Achor, S., 177
action
High-Stakes Conversations, 113–115
Amabile, T., 178
American Society of Training and Development (ASTD), 178
amygdala, 67
apologies, 156
Autonomy, Relatedness and Competence (ARC), 70–78, 82–85, 93, 104, 124, 133, 148–149, 169
balance asking and telling, 129–131
brain process, 65
breathe strategy, 87–92, 152–153
Chism, M., 164
closed-ended questions, 125–129
cognitive skills, 84
compassion, 84
confirmation bias, 58
conflict resolution, 52
Covey, S. R., 79
COVID-19, 11, 13, 44, 55, 111, 149
creativity, 85
critical conversations, 42, 43
debrief, 164
depression prevention, 84
Dewey, J., 166
difficult conversations, 40, 113
discipline, 23
Dweck, C., 131
emotional intelligence, 18, 24, 166
equalizer, 120
and quality questions, 121–123
fight, flee, or freeze violence, 63–67
fight-or-flight responses, 148–149
follow-up questions, 127–128, 155–156
forward-focused solutions, 137–141
From Dope to Hope: A Man in Recovery (Ryan), 120
Furnham, A., 19
Gallup Organization, 37
Hanson, R., 4
Happiness Advantage, The (Achor), 177
Headspace, 29
heart health, 85
higher-quality questions, 123–131
High-Stakes Conversations (HSCs), 113–115, 185–187
forward-focused solutions, 137–141, 189–190
perspectives, 135–137, 188–189
self-assessment and review, 159
Hunger, Anger, Loneliness, Tiredness, or Sickness (HALTS), 40–45
immune function, 84
Ingham, H., 26
intellectual curiosity, 127
King, M. L. Jr., 11
Kramer, S., 178
label your feelings, 92–94, 153
listening, 23, 25, 26, 57, 121, 127, 128, 134, 153, 158, 189
Luft, J., 26
magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), 71
Maister, D., 119
meaningful, 176
Mehrabian, A., 28
mindfulness
mindset, 120, 131–132, 137, 168, 197
Moments That Matter (MTMs), xvii–xxii, 7–9, 17–18, 28, 66, 101–102
MTM goal and intention, 100–105
negativity bias, 69
Outlook, 49
and High-Stakes Conversations, 147–148
self-assessment and review, 105
pain control, 85
People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA), 139
perspectives, 135–137, 188–189
physical threat, 64
Platinum Rule, 197
self-assessment and review, 182–183
“What? So What? Now What?”, 172–175
Progress Principle, The (Amabile and Kramer), 178
Project Aristotle, 117
psychological safety, 118
quality questions, 121–123, 135, 136, 138, 141–143, 171, 188, 189
reflection. See practice reflection
relationships, 84
resilience, 179
return on investment (ROI), 22, 37
Ryan, T., 120
self, 18
self-assessment, 46
ROI of, 22
self-leadership, 14, 17, 147, 181
Self, Outlook, Action, and Reflection (SOAR) cycle, xxi–xxii, 11–14, 111–112, 181, 182
Silent Messages (Mehrabian), 28
sleep, 85
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect (Lieberman), 100
Stop, Breathe, & Think, 29
stress and anxiety reduction, 84
Thinking Fast and Slow (Kahneman), 43
Trusted Advisor (Maister), 119
unconscious bias, 68, 125, 167
weakness, 169
weight loss, 176
well-being, 195
Wilson, T. D., 6
Worst Self, 37
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