167 Twists in the Tracks
Aynee Osborn Joujon-Roche
Boy, if it was a young woman, the more, the more work she could do
quickly to somehow trust herself, to trust her gut, and to stand up for her-
self the way she might for her Mom. If somebody – you know – was down-
talking your mother in the grocery store and embarrassing her, shaming
her, or whatever, you’d stick up for your Mom or you’d stick up for your
little brother, or your little sister or your best friend. Why can’t we do that
for ourselves in an educational, doesn’t have to be a threatening, way; to
be aware of your own self, and also your responsibility even about your
tones – going back to the musicality of things, our tones – it’s not what you
say, it’s how you say it. So, sonically, the way you might speak to some-
body where they still feel like they’re not being attacked; the man is not
feeling like he’s being attacked, but it’s like – this would be so much more
beneficial to all of us, if, you know . . . but so many people don’t. That’s the
irony. That’s, that’s also the miracle of life, right, of aging, that you’re not
going to know everything at 20, nor should you have to. But, yes – I could
have saved myself maybe some extra steps had someone said, you’ve got
to believe in yourself and trust yourself, and you know what’s going on,
but you’re ignoring the voice. Which of course the inner voice knows.
Interviewer
I hope that through this interview, some young women/women new to
the music business will be hearing what you’ve just said. I hope they will
trust themselves. And as you’ve said, in a professional and heartfelt way,
the ‘could you think about the way you’ve just said that’ approach is so
important – creating that trust.
Aynee Osborn Joujon-Roche
And this is so key, foundational, fundamental – 100%. But I also asked
so many questions. And so all the men that I was around, that were so
reclusive in their own little editorial worlds – but the minute I approached
them with some curiosity – could you tell me why you like this or why
you did it that way? Then they would say – oh, I would love to, and then
they each give you little pearls of wisdom. And that also helped me in
where I was going on my journey to educate myself to become that well-
rounded person, and that also led to people going – she’s pretty pleasant to
be around; let’s give her a call and get her on the show because she’s easy
to work with. And that’s 90% of it. They assume you have the skills. So get
the skills and know yourself and trust yourself. And then it’s really about
knowing when to stop talking and listen.
Because in that particular field, you could be with people in a dark room
mixing a movie for 12 or 15 hours. And if you’re a pain in the ass, on any
level, you won’t be getting that next job. The rub is, you get confidence
with experience, but you need the experience to get the confidence. . . .
As they say, fake it ’til you make it. I was thrown in the deep end, and
I learned to swim and swim well – quickly.