-confidence, 349
  • creating a legacy, 350–351
  • looking for self-improvement, 350
  • maintaining business savvy/entrepreneurial spirit, 348
  • maintaining daily habits, 346–347
  • maintaining physical health, 347
  • playing your game, 345–346
  • serving others, 347
  • staying mentally tough, 350
  • working toward security, 348–349
• median net worth, 267
• meditation, in your morning routine, 19, 131
• Memorable Getaways tradition, 200
• memorizing spiritual passages, 151–152
• Meniere's disease, 114
• mental attitude
  • about, 129
  • being positive, 130–133
  • comparisons for encouragement, 136–137
  • cultivating your self-esteem, 133–136
  • developing the habit of personal reward, 138
• mental health, 115–117
• mental toughness, as a measure/model of success, 350
• mentors
  • about, 25, 28
  • evaluating, 26
  • multiple, 27–28
  • not-so-perfect, 27
• Merrill, A. Roger (author)
  • First Things First, 326
• milestones, recognizing, 195, 226

• The Millionaire Next Door (Stanley), 242–243, 268

• models of success
  • about, 345
  • building self-confidence, 349
  • creating a legacy, 350–351
  • looking for self-improvement, 350
  • maintaining business savvy/entrepreneurial spirit, 348
  • maintaining daily habits, 346–347
  • maintaining physical health, 347
  • playing your game, 345–346
  • serving others, 347
  • staying mentally tough, 350
  • working toward security, 348–349
• moderation, maintaining, 113
• momentum, growing, 16
• monetary costs, of leisure activities, 312–313
• monetary worth, assigning your time a, 288
• Mothers Against Drink Driving (MADD), 69
• motivation
  • about, 51–52
  • behavioral styles and, 58–59, 60–67
  • benefits of being motivated, 52
  • categories of, 56–58
  • choosing types of, 67–71
  • Compliant behavioral style, 66–67
  • Dominant behavioral style, 60–62
  • Influencer behavioral style, 62–64
  • maintaining, 297–298, 304
  • motivators, 52–55
  • personalizing drivers, 55–56
  • relationship with health, 117
  • Steady behavioral style, 64–65
• multitasking, 293
• Murphy's Law, 43

N

• naming goals, 287–288
• necessities, credit card for, 257–258
• needs, wants becoming, 264–268
• negative comments, avoiding, 194
• net worth
  • home ownership and, 243–244
  • median, 267
  • targets for, 242–243
• Newton, Isaac (scientist), 16
• Nightingale, Earl (personal coach)
  • about, 8, 25, 74
  • motivational talks by, 116
  • on success, 120
• non-number-based goals, 80
• number-based goals, 80
• Nutrition For Dummies (Rinzler), 122

O

• oatmeal, 123
• offline time, scheduling, 292–294
• olive oil, 123
• omega-3 fatty acids, 122
• opportunity
  • expanding for employees, 223
  • seizing, 214–215
  • timidity and, 360–361
• optimism, maintaining, 106
• organizing surroundings, 289–290
• Ortberg, John (author)
  • It All Goes Back In The Box, 255
• overcoming time-management obstacles, 291–294
• over-deliver, 225

P

• pain/pleasure, as a motivator, 54–55
• Parable of the Sower, 43–47
• parents
  • being successful, 190–195
  • honoring, 206–209
• Pareto, Vilfredo (economist), 23
• Pareto principle (80/20 rule)
  • about, 23, 31–32, 120–121
  • matching time investment to return, 316–318
  • at work, 318–320
  • in your personal life, 320–323
• passion, as a key ingredient to success, 29
• patience
  • connecting with success, 102–103
  • as a personal characteristic for improving success, 341–342
• Paul, Apostle, 144

• “pay yourself first,” 269–275

• Peale, Norman Vincent (author)
  • The Power of Positive Thinking, 116
• people resources, 93–94
• perfectionism, 334
• performance, praising, 222
• per-hour worth
  • about, 305
  • calculating hourly income, 307–308
  • importance of, 306–307
  • improving through work efforts, 308–310
  • making value-based time decisions in personal life, 310–313
• perseverance, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 338
• persistence, power of, 100–105
• personal activities, scheduling in time-blocking system, 328–329
• personal connection, creating friends through, 158–163
• personal growth/development
  • appreciating, 83
  • power of, 67–68
• personal happiness, as a decision, 132
• personal life, 80/20 rule for, 320–323
• personal motivation
  • about, 51–52
  • behavioral styles and, 58–59, 60–67
  • benefits of being motivated, 52
  • categories of, 56–58
  • choosing types of, 67–71
  • Compliant behavioral style, 66–67
  • Dominant behavioral style, 60–62
  • Influencer behavioral style, 62–64
  • maintaining, 297–298, 304
  • motivators, 52–55
  • personalizing drivers, 55–56
  • relationship with health, 117
  • Steady behavioral style, 64–65
• personal reward, developing the habit of, 138
• personality, pleasing, teaching fundamentals of a, 202
• personalizing drivers, 55–56
• persuade, compared with understand, 184–185
• persuasion, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 341
• physical health
  • about, 111–112
  • as a category of success, 11, 13
  • creating a health team, 113–115
  • creating your health team, 113–115
  • diet, 120–123
  • exercise, 124–126
  • having only one life to live, 112–113
  • health events, 117–120
  • maintaining, as a measure/model of success, 347
  • mental health, 115–117
  • relationship with motivation, 117
  • rest, 126–127
• physical touch, as a love language, 180
• planning time, scheduling in time-blocking system, 329–330
• planting, as a success strategy, 43
• Platinum Rule, 158
• playing your game, as a measure/model of success, 345–346
• plussing strategy, 212, 225
• Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Farrar), 198
• poisons (diet), 122
• pornography, 177, 204–205
• positive
  • being, 130–133
  • emphasizing the, 37–38
  • recognizing the, 185
  • staying in comparisons, 136–137
• positive affirmations, 106–107, 131
• positive attitude, as a personal characteristic for improving success, 340
• positive thinking, 115–116
• poultry, eating, 122

• The Power of Positive Thinking (Peale), 116

• praise
  • for performance, 222
  • putting in writing, 208
• prayer
  • power of, 150–151
  • Serenity, 334
  • in your morning routine, 19, 131
• premarital counseling, 176
• preventing clutter overload, 298
• price, balancing promise vs., 42
• primary care doctor, 114
• prioritizing daily objectives, 318
• problem-solving, in business, 224–225
• processed sugar, 122
• procrastination, balancing discipline with, 41–42
• productivity
  • as a benefit of being motivated, 52
  • increasing, 309

• The Profit (TV show), 16–17

• progress
  • assessing in time-blocking system, 331–333
  • as a motivator, 70–71
• promise, balancing price vs., 42
• protecting your attitude, 105–108
• publications
  • Controlling Cholesterol For Dummies (Rinzler), 122
  • First Things First (Covey), 326
  • First Things First (Merrill), 326
  • The 5 Love Languages (Chapman), 180
  • The Game of Work (Coonradt), 21, 221
  • Good to Great (Collins), 219
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People (Carnegie), 155
  • It All Goes Back In The Box (Ortberg), 255
  • Love Is A Decision (Smalley), 15, 171–172, 173
  • The Love Dare (Kendrick and Kendrick), 187
  • Man's Search for Meaning (Frankel), 100
  • The Millionaire Next Door (Stanley), 242–243, 268
  • Nutrition For Dummies (Rinzler), 122
  • Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Farrar), 198
  • The Power of Positive Thinking (Peale), 116
  • The Richest Man in Babylon (Clason), 29
  • Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), 158
  • Success For Dummies (Ziglar), 25, 75, 157
  • Successful Time Management For Dummies (Zeller), 342
  • Think and Grow Rich (Hill), 29, 90, 150
  • Timid Salespeople Have Skinny Kids (Ziglar), 97
  • The Tribute: What Every Parent Longs to Hear (Rainey), 209
  • Weight Loss Kit For Dummies (Rinzler), 122

Q

• qualitative goals, evaluating, 332–333
• quality of life, improving, 310
• quality time, as a love language, 180
• quick thinker, as a characteristic of Dominant behavioral style, 62
• quiet time, in your morning routine, 19

R

• Rainey, Dennis (author)
  • The Tribute: What Every Parent Longs to Hear, 209
• rainy-day fund, 356
• raises, setting aside a percentage for retirement, 277
• Ramsey, Dave (financial expert), 255
• ranking tasks, in time-blocking system, 325
• ratios, knowing to successful endeavors, 103–105
• reacting, 290
• reading, in your morning routine, 19
• rebooking discussions, 295–296
• recalibrating our definition of success, 119–120
• receiving gifts, as a love language, 180
• reciprocity, law of, 165
• recognizing
  • achievements, 195
  • differences in children, 193–194
  • milestones, 195, 226
  • positives, 185
• reducing credit card debt, 257–258
• rejection, fear of, as a barrier to goal setting, 75–76
• rekindling the flame, 186–188
• relationships
  • building, 148
  • business
    • about, 211
    • building customer/client relationships, 223–226
    • characteristics of great employees, 215–218
    • characteristics of great employers, 218–223
    • providing more than you're paid for, 212–215
  • as a category of success, 12, 13
  • investing in personal, 320–321
• Remember icon, 3
• reminders app, 32
• repetition, turning consistency into, 19–20
• replacement income, earning, 238
• resetting expectations, 118–119
• resources, determining needs for, 92–94
• responding, 290
• responsibility
  • buying time for, 311
  • delegating, 295, 297–298
  • taking, 167–168
  • teaching, 202–203
• rest, 126–127
• Retirement Savings Calculator, 238–239
• retirement success, guaranteeing, 275–282
• return, matching time investment to, 316–318
• revocable living trust, 357
• rewards
  • claiming, 58
  • developing the habit of personal, 138
  • discipline as, 36–39
  • of leisure activities, 312
• rhythm, identifying your, 288

• The Richest Man in Babylon (Clason), 29

• Rinzler, Carol Ann (author)
  • Controlling Cholesterol For Dummies, 122
  • Nutrition For Dummies, 122
  • Weight Loss Kit For Dummies, 122
• Robbins, Tony (motivational speaker), motivational talks by, 116
• rocky places, sowing seeds in, 46
• Rohn, Jim (personal coach), 11, 25
• routines
  • creating, 289
  • success, 18–19
• rules, wealth and, 254

S

• salami approach, for tasks, 71
• Sales Champion (website), 59
• sales professionals, 80/20 rule for, 319
• salmon, eating, 122
• saving mechanisms, forced, 273–275
• savings
  • about, 250–252
  • rainy-day fund, 356
  • starting too late, 353–354
• scattering the seed, as a success strategy, 43
• scheduling
  • personal activities in time-blocking system, 328–329
  • planning time in time-blocking system, 329–330
  • self-evaluation in time-blocking system, 329–330
  • time offline, 292–294
  • your time, 289
• Schuller, Robert (preacher), 97, 188
• security
  • increasing your feelings of, 145
  • working toward, as a measure/model of success, 348–349
• seeds, 123
• selecting
  • motivation types, 67–71
  • work situations, 216–217
• self-confidence
  • building, as a measure/model of success, 349
  • lack of, as a barrier to success, 38
  • as a personal characteristic for improving success, 343
• self-directed, as a small business owner, 281–282
• self-directed retirement accounts, 281–282
• self-discipline, 201–202
• self-esteem, cultivating your, 133–136
• self-evaluation, scheduling in time-blocking system, 329–330
• self-improvement, looking for, as a measure/model of success, 350
• self-motivated, as a characteristic of Dominant behavioral style, 61
• Serenity prayer, 334
• service-based roles, 80/20 rule for, 319–320
• serving
  • as a characteristic of a great employee, 218
  • as a measure/model of success, 347
• setbacks. See adversity
• setting
  • benchmarks with children, 203–204
  • clear and compelling standards, 221–222
  • expectations, 296–297
  • goals with children, 203–204
  • gross asset number, 238
• Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), 158
• shortening conversations, 295
• skills
  • encouraging of children, 194–195
  • as goals, 82
  • increasing, 93
• sleep, 127
• small business owners, guaranteeing retirement success as a, 281–282
• Smalley, Gary (author)
  • Love Is A Decision, 15, 171–172, 173
• smiling, 159, 163–164
• social media, influence on wealth of, 267–268
• Social Security Benefit Formula, 274–275
• Social Security benefits, 276–277
• Socrates (philosopher), 168
• solving problems in business, 224–225
• sowing and reaping, law of, 43–47
• specialists, medical, 115
• spiritual community, finding a, 147–149
• spiritual passages, memorizing, 151–152
• spiritual study, 149–152
• spiritual wealth, 143
• spirituality
  • about, 139
  • developing, 143–147
  • growing in, 147–152
  • individual journeys of, 140–143
• standards, setting clear and compelling, 134, 221–222
• Stanley, Thomas (author)
  • The Millionaire Next Door, 242–243, 268
• Steady behavioral style
  • about, 64
  • characteristics of, 64
  • communicating with someone who has the, 182
  • downsides of, 65
  • drivers of, 64–65
  • how they operate, 65
• Stone, W. Clement (personal coach), 25

• The Strangest Secret recording, 74

• strengths, assessing, 286–287
• success. See also specific topics
  • about, 7–8
  • categories of, 11–14
  • clues from, 23–24
  • connecting patience with, 102–103
  • creating and replaying experiences, 135–136
  • creating the habit of, 14–16
  • as a decision, 14–15
  • defining for each child, 192–193
  • establishing a consistent process of, 16–20
  • fear of, as a barrier to goal setting, 76
  • financial
    • about, 229–230
    • as a category of success, 12, 13
    • difference in wealthy people, 233–236
    • financial freedom, 230–233
    • knowing your wealth number, 236–244
    • types of wealth, 244–247
  • how to approach, 28–33
  • measures/models of
    • about, 345
    • building self-confidence, 349
    • creating a legacy, 350–351
    • looking for self-improvement, 350
    • maintaining business savvy/entrepreneurial spirit, 348
    • maintaining daily habits, 346–347
    • maintaining physical health, 347
    • playing your game, 345–346
    • serving others, 347
    • staying mentally tough, 350
    • working toward security, 348–349
  • recalibrating our definition of, 119–120
  • setting expectations for, 16
  • setting up each day for, 196
  • speeding up the process of, 21
  • staying focused towards, 120
  • staying on track for, 20–21
  • time management
    • about, 285–286
    • assessing your strengths and weaknesses, 286–287
    • assigning time a monetary worth, 288
    • circumventing interruptions, 292
    • communicating effectively, 291–292
    • creating routines, 289
    • decision-making, 298–304
    • delegating, 295, 297–298
    • following a system, 289–291
    • identifying your rhythm, 288
    • maintaining healthy balances, 298
    • maintaining motivation, 297–298, 304
    • minimizing damage, 294–297
    • naming goals for direction, 287–288
    • organizing surroundings, 289–290
    • overcoming obstacles to, 291–294
    • preventing clutter overload, 298
    • realistic expectations, 297
    • rebooking discussions, 295–296
    • scheduling time offline, 292–294
    • scheduling your time, 289
    • setting expectations, 296–297
    • shortening conversations, 295
    • using technology, 290–291
  • what constitutes, 8–9
  • what doesn't constitute, 9
  • what it is to you, 9–11
• Success For Dummies (Ziglar), 25, 75, 157
• success routine, 18–19
• success tournaments, creating, 86–89
• Successful Time Management For Dummies (Zeller), 342
• sugar, processed, 122
• surroundings, organizing, 289–290
• Swiss-cheese approach, for tasks, 70–71

T

• taking turns, 165–166
• Taoism, 147
• task-based roles, 80/20 rule for, 319–320
• tasks
  • categorizing in time-blocking system, 324
  • identifying ones that support goals, 317–318
  • ranking in time-blocking system, 325
• teaching
  • discipline, 202–203
  • fundamentals of a pleasing personality, 202
  • power of action over words, 202
  • responsibility, 202–203
• technology, time-saving, 290–291
• Templeton, John (investor), 143
• Think and Grow Rich (Hill), 29, 90, 150
• thorny soil, sowing seeds in, 46
• time
  • buying, 311
  • costs, of leisure activities, 312–313
  • evaluating usage of, 20–21
  • matching investment of to return, 316–318
  • scheduling your, 289
• time management success
  • about, 285–286
  • assessing your strengths and weaknesses, 286–287
  • assigning time a monetary worth, 288
  • circumventing interruptions, 292
  • communicating effectively, 291–292
  • creating routines, 289
  • decision-making, 298–304
  • delegating, 295, 297–298
  • following a system, 289–291
  • identifying your rhythm, 288
  • maintaining healthy balances, 298
  • maintaining motivation, 297–298, 304
  • minimizing damage, 294–297
  • naming goals for direction, 287–288
  • organizing surroundings, 289–290
  • overcoming obstacles to, 291–294
  • preventing clutter overload, 298
  • realistic expectations, 297
  • rebooking discussions, 295–296
  • scheduling time offline, 292–294
  • scheduling your time, 289
  • setting expectations, 296–297
  • shortening conversations, 295
  • using technology, 290–291
• time-blocking system
  • about, 289, 315–316
  • assessing progress, 331–333
  • daily prioritization, 323–326
  • 80/20 rule, 316–323
  • making adjustments, 331, 333–334
  • process of time-blocking, 326–330
  • setting up family traditions, 322
• timeframe tournament, 87–88
• timeframes, assigning to goals, 85–86
• Timid Salespeople Have Skinny Kids (Ziglar), 97
• timidity
  • about, 97
  • opportunity and, 360–361
• Tip icon, 3
• tongue, holding your, 184
• Tracy, Brian (personal coach), 25
• traditions, establishing, 199–200
• tributes, writing to parents, 209
• The Tribute: What Every Parent Longs to Hear (Rainey), 209
• turns, taking, 165–166
• Twain, Mark (author), 350

U

• under-promise, 225
• understand, compared with persuade, 184–185
• unity, building, 149
• upbeat tones, speaking in, 164

V

• value-based time decisions, making in your personal life, 310–313
• value(s)
  • creating, 224–225
  • establishing in children, 201–202
  • increasing yours in business relationships, 213–214
  • of the institution of marriage, 175–177
  • setting clear, 134
• vegetables, eating, 123
• verbal communication, 161
• video games, 204
• vision communication, as a characteristic of a great employer, 219–221

W

• Wallace, Russell (botanist), 95
• walnuts, 123
• wants, becoming needs, 264–268
• Warning icon, 3
• warnings, people in your life as, 28
• weaknesses, assessing, 286–287
• wealth
  • after your death, 255
  • compound interest, 241–242
  • debt, 255–261
  • defined, 267
  • differences in wealthy people, 233–236
  • estate planning, 357–358
  • having enjoyment, 253–254
  • income and, 252–253
  • knowing your wealth number, 236–244
  • net worth targets, 242–243
  • personal, 249–255
  • rainy-day fund, 356
  • relationship with earnings, 267
  • rules of, 254
  • savings, 250–252
  • statistics on, 233
  • success mistakes in, 353–362
• Wealth Commitment document, 273
• wealth plan
  • about, 263
  • guaranteeing retirement success, 275–282
  • paying yourself first, 269–275
  • realizing your market value, 264
  • wants becoming needs, 264–268
• wealth strategy plan, writing a, 354–355
• wealth team, 358–360
• websites
  • Cheat Sheet, 3
  • retirement savings calculator, 238–239
  • Sales Champion, 59
• weight, focusing discipline on your, 39
• Weight Loss Kit For Dummies (Rinzler), 122
• whole grains, 123

• “why,” 10–11, 90–91
• “Win the day” slogan (Oregon Ducks), 17–18

• words, teaching power of action over, 202
• words of affirmation, as a love language, 180
• work activities, factoring in time-blocking system, 329
• work situations
  • choosing, 216–217
  • 80/20 rule in, 318–320
• worry, 99
• Wright, Steven (comedian), 15
• writing
  • putting praise in, 208
  • tributes to parents, 209
  • wealth strategy plans, 354–355

Z

• Zeller, Dirk (author)
  • Successful Time Management For Dummies, 342
• Ziglar, Judge (author)
  • Timid Salespeople Have Skinny Kids, 97
• Ziglar, Zig (author)
  • on attitude, 105
  • motivational talks by, 116
  • on net worth, 243
  • Success For Dummies, 25, 75, 157