132 ◾ Transforming Teams
At this point everyone was uncomfortable. James
was young, new, and well-liked. Jennifer shrugged her
shoulders and said noncommittally, “Sure. I trust him.”
Karen pushed a bit further, “Really? Does he give
you what he says he’s going to when he says he’s going
to give it to you? Does he meet your expectations?
Does he keep all of his promises?”
Looking a bit resigned, Jennifer said, “Well, okay.
I can’t say he’s great with deadlines, and sometimes
I think he’s just humoring me when he says he’ll get
right on something. But I’m not mad or anything at
him. I like him.”
“I’m not suggesting that you dislike or are mad at
James, Jennifer. But when he says he’ll get you some-
thing within a certain time, do you believe him?”
Karen pressed.
“No, I kind of don’t believe him,” she responded,
trying to suppress a nervous giggle. “I guess I really
don’t trust him when he says that to me. Because I’m
pretty sure he won’t get it to me when he says he will.”
Jennifer straightened her back and afrmed, “No,
I don’t believe him.” Then she slumped a bit and
mouthed a silent “Sorry” to James, who just shrugged
as if to say, “Don’t worry about it.”
Karen thanked and excused Jennifer and James and
turned to the rest of the group. “You see, when we talk
about our interactions in the context of trust or being
trustworthy, it takes on a lot of meaning. It’s scary and
we don’t want to go there. It’s a huge declaration to say,
‘I don’t trust you.’ And once you’ve gone there, it’s per-
sonal and it’s hard to repair. But it’s an entirely different