Men are outcome-focused and goal-oriented. According to Sara Laschever, co-author of Women Don't Ask and Ask For It:
"Since boys were little, they have been trying to figure out how to reach their goals. Boys desire certain toys that will help them meet their end goal. Toys for boys are all about meeting goals such as a tunnel on the train tracks or a toy truck to reach the end of the driveway. On the other hand, toys for girls are about helping others such as a doll or a cooking set."
Because men are competitive, they will want to know how they are doing and what they can do better to reach their goals. To build trust, you should show the men you manage that you want to help them on their path to reach their goals.
Trust is vital to the communication and success of your team. A survey by Development Dimensions International found that 99 percent of employees think trust in the workplace is a vital need at work, but only 29 percent reported a high level of trust within their organization.
Here are some ways that you can build trust with your team:
If you continue to do these steps over and over again, the trust will come as you show consistency. Men may not open up right away and share their thoughts and feelings, and you might find them very hard to read at first. It may take more time for men to develop their trust in you, but it will come with time. If you want to get to know them on a more personal level, don't bug them with personal questions. Just build the trust first.
After you build trust, think of your job as manager like that of a coach of a sports team. You are the coach and the men you manage are the athletes. You are going to coach them to reach the top of their game.
Here are some ways that you can coach and support the men on your team:
"Do you think you can do better?"
"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader."
– John Quincy Adams
Here are some answers to some common leadership questions:
Answer: Women can feel different than men about a friendly competition. From my experience, it usually just takes one quick game to get her away from worrying about her workload to see how fun it is. But, it could be that the women on your team don't feel comfortable competing with men. If there is a woman on your team who doesn't want to join in on the fun, I would speak with her individually so you can identify why she doesn't want to participate. Once you have that conversation, tell her your reasons for using competition on your team (you should also give her this book so she can understand how to work with men better!) Ask her to help you and to try it out. Then, check in on her throughout the competition.
Answer: First, make sure that you are smiling and laughing at other situations that come up. Then, don't be afraid to poke fun at yourself for the funny things that you have done as well. It is OK to make yourself the punch-line because it shows that you don't take yourself that seriously. Now, before you think you have to share your most embarrassing moment, try sharing those stupid little situations like knocking over the trash can or tripping over the carpet. If you do something funny in the office, make light of it. Men do this all the time. Last week in the office, a man on my team made himself the punch-line by telling us that he saw one of the executives at my company at Starbucks. After he said hello to him, he spilled his coffee all over himself. He could have kept this very embarrassing situation to himself, but instead he chose to tell everyone in the office and laugh at himself with the rest of the team.
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