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Uprooted Tree
REARRANGING THE LAYOUT
You dream of watching someone digging up your
favorite ornamental tree. At rst, you’re irritated at
them for taking matters into their own hands. How
dare they! You then realize how much better the
uprooted tree will one day look, transplanted
elsewhere in the park or yard and creating more
visual balance.
Action Don’t be afraid to initiate transitions
instead of letting others do so. The dream tree
could be a metaphor for yourself: passively
submitting to others’ plans. If it literally means
transporting a favorite tree or bush to a new
place, consider how good it will look after you’ve
chosen exactly where you can transplant it. The
same goes for your life. The key here is to do
what you want (if possible), not watch others
always make their choices.
CASE STUDY: KIERAN
Kieran had led a repressed life, living with a
woman with poor self-esteem who needed to
be the special one in the partnership. Their
implicit collusive deal lasted for years, until he
left her. He found a new job in landscape
gardening—and Ella.
Ella was not into collusion, wanting an
authentic man responsible for his own
emotional development. Every time he fell
back into the habitual self-eacing, she
showed her angry frustration. Over time,
Kieran began to understand why she was
distressed at this suppression of his own
needs. He learned to stand up for himself
and to enjoy praise sincerely oered.
One night, a vivid dream conrmed how his
psychological life was in the process of
changing. He was pushing a wheelbarrow
along a new road. The wheelbarrow was lled
with rich soil into which an uprooted tree had
been placed, ready for planting. He understood
that he was that tree—ready now to ourish
and grow in very dierent soil from the bleak
territory he had once thought acceptable.
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