INDEX
Page references followed by fig indicate an illustrated figure.
actions, 136–138, 144, 147, 151–154. See also choice, connection, and competence actions
Adam’s story, 95–97
advocating for justice, 146–149
agentic tendency, 127
airport security story, 152–154
aliens in Mall of America story, 47
aligned motivational outlook, 49fig–50, 59–63, 69–70
aneurysm story, 79–81
Anya’s story, 51
“Art of Persuasion, The” program, 107
authentic life, 135–138
bad habit story, 70–71
Barry’s story, 56–57
beliefs, 74–75, 158. See also credo
(“I believe”) belonging, 33, 36
blaming Sam story, 76–78
blouse story, 54–55
Brenda’s story, 85–87
Brett’s story, 38–39
Buford, Bob, 161
busyness fatal distraction, 135–138
Calla’s story, 104–105
choice
concerns, questions, and ways to create, 24–29, 60–71, 75–76, 155
stories on making, 70–77, 79–81
choice, connection, and competence actions
stories on, 11–14, 82–90, 98–104
strategies for creating, 8–10, 15–16, 19fig, 22, 68–70, 81–82, 142
three scientific truths on, 8–9 See also actions
collaborative spontaneous moments, 109–111
connection, 30–36, 69–71, 145–146, 156
credo (“I believe”), 80–85. See also beliefs
death and renewal cycle, 157–158
Deborah’s story, 72–73
developed values, 61–63, 72, 74
dieting motivation, 98–102, 120–124
discipline as red flag, 22
disconnecting from busyness, 135–138
disinterested motivational outlook, 49fig, 52–53, 69–70
Dobie’s story, 37–38
Drea (author’s husband), 92, 98–102
Eileen’s story, 106–108
espoused values, 71–72
external motivational outlook, 49fig–50, 53–55, 69–70, 161–162. See also rewards/incentives
extrinsic motivation, 2, 3, 19
fatal distractions, 126–138, 161. See also work hazards
fears, 115
feedback, 39, 142–146, 148–149
feelings and mindfulness, 92–97
flipping the feedback, 142–146, 160
Forest, Jacques, 134
Frankl, Viktor, 25–26
freedom vs. choice, 25–26
Gina’s story, 116–117
goals
creating choice, connection, and competence to achieve, 22, 39, 75–76, 104–105, 146
motivation to pursue, 2, 3, 9, 65–67
Wells Fargo Bank scandal due to unrealistic, 147
Halftime (Buford), 161
Hamlet (Shakespeare), 125
Heckler, Lou, 66
“How to Write a Business Plan” seminar, 107
I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban (Yousafzai), 10
identifying your outlook
author on mastering her own motivation by, 151
introduction to, 47–48fig, 89fig
Master Your Motivation web page on, 67
as motivation skill action, 44fig
three optimal motivational outlooks, 49fig, 50–51, 59–67
three suboptimal motivational outlooks, 49fig–50, 51–57
what science says about, 58
imposed motivational outlook, 49fig–50, 55–57, 69–70, 113–114
“in the zone,” 65
incentives. See rewards/incentives
inherent motivational outlook, 49fig–51, 65–67, 69–70
Instagram, 30
integrated motivational outlook, 49fig–51, 63–65, 69–70
intrinsic motivation, 2, 3, 19, 65–67
Ivan’s story, 82–85
Josie’s story, 88–90
journaling, 123
“Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet, The,” 118
judgments, 117–120
Judith’s story, 76–78
junk food motivation, 15, 21–23, 116–117
justice advocation, 146–149
Katie, Byron, 117–120
Ken Blanchard Companies, The, 162
King, Martin Luther, Jr., 25
know yourself, 125–126
Kondo, Marie, 41
kung fu story, 93–94
Langer, Ellen, 91
Leading at a Higher Level (Blanchard), 162
Lee’s story, 64–65
listening, 136–137, 142–146, 160
loneliness, 34–35
Major League Baseball players, 130
Mandela, Nelson, 25
Man’s Search for Meaning (Frankl), 25–26
Mark’s story, 102–104
Master Your Motivation web page on change, 158
on creating choice, 29
on creating competence, 45
on fatal distractions, 138
on identifying your motivational outlook, 67
on reflecting on your outlook, 111
on shifting your motivational outlook, 87, 125
mastering motivation stories, 132, 135, 151–154
#MeToo movement, 25
mindlessness, 91–92
minister for loneliness (UK, 2018), 34–35
Missy’s story, 145–146
Mitchell, Stephen, 118
motivation
stories on mastering, 132–135, 151–154
understanding the nature of, 1, 17–21, 43–45
motivation science on fatal distractions, 127
on identifying your motivational outlook, 58
on mindfulness, 97
on motivational outlooks, 44fig, 47–49
on optimal motivation, 20
on pursuit of material wealth, 129–130
on self-determination theory, 14–16
on the Spectrum of Motivation model, 48–49fig, 69–70
three scientific truths of, 5–36
motivation skills
“identify your outlook” action to build, 44fig, 47–67, 48fig, 151
Judith’s story on applying, 76–78
“reflect on your outlook” action to build, 44fig, 47–48fig, 88–108, 153–154
“shift your outlook” action to build, 44fig, 47–48fig, 68–87, 151–153
motivation theories
number of discredited, 1–2
self-determination theory (SDT), 2, 14–16
Spectrum of Motivation model, 49fig, 69–70
motivational outlooks
identifying your, 44fig, 47–67, 48fig, 89fig, 151
reflect on your, 44fig, 47–48fig, 68–87, 88–108, 109–111, 153–154
shift your, 44fig, 47–48fig, 88–108, 89fig, 151–153
National Basketball Association players, 130
New One Minute Manager, The (Blanchard), 162
Nick’s story, 21–22
obsessive passion, 135–136
One Minute Praisings, 159–160
optimal motivation, 19fig–20
optimal motivational outlooks
inherent, 49fig, 51, 59–60, 65–67
integrated, 49fig, 50–51, 59, 63–65
looking deeper into, 59–60
stories on, 98–102, 106–108, 120–123
outlooks. See motivational outlooks
Panama City Beach human chain story, 110–111
Patricia’s story, 120–123
Phil’s life credo story, 79–81
physical sensations, 94
Polonius (Hamlet character), 125
Potato Chip Rock photo op (Poway, CA), 31–33
psychological junk food, 15
“psychological vitamins,” 15–16
reshifting stories, 98–102, 106–108, 120–123
reflecting on your outlook
author’s mastering her own motivation using, 153–154
introduction to, 44fig, 47–48fig, 89fig
Master Your Motivation web page on, 111
mindfulness for, 90–92, 98–106
reframing a task story, 104–105
reticular activation, 9–10
rewards/incentives, 49fig–50, 53–55, 58, 139–142, 161–162. See also external motivational outlook
Rocio’s story, 148–149
Roland’s story, 70–71
Science Says. See motivation science
Second Secret of the One Minute
Manager–One Minute Praisings, 159–160
self-actualization, 78–79
self-awareness, 74–75, 124–125
self-determination theory (SDT), 2, 14–16
shifting barriers, 113–125
shifting your outlook
introduction and strategies on, 44fig, 47–48fig, 68–75, 78–85, 89fig
Master Your Motivation web page on, 87, 125
Simmons, Derek, 110
Simmons, Jessica, 110–111
singer’s audition story, 39
Skinner, B. F., 2
social media, 30–31
Spectrum of Motivation model, 49fig, 69–70
Spiros’s story, 124–125
Stacy-Diane story, 11–14
“state of flow,” 65
suboptimal motivation, 19fig, 20–22, 127
suboptimal motivational outlooks
imposed, 49fig, 50, 55–57, 113–114
rewards as a work hazard and form of, 139–142
swimmers’ human chain rescue story, 110–111
unplanned moments, 67
value statements, 71–72
values
aligned motivational outlook based on, 59
aligning actions and choices with, 70–76, 124, 147
all beliefs are, 75
espoused, 71–72
programmed, 61
understanding the source of your, 74–75
used to break through fears, 115
video gaming addiction, 33–34
Wells Fargo Bank scandal, 147
“What Do You Value?” exercise, 71–74
Why Motivating People Doesn’t Work … and What Does (Fowler), 4
willpower red flag, 22
work hazards, 49fig–50, 53–55, 58, 139–143. See also fatal distractions
“Work, The” process of inquiry, 117–120
World Health Organization, 33