What Eliza Knows—Resources for Managers ◾ 201
What You Can Do
Just as Karen does for Eliza’s team, invite two members
of your team to make a request or offer of each other.
Write it down and then use that exchange as a sample
to identify the components of a promise. Remember,
this content is easily taught and easily grasped. The
true challenge is in its day-to-day application.
Once your team is familiar with how to make and
manage promises, you, as a leader, need to reinforce
this learning by being explicit in how you make and
manage your own requests, offers, and promises. As
a leader, you also need to hold others to their com-
mitments as well. Remember, as Eliza knows, a sh
rots from the head down . . . but the positive aspects of
leadership ow that way as well. If your team sees you
become passionate about promises, they will too.
Critical Conversations
Eliza realized that, in order for her team to be success-
ful, they had to engage in some critical conversations.
Some of those conversations were fun and easy, such
as giving positive feedback. Others were difcult, such
as holding each other accountable for their promises,
being open about misgivings and concerns, and restor-
ing trust. For teams to be truly successful and collabor-
ative, team members need to be able to engage in these
conversations: