Index
acceptance
expectations of
of feelings
of negative traits
of one’s part in relationship break up
of partner, 2nd, 3rd
of relationship ebb and flow
of self, 2nd
active listening
ambivalence, 2nd
anger
expressing
as reaction to relationship break up
taking responsibility for
anonymous quotation
assertiveness
assumptions
about being single
about equality in relationships
questioning
see also expectations and beliefs
attracting a partner, 2nd
attractiveness, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
authenticity, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th
babies, 2nd
balanced relationships see harmonious relationships
‘being’, 2nd
being on your own, 2nd
adjusting to
appreciating friends
‘being’ in own right
committing to happiness
embracing
enjoying
finding your raison d’être
key to happiness, 2nd
life stages
living well
loving life
online dating
openness to choice
overcoming loneliness
responding to friends’ suggestions
beliefs see expectations and beliefs
Berends, Polly Berrien
blame, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
body language, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
breaking up
acceptance and blame
coming to terms with
detachment and distance
and fear
journal keeping
learning from the experience
making sense of
managing daily routine
possibility of saving relationship
reasons for, 2nd
reclaiming oneself
taking a positive view
button pushing
characteristics, personal, 2nd, 3rd
Chardin, Pierre Teilhard de
childhood influences, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
choices
being open to
enjoying being single, 2nd, 3rd
influence on, 2nd
Chopra, Deepak
codependency
collaboration
comfort zone, 2nd
commitment, 2nd, 3rd
communication, 2nd
active listening
authenticity
build up of feelings
collecting thoughts
and conflict
expressing anger
expressing needs, 2nd
non-verbal messages
qualities of a good communicator
questioning assumptions
reasons for not communicating well
on relationship break up
share your thoughts
stating present grievances
taking responsibility
confidence, 2nd, 3rd
in communication, 2nd
conflict, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
control, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
courage
in relationship break up, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
in relationships, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
and self, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
critic, inner
cultivating
own life, 2nd
relationship with self, 2nd
relationships, 2nd
sensuality
dating see online dating
decision making
denial, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
despair, 2nd
detachment
developing a relationship see work in progress
distancing
‘doing’, 2nd
equality in relationships, 2nd
assumptions about
changing to please
characteristics of
codependency
decision making
defining equality
importance of
reasons for inequality
redressing balance
risking vulnerability
staying true to yourself
evaluation of life, 2nd
see also self
expectations and beliefs, 2nd
discovering inner critic
gratitude
impact on relationships
origins of
self-talk
taking responsibility
thoughts, 2nd
expression
of anger
of needs, 2nd
extroversion
fantasy figures
fear
as barrier to relationships, 2nd, 3rd
of being alone, 2nd, 3rd
fearful thinking
overcoming
as part of breaking up, 2nd, 3rd
feelings
build up of
expressing
feeling the
masking true
taking responsibility for, 2nd
forgiveness, 2nd, 3rd
friends
appreciation of
responding to well-meaning suggestions
Gibran, Kahlil
gift, relationship as
gratitude
grievances, 2nd
guilt, 2nd
happiness
committing to
key to, 2nd
taking responsibility for, 2nd, 3rd
happy ever after
harmonious relationships
decision making
and equality, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
vulnerability
Hollis, James
honesty, 2nd, 3rd
identity, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th
individuality, 2nd
individuation
inner critic
interests, common
intimacy, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
introversion
intuition, 2nd
Jampolsky, Gerald
Johnson, Robert A.
journal keeping
Jung, Carl, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
Kierkegaard, S.
kindness
Lao-Tse
letting go, 2nd, 3rd
of blame
of fears
feeling negative emotions
and forgiveness
of guilt
of the past, 2nd, 3rd
recognising ambivalence
taking responsibility for anger
life stages
listening, active
loneliness, overcoming
love, 2nd
falling in, 2nd, 3rd
as fundamental need, 2nd
of life
of self
staying in
magnetism, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th
mid-life crisis
mindfulness, 2nd
mirror analogy
‘monkey mind’
moving on
needs
expression of, 2nd
sharing
online dating
going on a date
honesty
screening responses
partner, ideal see perfect match
patterns in relationships, 2nd, 3rd
awareness of hidden side
childhood influences
fantasy figures
healing negative
mirror analogy
repetition of negative
understanding reactions
perfect match
enhancing ability to attract
influence on choice
knowing you’ve found the
qualities for, 2nd
sharing passions
synchronicity
taking your time
trusting intuition
persona
pleasure
power
of relationships
of self-awareness
staying in your
struggles
projection, 2nd
quality time, 2nd
raison d’être, 2nd
‘repetition compulsion’
responsibility
for anger
for feelings, 2nd
for happiness, 2nd, 3rd
for relationship break up, 2nd
Rilke, Rainer Maria
Robbins, Anthony
Saint-Exupéry, Antoine de
self
distancing
feeling good about
ignorance
inner conflicts
kindness to
knowing yourself, 2nd
moving out of comfort zone
pleasure for
quality time with
reclaiming
self-awareness, 2nd
self-belief
self-blame, 2nd
self-empowerment
self-love
self-talk, 2nd
taking time for, 2nd
unmasking true, 2nd
values
wholeness
sensuality
shadow personality, 2nd
shock
single, being see being on your own
space in between see being on your own
specificity, 2nd, 3rd
successful relationships
essential principles, 2nd
synchronicity
talking to self, 2nd
see also communication
thoughts
collecting
fearful
from negative to positive
power of
sharing
time
for relationship, 2nd
for self, 2nd, 3rd
Tracy, Brian
trigger points see button pushing
trust
betrayal of
of intuition, 2nd
involved in letting go
in process of moving on
truth see honesty
uniqueness, 2nd, 3rd, 4th
values, 2nd
voice, tone of
vulnerability
wholeness
work in progress
becoming more intimate
collaboration
cultivating sensuality
deepening commitment
ebb and flow of relationship
familiarity with buttons
honesty
quality time
relationship v. individuality
of self
sharing needs
working at relationships see work in progress
Zukav, Gary
