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People
UNFAITHFUL
PARTNER
Betrayal is never pleasant. In all
relationships, the pain of being
wronged—however unlikely—is a
dread that lurks in the back of the
minds of couples no matter how happy
they are together. Betrayal, of course,
may never happen. But no one can
ever be absolutely sure.
YOU FEEL JEALOUS
You see your partner with another and feel
envious. What is it about that man or woman
that most aects you? If it’s their unattractive
qualities, are you surprised your partner nds
them exciting? This could be your shadow at
work in the dream—the hidden parts you’ve
relegated to the unconscious because
you’ve disowned them.
Action
Embrace your shadow material—bring it into
the light and reect on how what you
consider unattractive might be ne with
your partner. But you need to own your fears
and discuss them with your partner.
YOU WANT REVENGE
Your partner is being unfaithful somehow—and
you feel like stabbing them in the back. You are
furious and want revenge. But maybe it’s not
punishment you’re after: you are possibly being
unfaithful to a part of yourself here, and it’s
highly likely to be your ego.
Action Realize you are deceiving yourself in
some way—perhaps ignoring warning signs from
friends and family. Decide to check on all areas
of your life in which you might not be behaving
truly authentically.
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Unfaithful Partner
YOUR TRUST HAS
BEEN BETRAYED
Your partner is somehow being unfaithful; they no
longer seem trustworthy. The dream unsettles
you, and its uncomfortable storyline is hard to
take. You are appalled and frightened, in the grip
of dread. When you wake up, you realize this was
more like a nightmare, playing out your deepest
fears that your partner might one day be unfaithful.
Action Accept that you carry these worries and,
if reality shows no sign of betrayal in your
relationship, keep your fears to yourself. Believe
in your partner’s trustworthiness. It’s a gift you
can give the partnership that will reinforce the
stability you crave. Respect their integrity, too;
it’s to be valued, not challenged.
YOU ARE THE
UNFAITHFUL PARTNER
You dream of an exciting meeting with a new lover. You
enjoy the encounter; it’s fun and sexually fullling. You wish
it could go on and on, and regret waking up to daytime
reality. This dreamy partner has extraordinary magnetism—
you want more! The sex was the greatest, and perhaps
your current relationship doesn’t match it.
Action Acknowledge the dream was fun and be relieved
it unfolded in another world. But take a look at your
relationship—the one you’ve just been “unfaithful” to—
and ask yourself what steps you might take to
improve what you have in the
here and now.
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