Look, we are tiny complex humans in a huge complex world (and even bigger universe). It’s all so unimaginably, fantastically strange that, believe me, we’ll never be able to understand everything. And that applies at all levels and in all areas of life. Once you grasp this Rule you’ll sleep easier at night.

There are likely to be a few things going on around you right now, as there always will be, that will remain just slightly outside your comprehension. People will behave oddly and you won’t understand why. Things will go unexpectedly wrong – or right – and it won’t make sense. Spend all your time desperately trying to work it all out and you’ll drive yourself crazy. Much better just to accept that there is always stuff that we won’t understand and let it go at that. How simple that is.

It’s the same principle for the big stuff – why things happen to us, why we are here, where we go afterwards, that sort of thing. Some of it we’ll never know, some of it we can try and work out, but I have a sneaking feeling it won’t turn out to be anything like we think.

It’s as if our lives are an enormous jigsaw and all we get access to is the bottom left-hand bit. And from that we make these huge assumptions: ‘Oh, it’s a . . .’ But when the veil gets taken away we see that the jigsaw is massive and that the one tiny bit we were scrutinizing was actually something else, and there we are looking at an entirely different picture to the one we’d imagined.

We are now collecting information faster than any human, or any computer, can process it. We can’t understand it all. We can’t even begin to understand a tiny fraction of it. Same with our lives. Stuff is going on around us at such a rate we’ll never get to the bottom of it. Because as fast as we try, the picture changes, new information comes in and our understanding alters.

Be curious, ask questions, wonder to yourself, talk to other people if you like – but know that this won’t always give you a clear and concrete answer. People don’t always make sense. Life doesn’t always make sense. Let it go and discover the peace of mind that comes with knowing that you’ll never understand everything. Sometimes it just is.