INDEX
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Accents, 223
Accident, 198
Action file, 110
Adams, Scott, 258
Add value to every interaction, 269–270
Addictions, 6–7
Address things on the spot, 21–25
Admiration, 149
Advice/criticism, 213–214
AlAnon, 7
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), 7, 129
Allen, David, 110
Alternative careers, 154–155
American Institute of Certified Public Accountants (AICPA), 294
American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA), 297
Anger and resentment, 125, 126
Answering machine, 202
Appearance/attire, 229–231
appointlet.com, 48
Aristotle, 255
Art of Living, The (Maurois), 134
Artist’s date, 120
Artist’s Way, The (Cameron), 120
Ask for what you really want, 130–133
Asking for a raise, 76–77
Assist U, 295
Associated Bodywork and Massage Professionals (ABMP), 297
Association of Image Consultants International (AICI), 297
Attention span, 201
Attract whatever you want. See Effortless success
Attraction and action, 186
Automatic investments, 84
Automatic monthly direct debit, 83
Babauta, Leo, 186
Bach, Richard, 167
Backlog, 41
Backup of computer files, 92
Bailey, Pearl, 156
Baldwin, James, 61
Ball, Lucille, 176
Balzac, Honore de, 136
Banish adrenaline burnout, 250–252
Banish negative thoughts, 260–262
Bankhead, Tallulah, 6
Bath, 251–252
Be present in the moment, 276
Beatles (rock group), 176
Beauty and luxury, 242–244
Bedroom, 232
Begley, Sharon, 281
Being sensitive, 23
Ben & Jerry’s, 269–270
Bible
Bierce, Ambrose, 250
Big Brothers Big Sisters of America, 295
Big goal, 186
Bill payment, 48
Billionaire game, 64–66
Birbaumer, Niels, 281
Bite your tongue, 213–214
Body image, 234–235
Bombing of World Trade Center (1993), 272
Book club, 139–140
Boswell, James, 210
Bourget, Paul, 40
Brando, Marlon, 235
Brecht, Bertolt, 89
Broken or damaged things, 46
Broken record technique, 55
Brookner, Anita, 245
Brown, Rita Mae, 53
Browning, Robert, 256
Buffett, Warren, 159
Business of Life, The (Feather), 178
Calvino, Italo, 208
Cameron, Julia, 120
Campbell, Jeff, 102
Career Change Kit, 157, 177, 296
Career choice/development, 147–173. See also Work performance
alternative careers, 154–155
do what you love, 159–161
ideal life, 148–151
intuition, 164–166
perspective, 169–170
purpose in life, 167–168
sabbatical, 171–173
special project, 162–163
unique talent, 156–158
values, 152–153
Cash reserve, 79–80
Cast plenty of pebbles, 266–267
Celebrate your success, 279–280
Chanel, Coco, 59
Change mode, 191
Chesterfield flooding disaster, 28
Chesterton, G. K., 275
Chrystos, 120
Churchill, Winston, 279
Cicero, 236
Clean up your act, 33–58
clutter, 36–39
feng shui, 45–46
find a place for everything, 43–44
hire help, 51–52
housekeeper, 49–50
organization, 40–42
perfect the present, 34–35
say “no,” 53–56
simplify your life, 47–48
upgrade your network, 57–58
Clear your desk, 40–42
Close friends and family, 134–135
Coach Yourself to a New Career (Miedaner), 115, 153
Coaches/coaching
finding a coach, 287–289
how coachable are you?, 285
how to become a coach, 291
Coaching principle, 122
CoachU, 86
Coachville.com, 291
Codependents Anonymous (CoDA), 7
Coffee, 6–7
Comments of Bagshot, The (Spender), 113
Communication, 203–225
accept graciously, 219–220
bite your tongue, 213–214
complaining, 210–212
convert compliments to acknowledgments, 217–218
convert questions to statements, 224
don’t spill your guts, 206–207
80/20 rule, 208
encouragement, 215–216
four-step communication model, 17–20
giving advice/criticism, 213–214
gossip, 204–205
“I” statements, 224
say it like it is, but gently, 215–216
speak and be heard, 223–225
stop trying to change people, 221–222
voice quality, 223
Community of friends, 138–140
Complaining, 210–212
Complete work, 111–112
Compliments, 217–218, 219, 224
Confidence, 133
Crawford, Cindy, 234
Create some space. See Clean up your act
Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui (Kingston), 43
Creative procrastination, 117
Credit counseling service, 72
Criticism, 213–214
Cross, Amanda, 198
Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly, 97
Curie, Marie, 182
Curiosity, 247–248
Cut flowers, 243–244
Cutting your expenses, 67–75
Daily habits, 8–11
Daily pleasures, 8–11
Date your spouse, 136–137
Davis, Angela, 49
Day of rest, 250–251
De Waal, Esther, 73
Debt, 70–72
Debt Management Program, 72
Declutter your life, 36–39, 43–44
Delegating, 50–52, 114, 178–179
Derogatory jokes and comments, 16, 21
Detach yourself from the outcome, 263–265
Direct debit of monthly bills, 48
Disability insurance, 90–91
“Do it now!”, 109–110
Do one thing at a time, 106–108
Do something different, 191
Do the job in half the time, 102–103
Dominguez, Joe, 85
Don’t spill your guts, 206–207
Downsizing, 87
Dress the part, 229–231
Eating disorder, 231
eBay, 294
Effortless success, 255–283
ace up your sleeve, 263–265
add value to every interaction, 269–270
banish negative thoughts, 260–262
cast plenty of pebbles, 266–267
celebrate your success, 279–280
change your thinking, 256–257
detach yourself from the outcome, 263–265
fear, 271–274
gratefulness, 267–268
having it all is only the beginning, 277–278
play more, 275–276
power of thought, 281–282
risks, 273–274
write it down 15 times a day, 258–259
80/20 rule
communication, 208
work performance, 175
Elance.com, 295
Eliot, T. S., 34
Emerson, Ralph Waldo, 203
Emotional index quiz, 68, 69, 128, 129
Emotional needs, 67, 68, 73, 127–133
Encouragement, 215–216
Energize your life. See Natural power
Energy drains, 6–7
Energy level, 227
Engels, Friedrich, 266
Enhancing value of your services, 269
Enjoyment, 265, 275. See also Joy filter
Entropy, 192
Executive coaching, 155
Exercise/physical activity, 239–241
Exotic fresh fruit, 9
Expense reduction (cutting expenses), 67–75
Family/close friends, 134–135
Feather, William, 178
Feng shui, 45–46
Feng Shui Guild, 294
Financial freedom, 59, 60, 81, 82
Financial independence, 81, 84, 85–88
Financial management. See Money management
Financial reserve, 79–80
Find a place for everything, 43–44
Flow of life/”flow activities,” 159, 275
Flowers, 243–244
Focus on the positive, 260–262
Force of habit, 191
Forgive yourself first, 122–123
Forgiveness, 125–126
Four-step communication model, 17–20
Francis, Brendan, 154
“Free” day, 250–251
Friendship. See Relationships
Fuller, Margaret, 152
Fun things to do, 253–254
Gargantua and Pantagruel (Rebelais), 227
Gates, Bill, 176
Gawain, Shakti, 165
Get-rich-quick schemes, 67, 87
Get unstuck, 191–193
Get your work done in half the time, 102–103
Getting away from it all, 169–173
Getting Things Done (Allen), 110
Gide, André, 215
Gift giving, 143–144
Go directly for what you want, 195
Goal setting
big goal, 186
clear and positive goals, 185
dangers, 1–2
failing to reach your goal, 194–195
going goal-less, 183–185
too many goals at one time, 186
Going with the flow, 159
Gold star method, 9
Good things/experience their opposites, 27
Goodwill (charitable organization), 294
Gossip, 204–205
“Gotta have it now” culture, 70
Graciously accepting, 219–220
Graham, Martha, 1
Gratefulness, 267–268
Gratitude, 146
Green, Kate, 104
Greyston Bakery, 269–270
Grudges, 125–126
Gustafson, Carolyn, 230
Gut feelings, 164–166
Habits, 8–11
Hansberry, Lorraine, 187
Have fun, 253–254
Having it all is only the beginning, 277–278
Head-in-the-sand approach, 115
Healthy meals, 231
Herford, Oliver, 277
High-flow activities, 97
Highlight your accomplishments (to-do-list), 182–183
Hill, Napoleon, 281
Hire help, 51–52
Hoffer, Eric, 247
Home environment, 232–233
Homeowner’s insurance, 89
House of Gold, The (Jarrett), 171
Housekeeper, 49–50
How Not to Stay Single (Tucker), 195, 267
How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt, and Live Prosperously (Mundis), 70
Howe, E. W., 175
Hubbard, Elbert, 253
Huerta, Dolores, 122
Hughes, Thomas, 30
“I” statements, 224
“I am” statements, 258
Ideal client profile, 80
Ideal day, 151
Ideal life, 148–151
Ideal morning/day, 31–32
Ideal week, 151
“In Pursuit of Affluence, at a High Price” (Kohn), 73
Increase your income, 76–78
Indexed mutual fund, 87
Informing and requesting, 17
Innate abilities, 177
Institute of Certified Financial Planners (ICFP), 294
Instructions, 224
Insurance, 89–91
Interrupting, 223
Inventory of your valuable possessions, 91
Invest in yourself, 247–249
Irresistible Attraction: A Way of Life, 86, 187
Jack of all trades/master of none, 176–177
Jarrett, Bede, 171
Jordan, Michael, 159
Joy filter, 37, 43, 44. See also Enjoyment
Just go out and do it, 189–190
Kamphuis, Joern, 259
Kelly, Jack and Marcia, 169
Kerr, Jean, 229
Khan, Hazrat Inayat, 217
Kingston, Karen, 43
Kitselman, A. L., 258
Know-it-alls, 248
Kohn, Alfie, 73
Kondo, Marie, 36–38
Laddering, 10
Lardner, Ring, 201
Latin American countries, 101
Lau-Tzu, 223
Lean Start-Up (Ries), 192
Lebowitz, Fran, 208
Leonard, George, 195
Leonard, Thomas, 86
“Less is more” principle, 175
Let things come to you naturally, 184
Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, The (Kondo), 36, 37
Life coaching, 155
Life insurance, 89–90
Life of Samuel Johnson, The, 210
Life purpose, 167–168
accredited life coach program, 291
“Boundaries,” 20
“Clear Your Desk!”, 42
contact us, 289
Irresistible Attraction: A Way of Life, 86, 187
services offered, 288
single-taskers v. multitaskers, 107
Lists, 182–186
Living in the Light (Gawain), 165
Lloyd George, David, 194
Loose ends, 112
Lottery winners, 67
Louis XVIII, 100
Love people just the way they are, 222
Love yourself, 279
Luce, Clare Boothe, 27
Luxury, 242–244
Lynch, Peter, 104
Make amends, 122–124
Marsden, O. S., 219
Massage, 236–238
Mastermind group, 141–142
Mastery (Leonard), 195
Maugham, W. Somerset, 234, 242
Maurois, André, 134
McWilliams, Peter, 262
Meal preparation and delivery services, 231
Meditation, 187
Mencius, 15
Miedaner, Talane
billionaire game, 65–66
bombing of World Trade Center (1993), 272
boundaries (bank manager), 24–25
chintz pillows, 232
cleaning frenzy, 250
cleaning the house, 50
Coach Yourself to a New Career, 115, 153
craving greenery and plants, 244
credit cards, 70
debt/money lesson, 34
earaches (five-year-old), 27
email address, 283
first-grade story, 19
foot massages, 131
front tooth turned brown, 234
gossip, 204
habits, 9
having her hair stroked, 132–133
having it all is only the beginning, 277–278
house-sitting, 164–165
housekeeper, 49
ideal life, 149–150
ideal morning, 32
international speaking career, 152–153
LifeCoach.com. See Lifecoach.com
mastermind group, 141–142
“meditation,” 187
mountain biking, 260
office desk, 45
online coaching programs, 168
pottery, 275–276
publishing Coach Yourself to Success, 263
Reiki massage, 236
sacred evening, 120
savings goal, 79
Secret Law of Attraction, 129, 195
sense of purpose, 147
simplicity and peace, 168
storage space, 35
strong sense that I need to do something, 187
thank-you notes, 145
wardrobe, 37
weekly date night (with husband), 120
wrote Coach Yourself to Success while in bath, 252
yoga ranch, 169
Miller, Henry, 27
Milton, John, 260
Minor changes, 191–193
mint.com, 48
Mirror, 46
Molecules of Emotion, The (Pert), 165
Momentum, 240
Monasteries, 169
Money beliefs, 61–63
Money diet, 73–75
Money drains, 67–69
Money Magnetism (Walters), 121
Money management, 59–92
asking for a raise, 76–77
bill payment, 48
billionaire game, 64–66
cash reserve, 79–80
common expressions, 62
cutting your expenses, 67–75
debt, 70–72
fill-in-the-blank questions, 61
financial independence game, 85–88
increase your income, 76–78
insurance, 89–91
money beliefs, 61–63
money diet, 73–75
money drains, 67–69
protect your stuff, 89–92
reserve account, 79–80
saving, 81–84
spend less/earn more, 59
spending fast, 73–75
Montagu, Mary Wortley, 213
Moonlighting, 78
Multitasking, 106–108
Mundis, Jerrold, 70
Naisbitt, John, 236
National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO), 294
National salary averages, 76
Natural disasters, 28–29
Natural power, 1–32
address things on the spot, 21–25
boundaries, 15–16
energy drains, 6–7
four-step communication model, 17–20
habits, 8–11
petty annoyances, 3–5
positive attitude, 27–29
protect yourself gracefully, 17–20
“shoulds,” 12–14
standards, 26
things to look forward to, 30–32
underlying foundation, 1
where to start, 1
Natural talents and abilities, 156–158
Nature, 170
Needs, 127–133
Needy relationships, 6
Negative goals, 185
Negative thoughts, 166, 258, 260–262, 282
Nest egg, 83
Net worth, 83
Neural pathways, 157
Neutral tone of voice, 18, 23, 25, 126
New Year’s resolutions, 14
Nietzsche, Friedrich, 148, 221
“Not enough” conversation, 34
OA (Overeaters Anonymous), 7
O’Casey, Sean, 79
Off-load the stuff you don’t enjoy, 177, 178–179
Olson, Jeff, 192
On Doing What One Likes (Waugh), 93
1-800-Flowers.com, 297
Online content. See Lifecoach.com
Optimal experience, 97
Optimism, 27–29
Organization, 40–42
Overdeliver, 180
Overeaters Anonymous (OA), 7
Overresponding, 200
Overweight, 235
Ovid, 266
“Pamper me” thing, 9
Paperwork, 40
Paradise Lost (Milton), 260
Parents, 134–135
Parker, Dorothy, 143
Parkinson, C. Northcote, 102
Parkinson’s Law, 102
Part-time job, 78
Passport, 91
Path of least resistance, 160
Pay yourself first, 83
Paying cash, 82
Peak experiences, 153
Perfect the present, 34–35
Performance review, 77
Personal and emotional needs, 127–133
Personal improvement, 227–254
banish adrenaline burnout, 250–252
bath, 251–252
beauty and luxury, 242–244
body image, 234–235
dress the part, 229–231
energy level, 227
exercise/physical activity, 239–241
“free” day, 250–251
fun things to do, 253–254
home environment, 232–233
invest in yourself, 247–249
massage, 236–238
office space, 232
pesky imperfections, 234–235
prudence, 227
put yourself first, 245–247
rejuvenate and revitalize, 232–233
training and development, 247–249
Perspective, 169–170
Pert, Candace B., 165
Pesky imperfections, 234–235
Petty annoyances, 3–5
Phinney, Davis, 237
Physical activity/exercise, 239–241
Plateauing, 195
Play more, 275–276
Pleasurable habits, 8–11
Positive attitude, 27–29
Power nap, 187–188
Power of Less, The (Babauta), 186
Power of thought, 281–282
Procrastination, 113–118
can’t find the time, 116
do it now!, 109–110
do one small piece at a time, 116–117
don’t know how, 115–116
don’t like the task, 113–115
fear, 118
need time to mull things over, 117–118
unpleasant tasks first, 117
wealth destroyer, 84
wrong goal/wrong strategy, 116
Professional image consultant, 229, 231
“Project,” 186
Protect your stuff, 89–92
Protect yourself gracefully, 17–20
Psychology of Optimal Experience, The (Csikszentmihalyi), 97
Punctuality, 100–101
Purpose in life, 167–168
Put yourself first, 245–247
Quality of life. See Personal improvement
Quayle, Dan, 33
Questions, 224
Rabelais, Françoise, 227
Radical change, 194–197
Rancor or resentment, 126
Random Walk Down Wall Street, A (Malkiel), 89
“Reading” folder, 104
Reiki massage, 236
Rejuvenate and revitalize, 232–233
Relationships, 121–146
ask for what you really want, 130–133
communication. See Communication
community of friends, 138–140
date your spouse, 136–137
do complete work, 112
don’t divulge intimate details too soon, 207
emotional needs, 127–129
family/close friends, 134–135
forgiveness, 125–126
gift giving, 143–144
make amends, 122–124
mastermind group, 141–142
thank-you notes, 145–146
upgrade your network, 57–58
you can’t force someone to like you, 267
Relaxation, 252
Renter’s insurance, 89
Reserve account, 79–80
Reserve of time, 100–101
Resources (books, websites, etc.), 293–298
Responding immediately, 109
Retreat from your life, 169–170
Revocable living trust, 90
Ries, Eric, 192
Ripple effect, 245
Risks, 273–274
Robin, Vicki, 85
Rogers, Will, 232
Roosevelt, Eleanor, 17
Roseanne (TV), 141
Rude remarks, 22
Russian athletes, 237
Ryan, Richard, 73
Sabbath, 250–251
Sabbatical, 171–173
Sabotaging yourself, 255
Sacred evening, 119–120
Safe-deposit box, 91
Salary comparisons, 76
Salary increases, 76–77
Salvation Army, 294
Sanctuaries: The Complete United States: A Guide to Lodgings in Monasteries, Abbeys, and Retreats (Kelly/Kelly), 169
Saving, 81–84
Say no, 53–56
Schaef, Anne Wilson, 164
Scrapbook, 149
Secret Law of Attraction, The (Miedaner), 129, 195
Self-confidence, 21
Self-employment, 77–78
Self-evaluation, 77
Self-improvement. See Personal improvement
Selfishness, 245–247
Setting goals. See Goal setting
Setting up systems, 40
Shop online, 48
“Shoulds,” 12–14
Simplify your life, 47–48
Simplify Your Life (St. James), 47
Single-taskers v. multitaskers, 107
Sitting and thinking, 188
Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success, The (Olson), 192
Small changes, 191–193
Smith, Betty, 51
Smith, Manuel J., 55
Sockman, Ralph W., 8
Socrates, 263
Sod’s Law, 89
“Some day” projects, 43
Spanx undergarments, 168
Special project, 162–163
Special talent, 156–158
Speed Cleaning (Campbell), 102
Spender, J. A., 113
Spending fast, 73–75
Spontaneous gift giving, 143
St. James, Elaine, 47
Standards, 26
Statements, 224
Stein, Gertrude, 81
Sting (rock singer), 138
Stinginess, 246
Stop trying to change people, 221–222
Stowe, Harriet Beecher, 3
Streisand, Barbara, 235
Strengthen your strengths, 176–177
Struggling, 189
Subtle messages, 198–200
Support systems, 51
Support team/mastermind group, 141–142
Supportive community/group, 138–140
Tabloid papers, 6
Tai chi, 14
Take the pressure off, 263–267
Taking care of your best asset. See Personal improvement
Tax-deferred investments, 82
Telephone, 201–202
Term insurance, 89–90
Theme for month (year), 168
Things to look forward to, 30–32
Think and Grow Rich (Hill), 281
“Think tanks,” 188
“Thinking Will Make It So” (Begley), 281
Thought translation device, 281
Time log, 94–96
Time management, 93–120
do complete work, 111–112
“do it now!”, 109–110
do one thing at a time, 106–108
do the job in half the time, 102–103
multitasking, 106–108
oxymoron, 105
procrastination, 113–118. See also Procrastination
punctuality, 100–101
questions to ask, 104
sacred evening, 119–120
time log, 94–96
today’s “musts,” 104–105
track your time, 94–96
TV viewing, 97–99
two-minute rule, 110
To-do list, 182–183
Today’s “musts,” 104–105
Tom Brown’s School Days (Hughes), 30
Tone of voice, 17–18
Touching, 238
Track your time, 94–96
TRAF method, 41
Training and development, 247–249
Trying, 189
Tucker, Sophie, 85
TV viewing, 97–99
12-step programs, 7
Two-minute rule, 110
Unclutter your life, 36–39, 43–44
Underpromise and overdeliver, 101, 180–181
Unique talents and abilities, 156–158
Universal life insurance, 89
Unmet emotional needs, 67, 68, 127–129
Unsolicited advice, 213–214
Unsolicited criticism, 16
Upgrade your network, 57–58. See also Relationships
Vacuum, 33
Values, 152–153
Van Buren, Abigail, 204
Variable life insurance, 89
Vauvenargues, Marquis de, 180
Voice quality, 223
Voltaire, 34
Volunteering, 55–56
Wall calendar, 54
Walters, Donald J., 121
Watching television, 97–99
Waugh, Alec, 93
Weekend (weeklong) retreat, 169–170
Weight loss
caffeine, 6
negative goal, 185
sugar, 7
Weight problem, 235
West, Mae, 109
“What Is Important About Today?” question, 104
What you focus on expands, 260, 268
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty (Smith), 55
Whole life insurance, 89
Will, 90
“Willingness-to-have” muscle, 255
Willingness to learn, 247–249
Winn, Marie, 97
Wonder woman mentality, 51
Woods, Tiger, 176
Work performance, 175–202. See also Career choice/development
delegating, 178–179
do or do not, 189–190
80/20 rule, 175
get unstuck, 191–193
goals, 183–186
jack of all trades/master of none, 176–177
just go out and do it, 189–190
lists, 182–186
power nap, 187–188
radical change, 194–197
small changes, 191–193
strengthen your strengths, 176–177
subtle messages, 198–200
telephone, 201–202
to-do list, 182–183
underpromise and overdeliver, 180–181
Write it down 15 times a day, 258–259
Writings (Thoreau), 57
Yezierska, Anzia, 169
You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought (McWilliams), 262
Your Money or Your Life (Dominguez/Robin), 85