Index
accomplishments, measuring your, 68
accountability, 245
accountability
partner, 248-249
techniques, 246-253
action plan, 210-211
appoint an accountability partner for, 248-249
using a friend for, 248
visual reminders for, 247
work with a coach or mentor for, 249-250
asset, your most valuable, 50
balance,
fleeting nature of perfect, 91
media-hyped ideal of, 119
moving toward or away from, 119
balanced, feel more, 91
break, taking a, 231
breaks,
importance of scheduling, 109
take mini mental, 127
business,
"adolescence” of your, 194-197
"birth” of your, 188-189
building your, analogy of pregnancy for, 166, 185
first step toward planning a, 36
"gestation” of your, 186-188
having unreasonable “ expectations for your, 185
incorporate a passion into your, 58
"infancy” of your, 190-191
maturity of your, 202-204
"teenagerhood” of your, 197-202
"toddlerhood” of your, 192-194
business plan, one page, 183, 206-214
sample, 207
business planning, 85, 183-214
busyness, 112
calendar,
consider overscheduling some tasks on your, 110
criteria for deciding what goes on your, 107-108
plot out your to-dos on your, 105-110
calendaring, 105-110
change, resistance to, 220-221
Churchill, Jill, 54
circumstances, your life, 63-64
coach,
work with a, 249-250
confidence, 159-161
one of the best ways to build, 160
comparing yourself to others, 68-69, 160
as a way to undo your self-care, 131
courage, 161-165
delegating, 219-220
Dempsey, Rachel, 54
distractions and interruptions, 219
down time, importance of scheduling, 109
Duckworth, Angela, 154
effectiveness vs. efficiency, 234
80/20 rule. See Pareto principle.
Einstein, Albert, 155
eMyth Revisited, The, 187
energy, things that sap your, 130-134
energy levels, your, 108-109
expectations, unreasonable, 185
experience, work and volunteer, 169-171
failure,
fear of, 68
know you can fail without being a, 159-160
setting yourself up to feel like a, 69-70
of success, 68
Ferris, Tim, 99
Gerber, Michael, 187
goals,
personal, 209
set appropriate and empowering, 185
staying on track toward our, 237-257
what are your unique, 36
your time-off, 136
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 53
grit, 154-159
Guillemets, Terri, 61
habits, time-wasting, 91-92
Horan, Jim, 183
human resources, your, 171-173
(see also support system)
ideals and standards, 37
integrity, 53
intuition, 179-181
Lean In, 81
life, true up your current, 37
life events, major, 253-256
Loehr, Jim, 108
measure ourselves, the most common ways we, 68-70
meditate, reasons people don't, 128
meditation, benefits of, 127-128
mentor, hire a, 197
metric, money as, 205
metrics for success,
society's, 68
your, 74
mission, 208
mistakes, 241
Mom Biz Coach, 58
motivation, name and own your, 48
motivations, your, 47-49
motivators, some common, 49
negative past experiences, lessons gleaned from, 170-171
negative self-talk, 80, 138-144
awareness as the first step toward stopping, 143
ways to handle, 142
no,
get comfortable saying, 50
sometimes you have to say, 93
objective, sample, 212-214
objectives, 208
One Page Business Plan, The, 183
parameters, benefits of knowing your, 64
Pareto principle, 226
passion, relationship between success and, 58
passions,
definition, 57
your, 57-61
path, designing your own, 36
patience, 165-169
benefits of increased, 166-167
passivity is not, 166
personality traits, 153-169
plan,
business,
sample, 207
importance of a solid, 35
tips to help you get back on track with your, 251-253
planning,
business, 85
lack of, 94
plans,
bigger obstacles to following our, 253-256
obstacles to following our, 238-245
Pomodoro technique, 224
Power of Full Engagement, The, 108
priorities, 100
changeability of, 55
get really clear on your, 49
sample, 52
match up your time with your, 102-105
your four main, 52
productivity,
increasing your, 217
techniques to increase, 223-233
productivity tools, 217-235
progress, measuring your, 68
project mapping, 225
Rath, Tom, 151
reward yourself, 110, 135-138, 251-253
rewards, material, 137
Riegel, Deborah Grayson, 209
risk, 81
rut, possible reasons for, 242
ruts, 242-245
great ways to get out of, 242
Sandberg, Cheryl, 81
schedule
all activities that make up your life, 110
realistic and sustainable, make your, 223
the basics, 121
the end of your workday, 107
schedule,
build a buffer into your, 234
create a comprehensive daily, weekly, and monthly, 189
Schwartz, Tony, 108
self-care
ideas, 124-125
items, create a list of, 120
"twofers,” 122
self-care, 115-145
benefits of good, 116
dealing with guilt regarding, 125, 128
definition, 115
drains on, 130-133
how to know if something is good, 133
necessity of, 117
potential “obstacles” to, 129-130
rewards as, 135-138
your plan for getting good, 121-129
self-sabotage, 118-119
self-talk, negative, 80, 138-144
awareness as the first step toward stopping, 143
ways to handle, 142
Sinek, Simon, 260
Sinetar, Marsha, 57
skills, 152-153
Deborah Grayson Riegel's version of, 209-210
solitude, importance of, 137
strategies, 210
strengths, 150-152
playing to your, 151
women's, 24-25
strengths and skills inventory, 178-179
Strengthsfinder 2.0, 151
success
criteria, clarify your, 83
on your own terms, envisioning, 68
success,
crafting your own version of, 81-82
don't let fear create your vision of, 81
envisioning, 67-88
evolution of your vision of, 75
fear of, 68
having a too narrow definition of, 69-70
having an outdated vision of, 70, 77-79
path to, 72-82
redefine, 79
relationship between passion and, 58
society's metrics for, 68
your metric for, 74
your vision of, 83-87
successes, financial and/or outward, 68
successful self, craft a vision of your, 80
support system, 171-176
benefits of having a strong, 175-176
build a strong, 176
tasks,
automate or delegate, 220
consider overscheduling yourself for some, 110
group your, 230
non-negotiable, 105-107
reward yourself for accomplishing, 251
taking regular breaks from mental, 125-126
TIKEs, 239-240
time
and priorities, match up your, 102-105
as currency, 91
management, 89-113
off, benefits of taking, 136
budget your, 91
calendaring as a way to manage your, 105-110
"contaminated,” 144
creating boundaries to manage your, 97-100
estimating your, 221-223
giving away your, 92-93
importance of planning your, 94-96
managing energy rather than, 109
making lists to make good use of your, 95-97
solution for having extra, 95-96
stumbling blocks when it comes to, 218-223
taking ownership of your, 100
track your use of, 89
ways to find more, 111
to-do list, put yourself at the top of your, 134-135
to-do's,
let your priorities dictate your, 91
link most of your outcomes with, 247
plot out your, 105
toolkit, your, 149-182 (see also resources)
reasons to articulate the tools in, 177
tools, productivity, 217-235
true up your current life, 37
values,
author's brief list of, 46-47
consistency of, 46
definition, 45
identify and live by your, 46
importance of revisiting your, 46
your top five, 46
your, 45-47
Vanderkam, Laura, 100
VAs, 220
victim or martyr, avoid becoming a, 133
virtual assistants. See VAs.
vision,
be on a path that leads to your, 37
What Works for Women at Work, 54
Williams, Joan C., 54
Whole Foods, 195
who you are,
be clear about, 35
importance of determining, 36-65
yes, don't automatically say, 92-93
Yutang, Lin, 228