Chapter 8
IN THIS CHAPTER
Make the Navigation Bar Your First Stop
Find a Friend with Facebook Search
Send a Friend Request
Find Friends in Other Friends’ Lists
Respond to a Friend Request
Make Facebook Lists
Hide a Friend’s Posts
Send Private Messages to Friends
Retrieve a Private Messages
Chat with Friends or Video Call
Post Updates on a Friend’s Wall
Comment on a Friend’s Status
Remove Messages from Your Wall
Now that your Facebook Timeline page is all set up and people can see who you are, it would make sense to have some friends online to connect with. Facebook can be a lonely place if you don’t make friends, so in this chapter, I help you find lots of friends: old and new.
So put on your thinking cap. Think of the various offline connections you have — aside from the people in your daily life (and your family) — think back to friends from previous jobs, church, schools, and maybe even summer camp. (I’m friends on Facebook with the girl who used to pick on me mercilessly when I was a kid; she’s actually not half bad now!)
Ready? This is going to be fun.
Messages: A red square with a number over the cartoon voice-bubble indicates that you’ve received private messages. The number represents how many messages from Facebook members are in your message area. Click here and you’ll get a drop-down menu. If you’ve viewed a message on another device (such as your tablet) the link will have a white background. If you haven’t read a message, the link will have a light blue background.
When you read a private message on Facebook, the other party can tell just by looking at the message — provided the sender is viewing it on a mobile device that can track the opening of messages. (Most Apple devices do.)
In the mobile app, tapping the Messages icon (on the top of the app) requires you to download the Messenger app, Facebook’s version of texting or iMessage. The app only works with friends through Facebook, and you need to download this app from the Play Store or App Store. If you do not want to download the app, you’ll have to go to Facebook in a web browser in your mobile device to read or answer any incoming messages.
Are you looking on Facebook for a friend, your local coffee shop (if it has a fan page, it may post coupons), or your favorite movie or author? Try out the Facebook search feature. Just start typing the name or topic in the Search for people, places and things text box, and a drop-down list appears. As you type the words, Facebook uses the drop-down list to suggest a name (or topic) that matches what you’re typing. If you see what you’re looking for, click that name or phrase. If the name doesn’t show up, click See All Results at the bottom of the drop-down list and search from there.
If you don’t see a See all results link at the bottom of the menu, odds are there’s no match on Facebook. You can still try to search by clicking the little magnifying glass in the Search box.
Think of a small group of your friends and write down a list. Then sign in to your Facebook account; you’ll land on your home page. From here, you have two ways of finding people; start by using the Search box. Type one of your friend’s names in the Search box, as I’ve done in Figure 8-3. Just as when you’re searching for anything on Facebook, a drop-down list appears — this one with semi-matching names.
If you’re not sure how to spell your friend’s name, just type in as many characters of it as you think may be right. Facebook will pick up the slack.
If your friend is not on the Suggested list, click the See All Results link. You’ll then see a page (or many pages) with results that match what you’ve typed. You should be able to find your friend if he or she is a member of Facebook.
The regular Facebook Search box does not always show every John Doe that is on Facebook; even when you click See All Results. (See how to use the advanced version of searching for friends further on.)
Here’s the second way to find friends: Look at the blue bar at the top of the page for the Friend Requests (two people) icon. Click the icon and a drop-down menu appears, showing any friend requests you may have (to the right of the words Friend Requests you will see a link to Find Friends). Click there and you come to a page with a tool on the right that allows you to Add Personal Contacts as Friends (shown in Figure 8-4). If you select any of the services listed, you’ll be asked to type in your ID and password. Facebook will import your contacts automatically.
This Facebook feature that imports contacts is called Friend Finder. It’s perfectly safe, and Facebook does not store your password. Even so, I don’t like it; here are some reasons why:
www.facebook.com/contact_importer/remove_uploads.php
.When people know you’re a Facebook member, someone is going to want to be your friend on Facebook. There are two ways you will be notified of a friend request: You get a notification via email, or you find out when you log in to Facebook. If you receive your notification via email, just click the link contained in the message and it takes you directly to the request.
If, for security’s sake, you prefer not to click links in email (I don’t, ever) just go to Facebook and click the Friend Request notification on the top navigation bar. Your friend’s request will be there.
To respond to a friend request, you have two choices. One is to click one of the two buttons to the right of your potential friend’s name. One button reads Confirm and one reads Delete. Click one of those buttons and (respectively) you add a friend or ignore the request quietly.
When you ignore a friend request, an email isn’t sent to the person who placed the request. That person will not know that you chose to ignore him or her, except for the fact that you didn’t accept the request. Oops? Sometimes I just leave the request hanging there, just in case this is someone I may meet soon. Then “oops” is a graceful explanation.
Close Friends: Use this selection for close friends and family members you really like and they show up with a star next to their name. Once you’ve indicated this status, all their posts always show up in your News Feed.
The people you designate on these lists will not be aware of your choices. Only when stating that someone is a direct relation in your family will Facebook send them a message to confirm the relationship.
Once you’ve been on Facebook for a while, you may connect with people from your past, friends and family, and some folks you’ve met on Facebook through other friends. This is a good thing.
When you go to your News Feed to read posts, however, you may find that some of those folks have wildly varied views that (ahem) diverge from yours (some of which you may never have known about). Facebook operates in a conversational tone; many folks feel comfortable discussing their deepest feelings online, which may include opinions (political or religious) that differ from yours. You may choose to engage them in a discussion online (which may end up being a fruitless annoyance), shrug, and go on (another way of saying, “Live and let live”), or you can try to ignore the irritating posts as you scroll the page. It may not seem politically correct or courteous to unfriend (say) your cousin, just because you don’t subscribe to views like his, but to avoid such postings altogether
In the blank message form, address the message by typing your friend’s name into the To box. Facebook begins to autofill names from your friend list as you type. When you find the correct friend, select the name by clicking it or highlighting it, and then press Enter.
For these messages, fill in the Message text box as you would for a text message. When you’ve completed your message, simply click the arrow to the right corner of the New Message form (or click the X at the top of the box if you’ve changed your mind).
You have options to attach files, photos, videos, and links to your message, as well as a variety of items — depending on whether you subscribe to any Facebook applications.
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