It’s a father’s role to embarrass his children at every available opportunity. I said I would never do it but suddenly found I was getting the ‘Dad, you are sooo embarrassing!’ line. I don’t know how it happened but what I did learn is that there is no such thing as being a cool Dad. So, with that in mind, and writing as a Dad, I’ve got a few thoughts on this one.
Let’s start with the very low marks. If you’ve hit rock bottom with this one you either have seriously strong negative feelings towards your father, you don’t see him or both.
So, what if you just don’t see him? The first question is: ‘Do you want to do something about it?’ You may be very happy not having a father in your life. But if you do then step one is a tough one. How do you make contact? I had a friend in this situation once, so I suggested she write a letter. Good idea but after four weeks she still hadn’t written anything and the reason? ‘I don’t know how to start.’
So, here’s an idea for an opening paragraph:
Dear Dad
It’s not easy for me to write this letter and I am guessing it’s not easy for you to read it. But I had to write because I believe you and I have a few things we need to sort out to make both of our lives happier.
And here are a few thoughts on what should come next:
If you are doing OK, but not brilliantly, then here are some thoughts for you:
So, your relationship with Dad is really good but you want it to be brilliant!
Here are nine ways to get bonus marks:
Send your Dad a card when it’s not Father’s Day, his birthday or Christmas.
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