INDEX

  • Page references followed by fig indicate an illustrated figure; followed by t indicate a table.
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  • AARP study, 37
  • Accountability
    • change through “real,” 71
    • for living a values-based life, 103–105
    • 7–5–3–1 system focus on, 74–75
    • support systems and mutual, 71–73, 77
  • Activities
    • leveraging and sharing fun, 161–162, 163
    • productivity confused with, 15
    • self-reflecting on how your 168 spent on, 15–18
    • sharing with family and friends, 148
    • spiritual, 180–181
    • when to reprioritize your, 8, 67, 81
  • Advocate Health Care, 91
  • Ali, Khalid, 178–180, 189
  • Anxiety disorders, 140
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  • Balance. See Life balance
  • “The Balancing Action Plan,” introduction to the, 8–9
  • The “The Balancing Action Plan,” See also 168 hours per week
  • Barnes, Christopher M., 138
  • Baxter International
  • Becoming the Best: Build a World-Class Organization through Values-Based Leadership (Kraemer), 6, 128, 129
  • Behaviors
    • begin change by starting with one or two, 64–65
    • cognitive dissonance between our stated values and, 34–38
    • how we rationalize unethical and other poor, 36
    • the influence of others on your, 46–47
    • keeping up with the Joneses, 47–48
  • Best partnerships, 129
  • Best teams, 128–130
  • The Blackstone Group, 144
  • Boundary setting, 105–107
  • Brick wall
    • best prevention from hitting the, 45–46
    • Carter Cast self-disrupting his way out of the, 51–52
    • the different forms for different people, 49–51
    • facing the choices you have after hitting, 49–51
    • keeping up with the Joneses and danger of the, 47–49
    • questions to ask yourself about the, 59
    • surprises as wake-up calls to avoid hitting the, 49
  • Bridges, William, 52
  • Brown, Brené, 153
  • Budnik, Anna, 106–107, 122, 137
  • Burnout
    • Carter Cast self-disrupting his way out of, 51–57
    • former student's lifestyle leading to, 32
    • unrealistic expectations of our 168 hours and, 36
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  • Career
    • being aware of the sacrifices made for, 40–42
    • the “corporate athlete” for a successful, 136
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • Hewlett's gender and workplace study (2002), 109
    • investing your 168 in, 8
    • Karen May's life plan outcomes for her, 93–94, 107–110, 114
    • professional goal-setting, 114
    • when it threatens your relationships, 49–50
    • your choices will dictate time spent on, 29–32
    • See also Life buckets
  • Career. See Work/career
  • Carnegie, Andrew, 170
  • Cast, Carter
    • his decision to self-disrupt his life, 51–57
    • his lake swim challenge, 142–144
    • his 7–5–3–1 system focus on accountability, 74–75
  • Change
    • adjusting to life plan, 107–110
    • building new habits key for 168 hours per week, 62–65
    • entering the neutral zone phase of, 53–54
    • keeping life fluid and open to, 93–94
    • marking the beginning phase of, 54–55
    • marking the end phase of, 52–53
    • self-reflection as cornerstone for, 64–65
    • the “what will the neighbors think” fear, 55–57
  • Charan, Ram, 32
  • Charity
    • do you have enough to share?, 186–187
    • paying it forward, 189–190
    • taking care of others, 184–186
  • Chavis, David M., 126
  • Children
    • author on his experiences as a, 115–118
    • leveraging and sharing fun with, 161–162, 163
    • rewarding fun for motivating, 158
    • spending time with family and, 1, 64, 69, 118
    • See also Family
  • Choices
    • aligning your values with your, 7
    • awareness of how your relationship and career, 40–42
    • Carter Cast's decision to self-disrupt his life, 51–57
    • Carter's story on getting past the brick wall, 51–55
    • and challenges associated with family, 118–120
    • cognitive dissonance between your stated values and, 34–38
    • to enter the neutral zone, 53–54
    • hitting the brick wall and facing your, 49–51
    • how we rationalize our poor, 33–34, 36
    • knowing when to say no to family, 121–124
    • to mark the beginning of a balanced life, 54–55
    • to mark the ending of unbalanced life, 52–53
    • self-reflection to understand and make your, 25, 76, 124
    • there is no age limit to using self-awareness for, 42–43
    • time spent on your 168 must be based on your, 32–33
    • when you hit the brick wall, 49–51
  • Cognitive dissonance
    • self-reflection as the solution to, 37–38
    • in an unbalanced life, 1
    • between your choices and stated values, 34–38
  • Community
    • best teams, 128–130
    • building your, 126–127
    • celebrating the broader community, 130–131
    • faith, 126, 180
    • investing your 168 in your, 8
    • making a difference by doing good in your, 170
    • as part of your personal relationships, 116fig
    • self-reflections on your, 131
    • the workplace as a, 127–130
    • See also Friends; Life buckets; Relationships
  • Complications of life, 39–40
  • Conspicuous consumption, 47
  • The “corporate athlete,” 136, 140
  • Covey, Stephen, 80
  • Cowen Inc., 128, 129, 175
  • Criminal behavior rationalization, 36
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  • Daily self-examination questions, 28
  • Daily self-reflections, 17–18, 21, 173
  • DaVita, Inc., 135, 146
  • Demontreville Jesuit Retreat House (Minnesota), 126–127, 170–174
  • Depression, 140
  • Diener, Ed, 187
  • “Disposing ourselves,” 21
  • Doing good
  • Duhigg, Charles, 64, 70–71
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  • Empathy, 129
  • The ending phase, 52–53
  • Endorphins, 70
  • Enriching fun, 162, 163
  • Estate planning/will, 37
  • Eurich, Tasha, 25–26
  • Exercise
    • Carter Cast's lake swim challenge, 142–144
    • childhood and sports activities, 134–135
    • developing the habit of, 73, 141–142
    • making it a priority, 137–138
    • Mike Zafirovski's story being lifelong athlete, for, 144–145
    • practicing self-awareness for, 148–149
    • rituals of, 147
    • sharing with family and friends, 148
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  • Faith community, 126, 180
  • Faith/spirituality
    • author's personal experiences with, 165–180
    • deciding what is important to you, 180–181
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • focusing on the common ground, 174–175
    • as foundation of author's self-reflection, 167–168
    • holistic approach to health, 147
    • investing your 168 in your, 9
    • Jeff Solomon's commitment to daily promote, 176–178
    • self-reflective questions about, 181
    • shared between author and his wife, 117
    • World Economic Forum's discussion of, 174–175
    • See also Life buckets
  • Family
    • author on his life centered around, 115–118
    • awareness of how your career choices affect, 40–42
    • as center of our personal relationships, 116fig
    • challenge of balancing the family life bucket, 118–121
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • as important life bucket, 115
    • investing your 168 in, 8
    • knowing when to say no, 121–124
    • personal goal-setting for your, 114
    • self-reflections on your, 131
    • spending time with our loved ones and, 1, 64, 69, 118
    • when your career threatens relationship with, 49–50
    • See also Children; Life buckets; Relationships
  • Fear
    • as barrier to transparency, 113
    • of not keeping up with the Joneses, 47–59
    • of what the neighbors will think, 55–57, 170
  • Financial goal-setting, 114
  • First-grade report card story, 116
  • Fitness project, 142–144
  • Francis, Father, 20, 167, 168–169
  • Francis of Assisi, St., 130–131, 181–182
  • Friends
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • importance of friendships and, 124–126
    • as important personal relationships, 116fig
    • investing your 168 in, 8
    • personal goal-setting for your family and, 114
    • self-reflections on your, 131
    • See also Community; Life buckets; Relationships
  • Friendships
    • emotional rewards of work, 127–128
    • importance and benefits of, 124–126
    • short check-ins maintaining, 125–126
  • From Values to Action: The Four Principles of Values-Based Leadership (Kraemer), 5
  • Fun/recreation/reading
    • benefits of stress-releasing, 156–157, 163
    • engaging your mind with enriching, 162, 163
    • enjoying spontaneous, 158–159, 163
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • identifying what fun means to you, 152–153
    • incentive of rewarding fun, 158, 163
    • investing your 168 in your, 8
    • leveraged and shared experiences of, 161–162, 163
    • making planned fun a priority, 153–156, 163
    • review the seven types of, 162–163
    • surprise and joy of giving fun to others, 159–161, 163
    • understanding the importance of, 151–152
    • vacation time, 153–156
    • See also Life buckets
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  • Gallagher, J. P., 90–93
  • Gallup World Poll data, 187
  • Gender and workplace study (2002), 109
  • Goals
    • building incremental, 70–71
    • Karen May's life goals framework for, 111, 114
    • setting realistic and specific, 68–69, 77
  • Golden Rule, 26, 188
  • Good deeds, 177
  • Graham, William, 129
  • Grehan, Farrell, 18–19
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  • Habit building steps
    • 1: you know it's harder than you think it is, 65
    • 2: even though it's hard, you really want to do this, 66–67
    • 3: this is what works best for you and your life today, 68–69
    • 4: you know it's going to take a lot of time and practice, 69–70
    • 5: building incremental goals along the way, 70–71
    • 6: support systems that hold you accountable, 71–73, 77
    • 7: measure your progress, 74–75, 77
  • Habits
    • building muscle memory to adopt new, 7
    • creating lifetime healthy, 141–142
    • difficulty of breaking and building, 62–65, 76–77
    • making time for self-reflection a, 16–18
    • realistic and specific goals for new, 68–69, 77
    • self-reflection to build new, 75–76
    • seven steps to building, 65–75
    • weight-loss as being all about, 68–69
  • Harburg, Fred, 68, 71, 72
  • Harvard Business Review
    • Annie McKee's article on work friendships, 127–128
    • Hewlett's gender and workplace study (2002), 109
    • “The Making of a Corporate Athlete” (Loehr and Schwartz), 136, 147
    • on “sleep devaluation” study, 138
  • Hate (H-word), 177
  • Health
    • Carter Cast's fitness project, 142–144
    • Carter Cast's self-disruption back to, 51–57
    • during our youth, 134–135
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • exercise for, 73, 134–135, 137–138, 141–142
    • holistic approach to, 147
    • how it impacts the rest of your life, 135–136
    • investing your 168 in your, 8
    • making it a priority, 137–138
    • mental health, 140–141
    • practicing self-awareness for, 148–149
    • sharing rituals with family and friends, 148
    • sleep as being crucial to your, 138–139
    • surprise warning signs of not attending to, 133–134
    • See also Life buckets
  • Health care triage, 91–92
  • Health rituals, 147
  • Healthy habits, 141–142
  • Hewlett's gender and workplace study (2002), 109
  • Hewlett, Sylvia Ann, 109
  • Hinote, Amy, 154–155
  • Horizontal life plan, 110–111
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  • “Income satiation” study, 187
  • Interfaith service story, 175
  • Islam, 178–180
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  • Jacobs, Donald, 191–192
  • Jebb, Andrew, 187
  • Jogging habit, 73
  • Joneses effect, 47–48
  • Journaling
    • notes to myself, 55
    • self-reflection, 18, 21
  • Judaism, 176–177
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  • Keeping up with the Joneses fallacy, 47–49
  • Kellogg Cares, 183
  • Kellogg School of Management, 3, 16, 21, 126, 171, 183–184, 190, 191–192
  • Kellogg's Global Hub, 130
  • Kraemer, Andrew, 39–40
  • Kraemer, Daniel, 84, 125
  • Kraemer, Diane, 121
  • Kraemer, Julie Jansen
    • arranging Christian leadership meeting, 89
    • bond of shared values and religious beliefs, 169
    • day care planning with, 39–40
    • family decision to life in Chicago, 121–122
    • her father's invitation to silent retreat, 171–174
    • marriage proposal to, 160–161
    • meeting and marrying, 117
    • on the “missing” car, 104
    • not driven by material things, 185–186
    • outside perspective provided by, 102, 103
    • prioritizing time with children and, 16, 106, 118, 156
  • Kraemer, Marilyn, 116
  • Kraemer, Paul, 116
  • Kraemer, Shannon, 121
  • Kraemer, Steve, 116, 160–161
  • Kraemer, Suzie, 39, 119, 156
  • Kraemer, Tom, 116
  • Kraft Foods, 93
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  • LaGuardia Airport encounter, 31–32
  • Lake swimming challenge story, 142–144
  • Laughter, 152
  • Lawrence University, 21, 82, 157, 171, 185
  • Lent, 184–185
  • Leveraged and shared fun, 161–162, 163
  • Lewis, C. S., 178
  • Life balance
    • building new habits for, 7, 62–77
    • Carter Cast's fitness project to regain his, 142–144
    • differentiating work-life balance from, 2, 13–14
    • guarding against unbalancing your, 45–57
    • how a strong family supports, 117–118
    • if you don't ask, you will never know lesson on, 107–108
    • it takes time to recover your, 57–58
    • only comes from being authentic to our values, 38
    • plant yourself where you thrive lesson for, 108–109
    • recalibrating your, 26–27
    • self-awareness through self-reflection for, 14, 33–34
    • See also Unbalanced life; Values-based life
  • Life balance in real time
    • adjusting to life plan changes, 107–110
    • building trust and transparency for, 111–113
    • the challenges of, 99–100
    • gaining perspective to practice, 113–114
    • the horizontal life plan, 110–111
    • important role of self-reflection in, 103–105
    • keeping yourself on track, 100–103
    • setting boundaries and saying no, 105–107
  • Life buckets
    • as areas which we spend time on, 3
    • begin change by starting with one, 64–65
    • challenge of balancing the family, 118–121
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of life grid with time allocations for, 4t
    • horizontal life plan approach to, 110–111
    • how self-reflection helps balance your, 32–33, 105
    • Karen May's adjusting life plan and, 93–94, 107–110, 114
    • prioritizing and reprioritizing your, 8, 18, 67
    • See also Values-based life
  • Life buckets list
    • faith and spirituality, 9
    • family, friends, and community, 8
    • fun/entertainment/reading, 8
    • health/sleep, 8
    • making a difference, 9
    • work and career, 8
    • See also individual life bucket
  • Life goals framework, 114
  • Life grid tool
    • example of “bucket” time allocations, 4t
    • reprioritizing the demands on our time, 8
    • tracking our 168 hours per week with, 3–5
  • Life plans
    • adjusting to changes in your, 107–110
    • the horizontal, 110–111
    • Karen May's story on her, 93–94, 107–110, 114
  • Life trajectory
    • being surprised by outcomes of your, 29–30
    • how self-reflection helps with challenges of, 22, 23–26
    • ups and downs of your, 22–23fig
  • Loehr, Jim, 136, 140, 147
  • Love
    • loss of people we, 7, 30
    • Prayer of St. Francis on, 130–131, 181–182
  • Loved ones
    • brick wall of confrontation with, 50
    • keep you grounded, 118
    • making them your priority, 100
    • spending time with your, 1, 64, 69, 118
    • will be supportive of your changes, 56
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  • Madison Dearborn Partners, 3, 16, 90
  • Making a difference
    • Andrew Youn's story on, 190–191
    • commitment for, 192–193
    • by doing good in their community, 170
    • do you have enough material things to share?, 186–187
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • example of a life grid time allocations on, 4t
    • focus your passions for, 191–192
    • investing your 168 in, 9
    • by being one of “those guys,” 187–189
    • by paying it forward, 189–190
    • taking care of others for, 184–186
    • wide reach and legacy of, 183–184
    • See also Doing good; Life buckets
  • “The Making of a Corporate Athlete” (Loehr and Schwartz), 136, 147
  • Man plans and God laughs––Mann tracht, und Gott lacht (Yiddish saying), 80
  • Marking the beginning phase, 54–55
  • Material things
    • do you have enough to share?, 186–187
    • keeping up with the Joneses fallacy, 47–49
    • taking care of others over collecting, 184–186
  • May, Karen
    • building trust and transparency during career, 112
    • her life goals framework, 111, 114
    • her life plan story, 93–94, 107–110
    • life balance perspective of, 113–114
  • Mayo Clinic, 152
  • May, Robert, 93, 107–108, 109–110, 113
  • McKee, Annie, 127–128
  • McMillan, David W., 126
  • Measure your progress, 74–75, 77
  • Meditation, 141, 180
  • Mental health/illness, 140–141
  • Mere Christianity (Lewis), 178
  • Mike Zafirovski's story, 144–145
  • Mindfulness, 180
  • Minneapolis nursing home story, 56–57
  • “Missing” car story, 104
  • Moments of truth, 103–105
  • Mondelez International, 93
  • Morrison Associates, Ltd., 35
  • Morrison, Daven, 35–36, 37
  • Mother's 80th birthday story, 159–160
  • Motorola, 144
  • Movie-going fun, 157
  • Multitasking fallacy, 14–15
  • Muslim religious identity, 178–180
  • Mutual accountability model, 72–73, 77
  • Myopic planners, 86, 95, 110
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  • National Institute of Mental Health, 140
  • National Sleep Foundation, 139
  • Natural disasters, 35
  • Nature Human Behaviour (Jeff, Tay, Diener, and Oishi), 187
  • The neutral zone phase, 53–54
  • Newton, Sir Isaac, 55
  • New Year's resolutions failure, 62
  • Nortel, 144
  • NorthShore University HealthSystem, 90
  • Northwestern University's Kellogg School of Management, 3, 16, 21, 68, 126, 171, 183–184, 190, 191–192
  • No. See Saying no
  • Notes to myself journaling, 55
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  • O'Hare Airport
    • encounter with former student in, 29–30
    • “missing” car at the, 104
  • Oishi, Shigehiro, 187
  • 1,000 Books to Read before You Die: A Life-Changing List, 66, 67
  • 168 hours per week
    • building new habits to change, 62–65
    • examining the goals and hours spent in your, 44t
    • the family challenge within the, 118–120
    • horizontal life plan failure to focus on entire, 110–111
    • how most of us spend our, 3
    • life grid tool for tracking your, 3–4t
    • self-reflection on time allocations of, 15–18, 196
    • time allocations based on your choices, 32–33, 105
    • unrealistic expectations of your, 36
    • See also “The Balancing Action Plan”
  • One Acre Fund, 190, 191, 192
  • Opinion of others, 55–57
  • O, The Oprah Magazine, 153
  • Outside feedback
    • benefit of self-reflection combined with, 25–26, 38
    • to help recognize an unbalanced life, 101–103
    • research on importance of, 25
    • “text board of directors” story on getting, 103
  • Overwhelmed planners, 86, 95
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  • Partial planners, 85, 95
  • Passions, 191–192
  • Paying it forward, 189–190
  • “The Peace Prayer” (St. Francis of Assisi), 181–182
  • Personal goal-setting, 114
  • Planful
    • benefits and spontaneity of being, 81–85
    • as map for your values-based leadership journey, 80–81
    • people matter most when being, 92–93
    • planning with mindfulness, definition of being, 79–80
    • prioritizing what is most important, 87–90
    • triage prioritization process of being, 90–92
    • what experts have to say about being, 80
    • See also Planning ahead
  • The planful continuum
    • introduction to the, 85–87
    • review and reflect on your, 95
  • Planful continuum stages
    • 1: no plan at all, 85, 95
    • 2. no time to plan, 85, 95
    • 3: the partial planner, 85, 95
    • 4: the myopic planner, 86, 95, 110
    • 5: the overwhelmed planner, 86, 95
    • 6: the planner who can't say no, 86, 95
    • 7: the planner who lets everyone plan for him/her, 86, 95
    • 8: the prioritized planner, 86, 95
  • Planned fun, 153–156, 163
  • Planning ahead
    • daycare center experience of, 39–40
    • for empty nesters and retirement, 42–43
    • See also Planful
  • Possessions
    • do you have enough to share?, 186–187
    • keeping up with the Joneses fallacy, 47–49
    • taking care of others over collecting, 184–186
  • The Power of a Vacation (Hinote), 154–155
  • The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business (Duhigg), 64, 70–71
  • Practicing new habits, 69–70
  • Prayer
    • connecting through, 180
    • mental and emotional health supported by, 141
    • of St. Francis, 130–131, 181–182
  • Prevention
    • paying attention to surprises as, 45–46
    • self-reflection as means of, 45, 46
  • Prioritized planners, 86, 86–87, 95
  • Prioritizing
    • Anna Budnik's use of self-awareness for, 106–107
    • check-ins with friends, 125–126
    • the fluid nature of life and, 93–95
    • focusing on what's most important, 87–90
    • “Italian guilt” story on saying no and, 122
    • people matter most when you are, 92–93
    • the prioritized planner with realistic, 86–87
    • to separate activity from productivity, 18
    • triage prioritization process of, 90–92
    • when your life demands change, 8, 67, 81
    • your health, 137–138
    • your to-do list, 102
  • Pritzker Group, 54
  • Procrastination, 82–83
  • Productivity
    • confusing activity with, 15
    • multitasking and, 14–15
    • prioritizing to separate activity from, 18
  • Professional goal-setting, 114
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  • Ramadan month, 179
  • Rationalization
    • of our poor choices, 33–34
    • of unethical and other poor behaviors, 36
  • Reading. See Fun/recreation/reading
  • “Real accountability,” 71
  • Recovering from imbalance, 57–58
  • Recreation. See Fun/recreation/reading
  • Relationships
    • awareness of how your career choices affect, 40–42
    • the cost of being unaware to your, 33–34, 38
    • example of life grid time allocations to, 4t
    • family, friends, and community concentric circles of, 116fig
    • personal goal-setting for your, 114
    • when your career threatens your, 49–50
    • See also Community; Family; Friends
  • Religious identity
    • formation of a, 168–175
    • Jeff Solomon's expression of his Jewish, 175–177
    • sharing stories and experiences to strengths, 175–180
  • Reprioritizing
    • the fluid nature of life and, 93–95
    • by focusing on what's most important, 87–90
    • people matter most when you are, 92–93
    • to separate activity from productivity, 18
    • triage prioritization as part of, 90–92
    • when your life demands change and, 8, 67, 81
  • Respect, 177
  • Retirement planning, 43
  • Rewarding fun, 158, 163
  • The Right (and Wrong) Stuff: How Brilliant Careers Are Made and Unmade (Cast), 51
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  • Saying no
    • knowing when to say no to family, 121–124
    • learning to practice, 105–107
    • the planner who can't, 86, 95
  • Schwartz, Tony, 136, 140, 147
  • Self-awareness
    • costs and consequences of lacking, 33–34, 38
    • health and role of, 148–149
    • to recognize when life is unbalanced, 104
    • self-reflection to increase your, 14, 30–33, 76
    • there is no age limit to making choices with, 42–43
    • used by Anna Budnik to balance her life, 106–107
  • Self-care habits, 141–142
  • Self-confidence, 6, 196
  • Self-disrupted life story, 51–57
  • Self-examination
    • forming the habit of, 17–18
    • moments of truth and accountability through, 103–105
    • sample questions to use for, 28
  • Self-reflection
    • author's faith as foundation of his, 167–168
    • the author's journey toward, 18–22
    • being planful and pursuing balance with, 89
    • benefit of combining outside feedback with, 25–26, 38
    • benefits for meeting life challenges, 22, 23–26
    • to build new habits, 16–18
    • as cornerstone for change, 64–65
    • daily, 17–18, 21, 173
    • on faith and spirituality, 181
    • on family, friends, and community, 131
    • helps to balance your life buckets, 32–33, 105
    • how it helps to prevent surprises, 7, 30, 39–40
    • how stress-releasing fun can improve, 156–157, 163
    • on how you spend your time, 15
    • to identify your values, 17–18, 21, 81
    • increased self-awareness through, 14, 30–33, 76
    • making choices aligned with your values through, 7, 76
    • making it a habit, 16–18
    • moments of truth and accountability through, 103–105
    • prevention by practicing, 45, 46
    • as principle of value-based life, 5, 7, 76, 195
    • pursue life balance through, 14
    • sample questions for, 28
    • as solution to cognitive dissonance, 37–38
    • three last days scenario for testing your own, 26–27
    • on time allocations of your 168 hours, 15–18, 196
    • to understand and make your choices, 25, 76, 124
  • Self-reflection journals, 18, 21
  • Sense of community, 126
  • Setting boundaries, 105–107
  • 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), 80
  • 7–5–3–1 system, 74–75
  • Shared and leveraged fun, 161–162, 163
  • Silent retreat story, 126–127, 170–174
  • Sleep
    • as crucial to your health, 138–139
    • study on the devaluation of, 138
  • Solomon, Jeffrey M., 128–129, 175–177
  • Solomon, Kyle, 176
  • Spirituality. See Faith/spirituality
  • Spontaneity
    • as being part of being planful, 81–85
    • enjoyment of spontaneous fun, 158–159
  • Spontaneous fun, 158–159, 163
  • Stanford University, 142, 143
  • Sthokal, Father Ed, 172
  • Stress
    • benefits of fun for releasing, 156–157, 163
    • laughter as relief from, 152
    • the link between health and, 140–141
  • Stress-releasing fun, 156–157, 163
  • Student encounter stories, 29–32
  • Support system
    • finding people who provide you, 71–73, 77
    • friendships that become part of your, 124–126
    • 12-step programs and role of, 71
  • Surprise fun, 159–161, 163
  • Surprises
    • awareness of sacrifices made for career to avoid, 40–42
    • as the cost of being unaware, 33–34
    • experienced by empty nesters and retirees, 42–43
    • how self-reflection helps to prevent, 7, 30, 39–40
    • not attending to your health, 133–134
    • planning ahead to prevent, 39–40
    • prevention by paying attention to, 45
    • serving as wake-up calls, 49
    • there is no age limit to experience, 42–43
    • triage prioritization to manage life, 90–92
    • why are you experiencing a, 29–30
  •  
  • Tay, Louis, 187
  • “Text board of directors” story, 103
  • Thanksgiving
    • new Friendsgiving tradition during, 124
    • Oprah Winfrey on her expanding family during, 124
  • Thiry, Kent, 135, 146–147
  • “Those guys,” 187–189
  • Three-day silent retreat story, 126–127, 170–174
  • Three last days scenario, 26–27
  • Tikkun Olam (repairing the world) value, 176
  • Time management
    • life balance is not, 14
    • “make time” problem of, 14
    • multitasking and other mistakes, 14–15
  • Transparency, 112–113
  • Tree of Life Synagogue mass shooting (Pittsburgh), 175–177
  • Triage prioritization, 90–92
  • Trust building, 111–113
  • 12-step programs, 71
  • 2008–2009 financial crisis, 49
  • Tzdakah (charity) value, 176
  •  
  • Unbalanced life
    • Carter's story on hitting the brick wall, 51–55
    • choices when you hit the brick wall, 49–51
    • cognitive dissonance of an, 1
    • following others into trouble and an, 46–49
    • recognizing when experiencing, 101–103
    • taking the time to recover from, 57–58
    • See also Life balance
  • Unethical behaviors
    • corporate fraud, 48
    • rationalizing our, 36
  • University of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education, 127
  •  
  • Vacation time, 153–156
  • Values
    • author on family members teaching their, 115–117
    • bond of sharing religious beliefs and, 169
    • cognitive dissonance between your choices and stated, 34–38
    • Cowen's “tenacious teamwork,” 129
    • daily self-reflections on your, 17–18, 21, 81
    • life balance comes from being authentic to your, 38
    • shared between author and his wife, 117
    • Tzdakah (charity) and Tikkun Olam (repairing the world), 176
  • Values-based leadership journey
    • balance principle of, 5, 195
    • deliberate planning as map for your, 80–81
    • genuine humility principle of, 6, 196
    • how to start your own, 6–7
    • self-reflection principle of, 5, 7, 76, 195
    • true self-confidence principle of, 6, 196
  • Values-based life
    • Carter Cast's 7–5–3–1 system for living a, 74–75
    • Carter Cast's self-disruption for a, 51–57
    • description of a, 2–3
    • identifying your values to live a, 13
    • self-reflection to build habits for a, 16–18
    • See also Life balance; Life buckets
  • Values-based life principles
    • balance and perspective, 5, 195
    • genuine humility, 6, 196
    • self-reflection, 5, 7, 76, 195
    • true self-confidence, 6, 196
  • Values-based life process
    • phase 1: marking the end, 52–53
    • phase 2: entering the neutral zone, 53–54
    • phase 3: marking the beginning, 54–55
  • Virgil, 134
  •  
  • “Walley World trip,” 155
  • Weight-loss resolution, 68–69
  • “When These Executives Want Candid Advice, They Text” (Wall Street Journal), 103
  • Why are you surprised? question, 29–30
  • Will/estate planning, 37
  • Willis Towers Watson, 106, 122
  • Winfrey, Oprah, 124
  • WLFM college radio station story, 83–84
  • Work friendships, 127–128
  • Work-life balance
    • differentiating life balance from, 2, 13–14
    • time-management fallacy of, 14–15
  • Workplace community, 127–130
  • Work. See Career
  • World Economic Forum (Davos, Switzerland), 174–175
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  • Youn, Andrew, 190–191
  •  
  • Zafirovski, Mike, 144
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