THE RELUCTANT MARKETER’S TOOLKIT
MOST PEOPLE I KNOW have a curious relationship with marketing their products or services. On the one hand, they know they need to market. On the other, there’s this inner desire for people to just “discover” them and flock unbidden to their website. I think that this dual mindset is one of the reasons why people get stymied when trying to implement a marketing plan.
However, when you break through that resistance, it’s very likely that you’ll wonder why you turned something so simple into something so frightening or difficult.
My wife, who works with people on overcoming these issues (MarianMassie.com), says there are lots of reasons that we unconsciously sabotage ourselves, sometimes having to do with messages that were passed on from our parents. For example, some men receive unconscious messages not to outdo their fathers; some women are given unconscious messages that business success will make them less attractive to men and therefore unlovable.
It doesn’t matter what the message is, only that something is holding you back. The quickest way around them involves what I call “brain geography.” These messages are held in certain parts of your brain, and if you can move your thinking into another part of your brain’s geography, you’ll stop resisting the task at hand.
I’m about to show you several techniques that will help you do that.
Remember What Success Felt Like
This is a technique Marian taught me. It’s very simple, but it works like a charm. When you notice that you are stuck and resisting what you should do, stop whatever it is you’re doing—reading Facebook, playing Words with Friends, answering email, or whatever you do when you’re procrastinating—and close your eyes.
Take a second to remember one of your bigger accomplishments in the past. See that result in your mind’s eye. Then begin to recall how that accomplishment made you feel. Did it make you proud? Did you feel powerful? Was there a sense of joy or peace or a simple sense that you brought something worthwhile to the world? Did it feel good?
Of course it did. Now imagine doing the task at hand and feeling that good again when you finish it.
When you open your eyes, take that feeling with you and start working on whatever you were avoiding. It will feel much easier.
Focused Breathing
I’m increasingly becoming a believer in the power that breathing techniques can play during times of stress or conflict. The old adage “Take a deep breath and count to ten before you say anything” really is good advice (although I’ll admit I don’t always follow it).
Breathing can also be a very effective tool for breaking through procrastination and resistance.
The most calming portion of focused breathing is the pause between breathing in and breathing out. This next technique emphasizes that:
1. Breathe in, preferably through your nose, for four counts.
2. Hold your breath in for four counts. (You don’t have to make a dramatic movement or sound to hold your breath. Just don’t breathe out.)
3. Breathe out for four counts.
Repeat this five to ten times.
Whenever I do this I almost immediately feel calmer and more focused. Whenever I find myself procrastinating, this technique gets me back on track.
As I’ve mentioned on numerous occasions, while reading about marketing is helpful, ultimately it all comes down to implementation. Unfortunately, we are often our own worst enemy, and procrastination is the single biggest culprit. I’m always interested in what others do to help themselves get over these inevitable periods, so if you’ve got something that works, I hope you’ll share it with me.