No, I’m not about to reveal the secret people have sought since the beginning of time – where true happiness comes from. But I do know where it isn’t to be found. And I do have an inkling where it might be. Let’s take a scenario. You go out to buy a new car/house/suit/computer/whatever turns you on. You have the money (no, I have no idea where you get it from, this is just an example) and you buy whatever it is, and it makes you feel incredible/happy/excited/fantastic. Now imagine whoever it was who built/made/created whatever it is you bought. When they made it, where did they fit that feeling in? I think you might have brought that feeling with you.

Now imagine you fall in love. It is, again, incredible. You feel fantastic, happy, excited. You go to meet your new love and, when you see them, that feeling spills out in all directions. You feel amazing because you are with them and they are generating that feeling. Right? Wrong. Again you brought it all with you. You may look to them to trigger it but even if they go to the other end of the planet, you’ll still have that feeling and they’re nowhere near you.

You get fired. Ghastly. You get given your papers. You walk away devastated. You feel like nothing. Where in that documentation is that feeling you now have? Nowhere, that’s right. Again you brought it all with you. We all go to work every day with the potential to have that ‘I’ve just been fired’ feeling. We all meet new people with the ‘I’ve fallen head over heels in love’ feeling.

But no amount of falling in love, buying new stuff or getting sacked is going to keep that feeling going for longer than it takes us to get over it. People get addicted to buying new stuff or falling in love or whatever because they just love that feeling without realizing that they already have it. They have to keep having their ‘fix’ because they think it’s the only way to get that feeling going. The secret is knowing how to trigger it without anyone else or anything else being involved. No, I don’t know. You have to find that one for yourself. Clue: it’s the one place you’d never think of looking. Yep, right inside you.