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effective. He won’t plan, so is constantly surprised by events,
and then rarely does anything he is proud of because he is too
focused on whatever is next. At the back of his mind, Enrique is
thinking: ‘If I don’t get a move on, something bad will happen – and
it will be my fault.’
Slow down, Enrique: take your time. If you are like him, then
take a moment to think about the Urgent and Important
boxes you read about in Chapter 4. You probably spend all
of your time focused on the Urgent things, often letting the
Urgent and Not Important things compete with the Urgent
and Important.
When you take time to plan ahead, you will nd two things:
1 You will be better able to spot the Urgent and Not
Important things and make a conscious decision to drop
them or at least leave them until after the Important things
are done.
2 You will start to have fewer things in your life that are
Urgent and Important. You will find yourself dealing with
them before they get urgent.
Be careful
Funmi wants to feel safe, and so will take no risks. Her work is
okay, but not special, so, despite her being diligent and bright,
her less-able colleagues get promoted ahead of her. With total
safety comes boredom: Funmi is not growing in her role,
learning or taking on challenges. She is getting bored, and all
that leaves her almost paralysed by fear of making a mistake and
losing what she has.
What is really the worst that can happen for Funmi? If you are
a bit like her, evaluate the possible outcomes objectively, then
look for ways to control the risks that there are. You may not
yet be ready for your rst free-fall jump, but you might just