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Most people would complete it with the words ‘try, try again’.
But that is foolish. What makes you think that, when you do
what you did before, you will not get what you got before? A far
more resourceful approach, and the one to remember, is:
‘If at rst you don’t succeed, try something else.’
And if that doesn’t succeed, try something else again. . . In
response to someone who says ‘I tried everything,’ my response
would be: ‘Really, everything?’ As soon as you believe you cannot
make a change, you are back to helplessness.
If what you are doing is working, acknowledge your success,
pat yourself on the back, and do more. If it is not working, do
something different. Have the courage to change the things you
can – and you always can. There are always changes you can
make.
Social connections
One of the biggest stress factors can be not having people
around us who care about us and support us. Making, protecting
and using relationships with other people is a fundamental part
of coping and thriving in stressful situations.
Establish healthy relationships
In the workplace, having a social network so that you can
access informal support from colleagues will give you a
quick outlet to minor frustrations before they become major
stressors. Research in the UK Civil Service showed that staff
who had social connections with colleagues felt less stressed,
less anxious and suffered less absence due to psychiatric
illness.
So, chats at the coffee machine, sharing a trip to the shops at
lunchtime, and joining workmates for a drink after work are all
good investments in your wellbeing – as well as pleasures.