INDEX

act as if principle, 55–56

action, behaviors and, 12–13, 12f, 15f

Adams, John, 53–54

addiction: to alcohol, 36–37

defined, 6–7

to drugs, 36–38

unmet needs causing, 41

affirmations, 55–56

alcohol, 28–30, 36–37

Apple, 73

at-risk children, 54–55

Auschwitz, 76

Awaken the Giant Within (Robbins), 8

behavior change: changed principles leading to, 18–21, 40, 47

permanent, xiii, 4

real world and, 5–7

understanding, 4

behavior patterns: pain connected to, 51–52

in Reality Model, 12–14, 12f, 32–33, 51–52

results identified by, 32–33

behaviors: action and, 12–13, 12f, 15f

beliefs driving, 51–52

Human Needs fulfilled by, 14–16, 43–44, 54–55

questions to ask about, 50–52, 56–57

responsibility for, 39

unmet needs driving, 33–38

beliefs: about alcohol, 28–30

behavior driven by, 51–52

culture influenced by, 46–47

about drugs, 28–30

importance of, x–xi, 8

incorrect, 15–16

new, adoption of, 54–55, 58

principles underlying, 6

Belief Window: applying, 39–41, 43–47

attacking, 39

changes in, 18–21, 40, 47, 51, 54–56, 80

cheating and, 16

Constitution and, 54

Franklin Quest’s, 19–21

generations passing down, 13–14

groups having, 19

in history, 52–54

introduction to, 9–21, 10f, 15f

negative results of, 47

of optimists, 75, 77

pain and, 77–81

of pessimists, 75, 77

principles on, 9–21, 10f, 34–35, 37–38, 51, 53–59, 75, 77–81

of realists, 75, 77

representation of, 9–11, 10f, 15f

results predicted by, 32–33

rewiring, 55–56

teaching, 26–38

of teenagers, 55

belonging, 63–66, 65f–66f

Belushi, John, 30

Ben Franklin High School, 45–46

bin Laden, Osama, 53

Blanchard, Ken, ix–x

Blanchard, Margie, x

body: self-worth depending on, 41–42

in Whole Person Paradigm, 65, 65f

brain, rewiring of, 55–56

Brokaw, Tom, 69

career change, 42–43

change: in Belief Window, 18–21, 40, 47, 51, 54–56, 80

career, 42–43

in lives, by Reality Model, 59

need for, 49. See also behavior change

Chaplin, Charlie, 71

cheating, 16

choices, 66, 66f

Churchill, Winston, 35

cognitive dissonance, 44

Collins, Jim, 75–76

Constitution, U.S., 54

Copernicus, Nicolaus, 5

corporate training, 40, 43–44

Covey, Stephen R.: The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, 66

September 11 workshop by, 77–79

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 3

on three constants of life, 2

Whole Person Paradigm of, 65, 65f

culture: beliefs influencing, 46–47

organizational, 60, 64, 67, 70

technologically advanced, 3

universal elements of, 67

Dickens, Charles, 70–71

Donne, John, 63

drugs: addiction to, 36–38

beliefs about, 28–30

in Ben Franklin High School, 45

The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness (Covey), 66

Eisenhower, Dwight D., 80

Employee Engagement Model, 66, 66f

Enron, 16

esteem, 67–70

Everyone’s a Coach (Shula and Blanchard), ix

failure, 56–59

fear, of failure, 57–58

feedback, 14, 15f

fifth natural law, 41–43

first natural law, 15

Fit at Last: Look and Feel Better Once and for All (Kearin and Blanchard), x

five steps, of Reality Model, 48–56

football, 67

fourth natural law, 41

Frankl, Viktor, 75–76

Franklin, Benjamin, 17, 53–54

Franklin Covey, ix, 66, 77–78

Franklin Planner, ix, xiii, 2

Franklin Quest: Belief Window of, 19–21

Ben Franklin High School adopted by, 45–46

founding of, ix, 4

inner peace and, 43–44

needs met over time by, 61

Reality Model and, xiii, 4, 19–21, 43–46, 54–55, 61

Redwood Elementary School adopted by, 54–55

Galileo Galilei, 5

Galileo Initiative, 5

Gen Xers, 73

Girls Choir of Harlem, 79

Giuliani, Rudy, 77

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap . . . and Others Don’t (Collins), 75–76

greatest generation, 69

Ground Zero, 77–78

growth: failure as part of, 56–59

principles and, 40

as process of changing Belief Window, 40, 47

Reality Model for, 40, 47, 56–59

Hanoi prison, 75–76

Hawaii, 47

heart, in Whole Person Paradigm, 65, 65f

hierarchy of needs, 62–64, 62f

high schools: Ben Franklin, 45–46

Reality Model taught at, 22–38, 83–84

history, Reality Model and, 52–54

Hitler, Adolf, 52–53

Honolulu, 47

Human Needs: behaviors fulfilling, 14–16, 43–44, 54–55

as engine, 9, 9f

for importance, 9, 9f, 35, 67–70

introduction to, x, 8–10, 9f, 12, 14–18, 15f

to live, 9, 9f, 19, 62–63, 62f

love, 9, 9f, 33, 35, 37, 63–66, 65f–66f

natural laws and, 15–18

in organizational application, 60–74, 62f, 65f–66f

principles and, 10, 12, 19, 27–29, 34–35

pyramid, 61–62, 62f

results linked to, 14

teaching, 26–31, 33–38

unmet, 33–38, 41

variety, 9, 9f, 35, 70–74

humility, 69

Hussein, Saddam, 53

ideas, taking flight, 70

If-Then Rules: automatic, 11–12, 15, 19, 52

principles and, 11–12, 19–20

in Reality Model, 11–13, 11f, 15, 15f, 19–20, 52

importance, need for: as Human Need, 9, 9f, 35, 67–70

introduction to, 9, 9f

organizational application of, 67–70

Industrial Revolution, 71

inner peace, 43–44, 82–84

Iwo Jima, 81

Jefferson, Thomas, 53–54

job, self-worth depending on, 42–43

Joplin, Janis, 30

Kearin, Tim, x

King, Martin Luther, Jr., 54

laws, natural. See natural laws

leadership: Human Needs pyramid and, 61–62, 62f

importance and, 69–70

living and, 63

love and, 63, 65

management compared with, 74

simple truths of, ix

sports and, 67–69

variety and, 73–74

leisure time, 71–72

life: admitting of pain in, 49

Reality Model changing, 59

simple truths of, ix

three constants in, 2

live, need to: as Human Need, 9, 9f, 19, 62–63, 62f

leadership meeting, 63

in organizational application, 62–63, 62f

Lombardi, Vince, 67

love, need for: as Human Need, 9, 9f, 33, 35, 37, 63–66, 65f–66f

leadership meeting, 63, 65

in organizational application, 63–66, 65f–66f

unmet, behavior driven by, 33, 37

Lucius Tarquinius Superbus, 82–83

management, leadership compared with, 74

Man’s Search for Meaning (Frankl), 75

Maraboli, Steve, 22

Marx, Karl, 71

Maslow, Abraham, 62, 64

Maugham, W. Somerset, 39

mental rewiring, 55–56

millennials, 73

mind: harmonizing, 44–47

in Whole Person Paradigm, 65, 65f

misery, pain and, 80–81

modern organizations, 73

Modern Times, 71

natural laws: first, 15

second, 15

third, 40

fourth, 41

fifth, 41–43

sixth, 43–44

seventh, 44–47

defined, 6

Human Needs and, 15–18

Nebuchadnezzar, 53

needs: belonging, 63–66, 65f–66f

for change, 49

esteem, 67–70

hierarchy of, 62–64, 62f

meeting, over time, 16–17, 21, 29, 34, 43, 54–55, 60–61, 83–84

physiological, 62–63, 62f. See also Human Needs

neuroscience, 55

North Philadelphia, 45–46

operational “silos,” 64

optimists, 75–76, 81

organization: culture of, 60, 64, 67, 70

defined, 61–62

modern, 73

organizational application: choices in, 66, 66f

Employee Engagement Model and, 66, 66f

Human Needs met in, 60–74, 62f, 65f–66f

overview of, 60

Whole Person Paradigm and, 65, 65f

winning in, 67–69

Organizational Culture and Leadership (Schein), 60

pain: admitting of, 49

behavior pattern connected to, 51–52

Belief Window and, 77–81

misery and, 80–81

responsibility for, 49

peace, inner, 43–44, 82–84

Peck, M. Scott, 48

permanent behavior change, xiii, 4

pessimists, 75–76, 81

physiological need, 62–63, 62f

power, in Reality Model, 22, 45, 48, 75–81

prejudgments and prejudices, 47

Presley, Elvis, 29–30

principles: act as if, 55–56

beliefs based on, 6

on Belief Window, 9–21, 10f, 34–35, 37–38, 51, 53–59, 75, 77–81

changing, to change behavior, 18–21, 40, 47

correct, identified, 27–32

defined, 6

about failure, 57–59

growth and, 40, 47

harmony in, 44

Human Needs and, 10, 12, 19, 27–29, 34–35

If-Then Rules and, 11–12, 19–20

incorrect, 15–17, 27–32

long-term effects of, 34, 41

new, 54–56, 58

origin of, 17–18

pain connected to, 51–52

prejudgments and prejudices, 47

about race, 46–47, 53

self-worth and, 41–43

short-term effects of, 34, 41

prison, 50–51, 75–76

Pulsipher, Jerry, ix, xiii

race, principles about, 46–47, 53

The Rape of Lucrece (Shakespeare), 82–83

realists, 75–77, 81

Reality Model: behavior patterns in, 12–14, 12f, 32–33, 51–52

development of, ix–x, xiii, 4

engine, 9, 9f

failure and, 56–59

feedback in, 14, 15f

Franklin Quest and, xiii, 4, 19–21, 43–46, 54–55, 61

growth and, 40, 47, 56–59

history and, 52–54

If-Then Rules, 11–13, 11f, 15, 15f, 19–20, 52

inner peace and, 43–44, 82–84

introduction to, ix–xi, xiii–xiv, 1

optimists and, 75–76, 81

pessimists and, 75–76, 81

power in, 22, 45, 48, 75–81

promise, 1

realists and, 75–77, 81

real world in, 5–7

results in, 14–15, 15f, 29, 32–33, 45, 50

simplicity of, 45

steps of, 48–56

using, 48–59

visual representation of, 8f, 45. See also Belief Window; Human Needs

Reality Model, applying: addiction and, 41

behavioral responsibility and, 39

Belief Window, 39–41, 43–47

changing principles in, 40, 47

harmonizing mind and, 44–47

inner peace and, 43–44

by optimist, 81

by pessimist, 81

prejudgments and prejudices in, 47

by realist, 81

self-worth and, 41–43

unmet needs and, 41. See also organizational application

Reality Model, teaching: beliefs about drugs and alcohol, 28–30

Belief Window, 26–38

correct principles identified in, 27–32

at high schools, 22–38, 83–84

hostility toward, 23–26, 32

Human Needs, 26–31, 33–38

lives changed by, 59

power in, 22

in prison, 50–51

results, 29, 32–33

suicide and, 36

unmet needs driving behavior, 33–38

real world, 5–7

recognition, 69

Redwood Elementary School, 54–55

relationships, 63–66, 65f–66f

responsibility, 39, 49

results: behavior patterns identifying, 32–33

Belief Window predicting, 32–33

Human Needs linked to, 14

measured, 15, 29, 45

negative, 47

in Reality Model, 14–15, 15f, 29, 32–33, 45, 50

seeds and fruits, 29

teaching, 29, 32–33

The Road Less Traveled (Peck), 48

Robbins, Tony, 8, 63

rules. See If-Then Rules

Saladin, 53

Saturday morning, 72

Schein, Edgar, 60

Scientific Revolution, 5

second natural law, 15

Second World War, 52–53, 75–76, 80–81

seeds and fruits, 29

self-worth, 41–43

September 11, 2001, workshop, 77–81

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), 3

seventh natural law, 44–47

Shakespeare, William, 82–83

Shula, Don, ix–x

“silos,” operational, 64

sixth natural law, 43–44

Smith, Hyrum W., 3

soccer, 67

speed, in technologically advanced culture, 3

Spencer, Norman, 45–46

spirit, in Whole Person Paradigm, 65, 65f

sports, 67–69

steps, of Reality Model, 48–56

Stockdale, James, 75–76

suicide, 36

teaching. See Reality Model, teaching

technologically advanced culture, speed in, 3

teenagers: Reality Model for, 22–38, 55, 83–84

talking to, 55

Teresa, Mother, 54

“A Theory of Human Motivation” (Maslow), 62

third natural law, 40

time management, 2–3, 40, 44

toxic relationships, 64

trickle-down relationships, 65

Unapologetically You (Maraboli), 22

unions, 71

unmet needs: addiction caused by, 41

behavior driven by, 33–38

U.S. Constitution, 54

Utah State Penitentiary, 50–51

variety, need for: as Human Need, 9, 9f, 35, 70–74

introduction to, 9, 9f

leadership meeting, 73–74

leisure time and, 71–72

in organizational application, 70–74

Washington, George, 53–54

weight loss, x, 41–42

What Matters Most (Smith), 3

Whitman, Bob, 77–78

Whole Person Paradigm, 65, 65f

winning, pursuit of, 67–69

World Cup, 67

World Trade Center, 77–79

World War II, 52–53, 75–76, 80–81

You Are What You Believe speech, xiii–xiv