INDEX
- ABIDE (advancing belonging, inclusion, diversity, equity), 109, 148
- Accessibility, 148
- #Actsofinclusion, 151
- Affirmative action, 72, 148
- African American athletes, 106
- African American women, hairstyles of, 117, 137–138, 140, 143, 144
- African American workers, discrimination against, 50, 107
- African Americans, 91–93, 134. See also Whitesplaining
- code-shifting and, 49
- collectivism and, 28
- and conversations shutting down when race is brought up, 104–105
- demonstrating empathy for, 103–104
- fear and anxiety, 70–71
- fragility and, 78–80
- “living while Black,” 70
- microaggression against, 138, 143–144
- and the N-word, 93, 94
- power differences and interactions with whites in workplace, 60–62
- and the racial binary, 125
- racial identity, race consciousness, and, 37–38, 70–71, 124, 125, 128, 133
- religion and, 119, 126
- slavery, indentured servitude, and, 126–127
- “teaching,” 144
- violence against, 13, 73, 74, 90, 103, 127
- Agency, 60, 129
- “Aggressiveness” and gender, 50–51
- Aguilar, Leslie, 95
- Albrecht, Karl, 71, 72
- Allies, 15, 53
- Allyship, 92, 146
- Anxiety. See Fear(s)
- Apartheid, 63, 89, 90
- Autonomy, fear of loss of, 71
- Baby boomers, 110
- Barr, Rosanne, 84, 127
- Bell, W. Kamau, 130, 134
- Belonging, , 109
- definitions, meanings, and nature of, 109, 110, 111t, 148
- diversity-inclusion scenario and, 111t
- drivers of, 110, 112f
- fostering, 111t, 112–122, 112f
- gender pronouns and, 150
- inclusion and, 23, 112, 115, 117, 148
- race and, 125
- small comments that create a sense of, 138
- uniqueness (value of) and, 115, 115f, 116, 117
- Black fragility. See also Fragility acknowledging, 79–80
- Black inferiority, theories of, 127
- Blacks. See African Americans; Apartheid
- Bold, Inclusive Conversations, 13, 14, 48f, 156
- sessions and consultations on, ,
- Brave spaces/brave zones, 14, 21, 41, 42, 47, 93, 143
- conditions for, 48f
- creating, 14, 21, 42–46, 48, 51–53, 63
- from safety to bravery, 42–43
- Bravery, 42–43
- Brown, Brené, 101–102
- Business Resource Groups (BRG), 14
- “Calling people in” vs. “calling people out,” 87
- Cancel culture, 11, 87–88, 151
- Charlotte-Mecklenburg School (CMS) district and, 118
- Check-ins, starting team meetings with, 113
- Children. See also Educational settings
- creating psychologically safe spaces for, 53–55
- need for inclusive conversations with, –9
- Cisgender, 53
- Coates, Ta-Nehisi, 94
- Code-shifting, 49, 116, 117
- Collective action, 20
- Collective responsibility, 19, 28
- Collectivist cultures, 28
- “Color-blindness,” 36–38, 129, 131, 133
- Commitment, 19–20
- defined, 19
- nature of, 20
- Compassion and understanding, expressing feelings with, 106
- Conservative political ideologies, far-right-wing, 10–11
- Coronavirus pandemic of 2019–2020, 65
- Covering, 116
- axes along which individuals can cover, 116–117
- Crenshaw, Kimberle, 31–32
- Cultural competence, 20–21
- Cultural misappropriation, 140
- Culture Amp Paradigm, 112–115
- DEAI. See Diversity, equity, accessibility, inclusion
- DEI. See Diversity, equity, inclusion
- Death, fear of, 71
- Decentering the dominant narrative, 67–68, 133
- Definitions, 147–148
- DeVaul, Michael, 110
- DiAngelo, Robin, 75, 78–79, 132
- DIB. See Diversity, inclusion, belonging
- Distancing language, 142, 147
- Distancing strategies/distancing techniques, 129–130, 147–148
- Diversity, , 22
- connotations of the term, 148
- equity and, 58
- meanings and nature of, 58
- race and, 127
- Diversity, equity, accessibility, inclusion (DEAI), 148
- Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI), , 81, 82, 87, 151
- belonging and, 109
- future of, 11
- power and, 57
- resilience and, 80
- self-care and, 82
- unconscious bias and, 30
- whiteness as an identity and, 130–131
- The Winters Group and, 80, 149
- Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) consultation, , 19
- Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) infractions, punishment and, 86, 87
- Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) lexicon, adding words to the, 109, 147–149
- Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) thinking, problems with, 151
- Diversity, inclusion, belonging (DIB), 109, 111, 148
- Diversity training sessions, 133
- Diversity-valuing behavior, 49–50
- Dominant groups, 51, 66, 70, 142
- brave spaces, trauma, and, 46
- characteristics and nature of, 32–33, 43, 63, 64t
- fear and, 70–72
- identity/self-image and, 32, 47, 49, 65
- othering, 99
- power dynamics and, 63, 65
- privilege and, 47–48
- safety, inclusive conversations, and, 43, 48, 49, 51
- Dress codes and belonging, 120
- Educational settings, K–12 fostering belonging in, 118–122
- Egocentrism vs. focus on self, 27
- Ego-death, fear of, 71, 72
- Emergenetics, 35–37
- Emergenetics Profile, 35, 36
- Emotional expression, 106
- Empathetic statements, examples and characteristics of, 103
- Empathic openness. See Multipartiality
- Empathy (E), 66, 113
- defined, 100–101
- demonstrating empathy about impact of sociopolitical climate, 103–104
- nature of, 102
- vs. sympathy, 101–103
- trust and, 22–23, 100–101
- Engaging in Bold, Inclusive Conversations, 13, 14
- Equity. See also Diversity, equity, inclusion; Inequity
- accessibility and, 148
- defined, 57
- vs. equality, 59f
- meanings and nature of, 59
- Ethnocentrism, 11
- Evaluation stage (metacognitive thinking), 30
- Fear(s), 70–71
- the ability to address, 22
- actions to mitigate, 75–76
- addressing fears in team settings, 76–77
- defining, 70–71
- five basic, 71
- societal, 71–72
- Forgiveness, 84, 92–93
- acknowledgment, accountability, and, 88–90, 93, 94, 96
- defined, 86
- everyone as deserving of, 85–86
- grace and, 22, 86. See also Grace
- importance, 86–88
- and inclusive conversations, 18, 84–88, 91, 94, 95
- motivation for, 88–89
- nature of, 22, 86–87, 90
- vs. pardoning, 88–90
- remorse, repentance, and, 89, 93
- value and benefits of, 86, 88
- Forgiving conversations, nature of, 90–92
- Foster, Kimberly, 88
- Fourfold Path of forgiving, 90
- Fragility, 79–82
- the ability to address, 22
- acknowledging, 79–80
- African Americans and, 78–80
- fear and, 22, 70, 77, 78
- understanding, 77–79
- Gaslighting, 141, 144–145
- Gender-neutral/inclusive pronouns, , 150
- Goffman, Erving, 116
- Good White People (Sullivan), 129
- Grace, 92–94
- acknowledgment, accountability, and, 88–90, 96
- importance, 86–88
- and inclusive conversations, 18, 84–88, 91, 95, 96
- nature of, 22, 86
- Gratitude for trust, showing, 103
- Group identities, 32. See also under Dominant groups
- Group norms, developing, 51–52
- Guyger, Amber. See Jean, Botham
- Hairstyles, 140, 143
- Hall, Stuart, 29
- Handler, Chelsea, 20
- Harris, Brittany J., 78–79
- Hate crimes, 72, 89–90
- Hekman, David, 49–50
- Hogeveen, Jeremy, 66
- Honesty in conversations with children, 54
- “I” statements, 42, 95
- ICS. See Intercultural Conflict Style Inventory
- Identity-based trauma, 73–74
- Identity-based violence, trauma and perpetrators of, 74–75
- Identity groups, 31, 52
- Imposter syndrome, 33
- Inclusion Solution (The Winters Group blog and newsletter), 78, 130, 131, 135
- Inclusive conversations, ix, 23. See also specific topics
- nature of,
- why we need to have, –12
- Individualism
- defined, 27
- from focus on self, 27–28
- Individualistic cultures, 27–28
- Inequitable environments, attending to and correcting biases perpetuating, 52–53
- Inequity, 12, 51–53. See also Equity systems of,
- Intercultural Conflict Style Inventory (ICS), 36, 38
- Intercultural Development Continuum, 37–38, 117
- Intercultural Development Inventory, 35–36, 38
- Internalized oppression, 33, 144
- Intersectionality, 31–32
- Inzlicht, Michael, 66
- Jarrett, Valerie, 84, 127
- Jean, Botham, 13, 90
- Jews, violence against,
- Jones, Travis, 130, 131, 135
- King, Bernice, 85
- King, Martin Luther, Jr., 20, 85
- King, Steve, 85
- Language/terminology. See Words
- Latinx, 28, 99
- Legette, Kamilah, 121–122
- LGBTQ community, –3, 10, 63–64
- LGBTQ employees, , 41, 50
- Liberation, 58
- Listening, 52, 62, 91
- inclusive, 106
- one’s willingness to listen, 106
- MacNair, Rachel, 74–75
- Mandela, Nelson, 89
- Mansbach, Adam, 134
- Mansplaining, 145–146
- definition and nature of, 141–142
- Marginalized groups, 33, 43–45, 74, 75
- internalized oppression and, 33
- questions to ask themselves, 34
- safety and, 43
- McIntosh, Peggy, 129
- Mentorship, the key to great, 114–115
- Mentorship programs, 114
- Mentorship relationships, 114
- Metacognition
- defined, 29
- learning to practice, 29–30
- Metacognitive thinking, stages in, 29–30
- Methodist Church, 10
- Meyer-Shipp, Michele, 15
- Microaffirmations, 138
- Microaggressions, 138–142
- addressing, 142–143
- defined, 138
- origin of the term, 138
- Microassaults, 139, 142, 143
- Microinequities, 138. See also Microaggressions
- Microinsults, 139–141, 143–144
- Microinvalidations, 139, 141–142, 144–145
- Millennials, 36, 37
- Minimization, 35–38, 117
- Minority groups. See also specific topics
- dehumanization and discrimination causing distrust among, 99–100
- Mistakes, owning one’s, 107
- Modeling behavior, 77
- Monitoring stage (metacognitive thinking), 29–30
- Multipartiality, 67
- Muslims, violence against,
- Mutilation, fear of, 71
- Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), 35
- Nationalism, 10, 11, 71, 72, 85
- Native Americans, 28, 99, 147
- Nicolosi, Jessica, 26
- Nonbinary (gender), defined, 150
- N-word, 93–95
- Obama, Barack, 151
- Obhi, Sukhvinder, 66
- Oops, ouch, and educate conversation model, 95–96, 134
- Oops conversation starter, 96
- Opinions, curiosity and acceptance of contrary, 152
- Oppression, 43
- Oppression Olympics, 91
- Othering, 99–100, 131
- Ouch! That Stereotype Hurts (Aguilar), 95
- Ouch conversation, 95
- Peer-created resources, leveraging, 55
- Perpetration-induced traumatic stress (PITS), 74–75
- Personality tests and typologies, 35–36
- Pierce, Chester M., 138
- Planning stage (metacognitive thinking), 29
- Polarization, ix, , 10, 11, 151
- Polarizing perspectives, acknowledging, 55
- Pole, Nnamdi, 73
- Police violence against Blacks, 13, 73, 90, 103
- Political correctness, , 43, 150
- Politics, need for inclusive conversations with, 10–11
- Populism, 71
- Populist parties and regimes, 10–11, 72
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), 73, 74
- Power, 60–63
- complexities of, 63–68
- exercise for understanding, 64
- nature of, 57
- systemic, 32, 63
- understanding equity and, 20–21
- Power dynamics of dominant and subordinated groups, 63, 65
- Preferences and styles, understanding your, 35–36
- Pre-traumatic stress syndrome, 73–74
- Privilege, 47, 124–125
- Problem solving, 102
- Race, 124–125. See also specific topics
- history of race in U.S., 126–127
- Racial identity, 128. See also under African Americans
- Racism, 127, 132. See also Whitesplaining
- history of racism in U.S., 126–127
- liberals and, 129
- “racist” vs. “racism,” 132
- strategies whites use to establish their lack of, 129
- theories of “scientific,” 127
- Racist remarks, 84–85, 127. See also N-word
- Reciprocal empathy, 101
- Religion,
- African Americans and, 119, 126
- need for inclusive conversations with, –10
- Resilience, 80–82
- Right-wing conservative political ideologies, 10–11
- Roof, Dylann, 127
- Roosevelt, Franklin Delano, 116
- Rowe, Mary, 138
- Ryan, Tim, 13
- Safe spaces, psychologically, 21
- for children, 53–55
- creating, 53–55
- Safety, psychological, 43–44, 49–52
- Sawyer, Broderick, 54
- Schools. See Children; Educational settings
- Self
- threats to the integrity of the, 71
- whole, 31
- Self-awareness, 135, 152, 156
- Self-awareness tools and exercises, 35, 124
- Self-esteem, 31, 144
- Self-talk, 26–27, 34, 38
- helps us manage our unconscious biases, 30–31
- Self-understanding, 35
- talking to yourself fosters, 26–27. See also Self-talk
- Separation, fear of, 71, 72
- Sexual harassment, , , 141
- Shared meaning, creating, 51–52
- Shore, L. M., 115
- Slack, 113
- Social group identity, 31
- Social identity groups, 31, 52
- Social media, 151
- guidelines for inclusive conversations on, 152–153
- need for inclusive conversations with, 11–12
- words matter on, 150–151
- Society, need for inclusive conversations about various aspects of, 11–12
- Sodexo, 14
- South Africa, 63, 89, 90
- Speaking from the heart, 105–106
- Stigmatized identities, 116
- Styles and preferences, understanding your, 35–36
- Subordinated groups, 19, 63–64, 67, 70, 107, 116
- becoming an ally for, 53
- vs. dominant groups, 32–33, 43, 46–49, 51, 63, 64t 66
- inclusive conversations and, 66
- nature of, 63
- othering and, 99
- power dynamics and, 63
- responding to feedback, 52
- safety and, 43
- trauma and, 73
- Sullivan, Shannon, 129–130
- Sympathetic comments, 102
- Sympathy, 102
- Systemic power, 32, 63
- Systems of inequity,
- Team dynamics, assessing, 77
- “They” (gender-neutral pronoun), use of, 150
- Tone policing, 142, 146–147
- Trauma
- defined, 73
- identity-based, 73–74
- and perpetrators of identity-based violence, 74–75
- Triggers, 26
- Trump, Donald, 72, 134
- Trust, 98, 99
- historical dehumanization and discrimination diminishes, 99–100
- showing gratitude for, 103
- Trust and empathy, 22–23
- importance of empathy in building trust, 100–101
- Trust building, 14, 22–23, 98–100, 114
- importance of empathy in, 100–103
- on a team, 104–107
- Trusting relationships, Culture Amp Paradigm report and, 114
- Truth and Reconciliation Commission (South Africa), 89
- Tutu, Desmond, 89–91
- Tutu, Mpho, 89–91
- Twitter, 151
- United Methodist Church, 10
- Valbrun, Valda, 119–121
- Violence,
- Volf, Miroslav, 88–89, 91, 93
- We Can’t Talk about That at Work!: How to Talk about Race, Religion, Politics, and Other Polarizing Topics (Winters), , , 13–14, 20, 46, 92, 101
- What Lies Ahead, 11
- White culture, 130
- White fragility, 75, 78, 79, 132
- White supremacists, 74, 85, 89–90, 127, 130, 132
- Whiteness, 124, 125
- acknowledging, 133–135
- and calling out white people, 134
- celebrating, 130–132
- inclusive conversations and, 133–135
- Whiteness theory, 128–129
- Whites. See also specific topics
- “I don’t See race,” 37–38. See also “Color-blindness”
- strategies to establish their lack of racism, 129
- use of the N-word, 93–95
- Whitesplaining, 145
- asking vs. telling Black people, 135
- definition and nature of, 132, 142
- racism and, 132, 142
- refraining from, 43, 135
- Winters Group, The, , 10, 14, 59f, 80, 88, 111f, 115f, 149, 151
- #actsofinclusion, 151
- Charlotte-Mecklenburg School (CMS) district and, 118
- Conditions for a Brave Zone, 48, 48f
- dialogue series codesigned by, 14
- diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) and, 80, 149
- exercise for thinking about intersecting identities, 32, 32f
- exercise for understanding power, 64
- 4E model, 101, 113
- The Inclusion Solution (blog and newsletter), 78, 130, 131, 135
- leaders, 78
- remote working environment, 114
- strategists, 119, 130
- Train the Trainer session, 13, 14
- training sessions, 128
- virtual learning lab, 11
- Woke, 133
- Women labeled “aggressive,” 50–51
- Women’s input, ignoring, 115–116, 146
- Words. See also Diversity, equity, inclusion (DEI) lexicon; Racist remarks
- importance of, 77, 137, 150–151
- thinking of the power of your, 152
- Workplace. See also specific topics
- inclusive conversations yield positive results in, 12–15
- need for inclusive conversations with, –8
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