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When my husband and I hired a life coach to facilitate the writing of our life mission
statements, it became one of the greatest clarifying exercises I’ve ever done.
Revealing Yourself Through Design Decisions
My husband, on the other hand, found his verb in the
second column and didn’t need to continue. When he
revealed his verb, our worlds suddenly made sense.
We’re as opposite as two individuals could be. His life
verb was “relax.” Finally, it made sense why we both
wanted to approach vacations, finances, child-rearing,
and business differently.
If we were to express our life mission statements visually,
they would be very different. One might consider this a
type of personal brand. Mine would have colors that are
fiery and passionate while his would be serene. My type-
face would be big block letters so the troops can read the
flag in battle, whereas his would be a script font overlaying
a putting green. You get the point. The design decisions
you make represent you and feed your audience’s per-
ceptions of who you are.
It also enriched our marriage. The coach guided us
through several exercises, peeling back our psychologi-
cal layers like an onion, to reveal our core values—the
most critical element of a life mission statement. At its
heart, it comes down to what you value, what you do,
and for whom you do it.
One of the exercises involved scanning several pages of
verbs to uncover how we perceived our individual moti-
vations: after all, the most important component of the
life statement is the verb. Out of the entire list, we were
asked to narrow our selections to three. Unfortunately,
after perusing the list I began to panic because I couldn’t
find my verbs anywhere. I always felt I was different
but even with hundreds of verbs I didn’t want to settle.
I got a bit choked up and apologized for being odd.
The coach asked me what my verbs were and without
blinking I said, “conquer and liberate.” He thought those
choices were great. Was he kidding?